This is really shameful, I feel quite low having to post on an internet site for help, but this is all I have left - any help would be appreciated.
I'm 20 years old. I used to be confident, charismatic, girls liked me. Now I have a problem that is getting me down.
For about 3 years I've had dry flaky (relatively painless but certainly unattractive) skin on the top of my penis only when erect. I also have a tight band that makes my penis look like an hourglass after masturbation. I'm not sure if the two things are connected; I'm guessing so since the dry skin sort of starts from this band. When flacid, my penis isn't dry, although I find that rubbing the penis head allows rolls of soft smeggy skin to come off - regardless of whether I've just washed it or its the end of the day. The band is there flacid or erect, and usually breaks to form lots of little cuts when erect; slightly more painful.
I've read about Phimosis, that seems like a possibility, although I've never heard anything about dryness related to that, and also, the band doesn't stop me pulling my foreskin back - though doesn't make it easy.
I went to see a supposed specialist at an NHS hospital, a couple of times over the last year or so, and after giving me some creams (including steriod cream and antibiotics) she has said I "could try circumcission" to see if that gets rid of the dry skin.
Now, I'm not particularly fond on 'trying circumcission' if I know it won't cure this problem, wihch has now taken over my life, and destroyed my sex life completely (it looks horrible, I don't want anyone to see it). I like having a foreskin, its part of my identity (ok a small part, but its just who I am), and I really don't know how circumsized men go about masturbating since my foreskin plays a pretty crucial part as far as I can see (wasn't circumcision invented to prevent masturbation?). So I don't know what to do? It feels like I'm the only person who has this exact issue. Please help!
I'm 20 years old. I used to be confident, charismatic, girls liked me. Now I have a problem that is getting me down.
For about 3 years I've had dry flaky (relatively painless but certainly unattractive) skin on the top of my penis only when erect. I also have a tight band that makes my penis look like an hourglass after masturbation. I'm not sure if the two things are connected; I'm guessing so since the dry skin sort of starts from this band. When flacid, my penis isn't dry, although I find that rubbing the penis head allows rolls of soft smeggy skin to come off - regardless of whether I've just washed it or its the end of the day. The band is there flacid or erect, and usually breaks to form lots of little cuts when erect; slightly more painful.
I've read about Phimosis, that seems like a possibility, although I've never heard anything about dryness related to that, and also, the band doesn't stop me pulling my foreskin back - though doesn't make it easy.
I went to see a supposed specialist at an NHS hospital, a couple of times over the last year or so, and after giving me some creams (including steriod cream and antibiotics) she has said I "could try circumcission" to see if that gets rid of the dry skin.
Now, I'm not particularly fond on 'trying circumcission' if I know it won't cure this problem, wihch has now taken over my life, and destroyed my sex life completely (it looks horrible, I don't want anyone to see it). I like having a foreskin, its part of my identity (ok a small part, but its just who I am), and I really don't know how circumsized men go about masturbating since my foreskin plays a pretty crucial part as far as I can see (wasn't circumcision invented to prevent masturbation?). So I don't know what to do? It feels like I'm the only person who has this exact issue. Please help!
If you feel that not being circumcised is important to you, do not do it. I think it's an irreversible life decision and you should not do it if it's going to put you at risk of hurting your identity. I think that you might want to see a urologist who is male and see what he thinks about it instead. What do you think?
Yes agreed with health guy, go and find another urologist. This one sounds like she's poking around and doesn't really know whats going on. Is she straight out of uni or experienced?
I can agree with you that I've not really heard of dryness associated with phimosis, not that that means it doesn't occur though. The steroid cream is generally used to help with stretching the foreskin to combat phimosis. Has she told you to do any stretching exercises?
And never go for a circumcision on one doctor's say so. Its a rather drastic measure to cure something like this. Its like I've got a skin infection on my finger, I know, why not amputate my hand that'll cure it. >:(
On a side note, you was brave getting it out for a female doctor. Would never keep it down ;-)
I can agree with you that I've not really heard of dryness associated with phimosis, not that that means it doesn't occur though. The steroid cream is generally used to help with stretching the foreskin to combat phimosis. Has she told you to do any stretching exercises?
And never go for a circumcision on one doctor's say so. Its a rather drastic measure to cure something like this. Its like I've got a skin infection on my finger, I know, why not amputate my hand that'll cure it. >:(
On a side note, you was brave getting it out for a female doctor. Would never keep it down ;-)
Well, I'm a little late getting in here. I made a shortcut to it and lost the shortcut amongst all the others on my desktop.
Have you tried the stretching techniques described on this site?
I had the same problem, including the little cuts when it got stretched.
Here's my story from an earlier post:
"After I got married and was having sex every night I got tired of waking up in the morning with a stretched and sore foreskin and decided to take the matter in my own hands. I used to insert two fingers into the tip while I was in the shower and spread them to stretch it wider. I eventually got up to three fingers and it was stretched enough so it retracted back easily and didn't hurt any more if it was back when I got erect. This took several months to do. I would stretch it as far as I could stand it and hold it for as long as I could stand it. After I got it so it went back comfortably, I worked on stretching it so it would go all the way back to the base. The stretching always led to an erection so I was forced to masturbate a lot while I was working on it. It's a dirty job but someone has to do it. If you can get a girl to help you it's much better as they have soft fingers."
