Does my boyfriend have a paranoid personality?

i had a schizophrenic boyfriend once, and he was very similar to that. schizophrenia is a super serious mental disorder and your guy is showing symptoms of it, so I would recommend taking him to a psychiatrist or doctor or something to get checked out. be careful about though cause he probably won't want to. schizophrenia can definitely be stress induced.

Paranoid syndrome!!! it will only get worse! No the CIA is not out to get you dude & no the worlds not against you or out to get you. Get Out!!! There are plenty fish in the sea. This ones no good it's poisionous!

I hope you left him. Job helps but it nvr gets better. Ever. Please don't stay with him

i've been dating a guy for about 3 months now, before that we spoke over skype, viber, whatsapp and fb...we met online, we're both into same work-modeling, but he is working in his home country while I traveled a lot...we're both young and he's a very good looking guy...at first when we started talking, he was so sweet but kinda too simple...all the time the same things he wrote to me and in the beggining I wasnt so interested in him...he seemed kinda...well lets just say didnt seem to bright. When we started talking over skype I kinda started falling for him, even though right before meeting him I got out of a really bad emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship and I wasnt really feeling ready for another relationship...So i wasnt really sure about the whole thing, but I feel like Im more similar to guys when it comes to relationship, Im reserved, sometimes distanced, need my own space and my alone time with my friends..its what makes me happy and keeps me on track. Also, I loved smoking weed and I smoked ciggarettes in the beggining and he told me its not a problem, he loves my honesty about it and he even told me he will smoke weed with me...he comes from a country where its not acceptable for girls to do this kind of things so I was pleasently surprised at his openness....shortly after, I visited him in his country and stayed there for 2 and a half months cuz I wasnt able to extend my visa, I didnt work good...i remember him being so nice and sweet over skype but when we met in person, he started putting more and more control on me. he was using his bad moods to manipulate me into thinking i did something wrong to him, i embarrassed him in front of his friends cuz I smoke ciggarettes and had one beer (which btw he bought for me!!!), then he demanded my fb, skype & mail password cuz at that time I had a lot of guy friends and tbh some of them did like me, but I never looked at them in that way and they knew that and respected that. I even bragged about him to them! so after the passwords drama, he started reading my messages on fb every day, he found something new to accuse me of everyday,even though at the time we spoke even via skype, I wasnt quite sure it was serious because he wasnt really my kind of guy, too simple in words and seemingly not interesting person...but because he was very nice to me I started seeing his good sides. I admit I slept with guys and spoke with guys and went to dinners with them before I met him in person, but at that time , I was using cocaine so some things were invietable...Im off drugs now, and after we entered a relationship I never did anything similar behind his back! I stopped smoking everything, stopped talking to guys, I just put my whole attention to him but I see it will never be enough for him. He accusses me of secretly talking to guys and then deleting messages, he's saying I have to much sex drive in myself so it makes him scared, he's accusing me of not caring about his work, about his love for me, I turned down jobs and jobs because he wasnt happy with the way clients talked to me, or he was saying they just want to f**k me...he goes to my fb every day and reads my inbox before I do, print screens the conversations he has something to say about and then later we argue about those convos, even though they happened before we were together. He is so paranoid, wants me to take photos of my food if im eating out, wants me to take photos of my family members and me If Im hanging out with some of them, he wakes me up at crazy times and then gets hurt and angry If i ask him why he doesnt let me sleep...he's always using guilt to manipulate me, for instance, he will say something like : if u really loved me, you would let me wake u up anytime for any reason. If u really love me, u wouldnt feel the need to talk to any guy for anything. he wants me to buy and wear the things he likes on me, he bought me earrings & now I should wear them all the time, even if they dont fit on the outfit at all...there are so many things, Im starting to feel so tired and drained...he can be so caring and loving, funny and loveable, but these things he does are really annoying and we started to fight almost every day about small things...Im getting worried about my mental health,because Im going through a very stressful period of my life and I feel alone. I feel like my anger towards him is building up more & more and I really dont want to become that kind of person...he can be very aggressive in sex, one time he bit my lip so hard I instictively slapped him to let it go..the second time i slapped him, he woke me up 2am after I didnt sleep the previous night as well cuz we were fighting and then he tortured me mentally for two more hours, in the morning I was so stressed, tired and exhausted mentally, we started fighting again & I slapped him again.. I really dont like the person Im turning into when Im around him,I was never like this in my whole life...to anyone...I dont know what to do anymore, my whole family loves him, esp my mom, he even talks to her & texts her, but I feel he's putting an act in front of my friends and family and then again turns to this paranoid annoying person when he's around me...not always ofcourse, like i said, he's an amazing individual, but we're fighting more and more, and I do have needs to talk to other people, and my work is the kind of work where u do have to talk with a lot of people and hangout with them so they call u for jobs and u get recognized in that circle of people...I dont know how is this going to work.

You have to be kidden, all of you. RUN, run like hell. Unless you are that desperate. Then stay and have miserable maybe even short life.

Please help me my boyfriend and I have been together for 5yrs. In fact he lives with me I love him dearly , he's great nice and a family man, that's why I fell in love with him. About 2 yrs ago he would cause me of sleeping with other men, saying I'm having sex on the job, you name it he's said it. I need help and or advice

i have just come out of quite an abusive relationship with a man who is 28,im 19 so there are a few years apart. we had been together 7 months, to start with everything was lovely in the start of the relationship. he seemed very loving, caring, fun, just overly charming, nothing seemed wrong with him too good to be true it seemed. a few months in he started getting jealous and 'paranoid' with interactions that involved any other male, to start with i shook it off thinking it was good that he was showing signs of a little jealousy because i thought it showed he cared. things got much worse when he found out i wanted to work in the adult industry as a cam model, it was purely for extra cash, i was a self employed beauty therapist but i was making enough money. i had a test shoot with a photographer that i knew well and trusted, it was in the comfort of my own home as well. earlier during the day i had my partner over for tea as we spent the day together, i told him he had to leave at about 6/7ish as my mum had plans. my mum decided that she wanted to the same as there were a lot of financial issues. my partner was very unsure why he needed to leave and felt like i had planned something, he asked me continuous questions and were making things difficult.

he was reluctant to leave but i persuaded him. i felt awful that i just could not trust him enough to tell him about my career choice. i was getting ready to do my first shoot and as i sat down doing my makeup dressed up, there was a bang on the kitchen door and i darted up stairs in shock because i knew it was him. apparently he had lost his wallet but he had been spying on me through the window before he made us aware of his appearance. i was in so much shock he would not leave as he was requested.it wasnt the first time he had turned up unninvited. we finally got him to leave but he kept calling and texting i tried to ignore it but he told me he had crashed his car after drink driving after the incident, apparently he was picked up and he had concussion so he was at the hospital to get checked out according to him his mum picked him up and his car. we had been continuously arguing about the situations but i stopped further more in the work ethnic. we met up a few days later to talk things over and to sort things out, there was strangely no damage to his car but i thought nothing of it. a few weeks past and we planned to move in together, it happened so quick, i didnt really get the chance to tell family members. i was really excited i thought it was a start of a new beginning so we started to settle in, it was the first time i fled the nest. as i got myself sorted and sorted myself a beauty job i was chuffed to bits after spending a few weeks alone in the flat while my partner worked.

he accused me of the guy upstairs trying it on with me which was supposedly his mate but i heard nothing but bad things about him, i saw no attraction besides the point.... i was a little bit confused to why he thought that.it seemed to be all the issues was and that we would argue about when i was unemployed. my partner and i were enjoying starting our life together though but while i was unemployed he was asking me who i was talking to online, texting and if i had been out to see any other guy which was never the case as i didnt know anyone in the area. accusations got worse and worse each week till i started the job. we had full blown arguments over his insecurities of other guys and the cam work would always get brought up even though i was trying to move on i just couldnt understand why he wasnt. whenever i met up with friends and family he would accuse me of all sorts of things. these things were eating at me and i told my mum bits and she was concerned. he would call over and over and text and texts with threats, violent behaviour till the point where i had to turn my phone off or let the battery go.

my job was very stressful i was chucked at the deep end doing things i wasnt confident in or trained in which was confusing for me, i worked long hours in a very busy salon. i would come home incredibly exhausted and just as soon as i hit the pillow i would pass out. the intimacy in the relationship dropped where i was just so tired and stressed, he would suggest sex but i just didnt have the energy. 3 weeks later i ended up losing the job as they just weren't willing to invest time on me. i was really upset and stressed and it had a big impact on the intimate side of things in the relationship, he sexually assaulted me a couple of times where i refused to have sex and he just wouldnt take no for an answer. carried on touching me against my will until i didnt have the energy to stop him. i didnt understand why he was doing this to me and i just felt numb. a lot of the type i thought there was something mentally wrong with him, he thought i was crazy for thinking that. he wasnt behaving normally. i then got pregnant but didnt find out till 2-3 weeks he asked if the baby was his but there was no way it could be anyone elses as i was never out of his sight. he would come home from work if we had an argument just to check up on me.


my mum had more concerns because she didnt hear from me at all and it was to do with him because i rarely went on my phone to avoid conflict with him. my mum and him fell out due to his behaviour. she had contacted the police as she knew something was not right and she strongly thought it was domestic abuse. i knew something was wrong but i didnt see it as that so i spoke to them they could see issues but it was nothing they could deal with but then a few days later everything was beginning to add up and i told them everything including him forcing himself upon me. everything just fell apart between him and i because he refused to acknowledge he needed help as he was showing signs of mental health issues. its completely destroyed our relationship because hes in denial, i tried helping him to realise this behaviour wasnt normal. i just hope he will but all just too late. being with someone mentally ill can put you in great danger even when they are in denial, i hope my situation helps you recognise warning signs, if they dont get help and a diagnosis don't stay because they will not change.

I've worked with the mentally ill for years and have mentally ill relatives. My advice to you is get the hell out. If he won't get help or take medication, don't be an id**t. Nobody can help him if he doesn't receive professional help. Don't be another statistic my dear.

I'm 54 years old and finally found a life partner. His bouts of jealousy early on were a red flag, but I tried to reassure him and tolerate it. I knew that he had thoughts and ideas that were not true, but also that they were true for him. I was empathetic, because I knew he was the one for me. After a year, the accusations got worse, and we were breaking up on a regular basis. Then a mutual friend told me he was paranoid. I looked it up and cried and cried and realized this was the problem. I take some blame too, it takes two, but the problem is the situation only gets worse. It will become unbearable, and he will convince you that you are cruel and hateful; that your "scheme" to hurt him has worked, that you've "won". Life is too short to continue in a relationship like this, you have to end it. It is a dead end, and they probably won't admit they need help. We all deserve to be trusted and believed in a true, honest relationship. It is so painful, but I feel free.

Leave and go to the police now!

I was in a similar situation, also with family problems. He also had a drug problem and has schizophrenia. He always talked over me like you claim you;re boyfriend did. He always thought I was hiding something and thought I was cheating. I was not, He thought the neighbors were watching him and I was part of the KGB. I would speak to a family member of his if you can trust him and encourage him to see a doctor.

Run now just saying this is a narcissistic personality and he has very psychotic personality and is very dangerous my daughter waited 10 yrs god i dont know why but she went from strong woman to she is scared to buy a soda because might be wrong kind to a very scared to even speak to people its a stock holms syndrome and alot of self dought now so run ladys and if they smoke marijuana it makes them worse believe that

This is my life, maybe somewhat worse. At the moment my husband believes that I've have hacked his multiple phones over the years, his Facebook & Messenger, created fake accounts for him & I cheat with men & women. He's obsessed with technology that I know nothing about but he thinks I'm some genius. Supposedly because I'm "cheating" he decided to give & take nude photos again & I caught him. I told him to leave. Now it's bad. We have many many years of this. Sometimes I feel bad for him but I'm just hurt & disgusted now. I've never cheated on him, never hacked him, I'm not going what he thinks. Help!

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Dudeeee sameeeeee !! Like literally same + my boyfriend sees me doing things i did not even see !! I literally said “i wanna put on lipstick” he looks at me and says one last chance