Bambi27 also has a technique that involves oil that probably works well too.
https://www.steadyhealth.com/topics/cant-pull-foreskin-back-at-13&highlight=
Is the dry skin on the glans or the foreskin? I think the constant healing of the little cuts would probably cause dry flaky skin.
The apparent smegma coating on your glans that you can rub off with your fingers is something I used to have too. It was always an annoyance to have to clean that off before I masturbated. I used to pull my foreskin back and dry rub my penis when I masturbated and that stuff had to be cleaned off so my hand and fingers could glide over it without sticking (ouch). I used rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball to clean it off. As I got older there wasn't as much smegma and and when I was about 60 it disappeared altogether.
Some sadistic doctors and church people used to recommend hacking off the foreskin to prevent masturbation. It certainly wouldn't have worked for me, as I prefer dry rubbing it with my foreskin pulled back tight anyway. I think they were really just sadistic perverts who enjoyed the thought and probably watching that being done to little boys to make sure it was "done right" or checking it afterwards.
I love my foreskin and would never want to lose it but if you do decide to do that be sure to research it well to figure out what type you want --- yes there ARE different styles ---, and find a doctor who will work with you to give you the style you want. There is one style called "high and tight" that puts the scar way up the shaft, far from the glans and preserves most of the inner foreskin. To me that would be very important as the inner skin is a vital part of sex due to being stretch sensitive.
For Kingfreeze, I saw your note about the female doctor.
Today, I would prefer a female doctor. I really would object to having a male doctor examine my penis or touch it but I didn't always feel that way. I got over being embarassed when I was in the army.
1) I went to the hospital when I hurt my back. They put me in a hot whirlpool bath. I had my choice of being naked or having wet underpants to wear when I left. I chose naked. After a few minutes the cutest little blond girl I had ever seen showed up to massage my back and oversee my whirlpool session. She got to look at my erection all the time she was there.
2) I need to explain how army hospitals were built for this one. There is/was a long corridor section at the front with wings sticking out from the back looking like pigs lined up at a sows nipples. To get from one wing to another you have to walk out into the front connecting section and go to the wing you want.
We were all extended past our enlistment date because of the building of the Berlin Wall so we had to go for new physical exams. Our first one expired at the end of our 3 year enlistment. They gathered us all in one wing where we stripped naked and left our clothes in lockers, hanging the locker key around our necks. Then we had to go to different wings for different parts of the exam. This involved walking naked through the connecting front section. The only problem was that the front connecting section being the entrance, was also inhabited by the public and soldier's dependents such as wives and children, who were using the hospital. It's almost impossible to hide behind a locker key even when someone's ten year old daughter and her mother are coming at you.
The army has no shame. We weren't men, we were soldiers.
Our barracks had nothing to cover the windows so when you walked naked from your bunk to the showers you passed all the windows where anyone outside could see in. My girl friend (the colonel's daughter) used to tell me about she and another colonel's daughter driving around Fort Bragg at night to see how many naked guys they could see in the barracks.
Funny though, the army had a double standard. The WACs barracks windows were painted black so WE couldn't see in.
After I got home at the age of 22, I was hired by Raytheon, where they make missiles. For the pre-employment physical they sent me into a little room and said get naked and a doctor will be in soon. In walked a female nurse to do the physical. That was in 1962.
Today my nurse practitioner (substitute for a doctor) at the VA is a really cute blond woman in her 40s named Heidi. The first appointment I had with her about 12 years ago she had me drop em and bend over the table for a prostate check. The Ooo! Oooo! test o.O While she had her finger in there she exclaimed: Oh you have a nice little one ! I recovered from my first thought that she was talking about what was hanging down and realized she meant my prostate. I replied that I was just thinking the same thing about her finger. This was the first time I had a female stick her finger in there, it was always a male doctor with BIG fingers and I really appreciated her small finger. She got a kick out of my reply and we have had a good relationship ever since.
Last year at my physical, she had a young girl with her who was in training of some sort who did the exam at her instruction, so it took a little longer while she explained to her what she was supposed to be feeling in there. Ditto when she fondled my testicles looking for cancerous lumps. So I'm getting quite used to being examined by females, and I like it much better than by males.
Except for that time in the army whirpool, I've never had a problem with getting an erection during the exams. I think it's probably because it's not for fun, it's an exam. Of course I WAS a teen at the time of the whirlpool and she WAS a beautiful teenaged medic. AND she was massaging me 8-| :-S
Have you tried the stretching techniques described on this site?
I had the same problem, including the little cuts when it got stretched.
Here's my story from an earlier post:
"After I got married and was having sex every night I got tired of waking up in the morning with a stretched and sore foreskin and decided to take the matter in my own hands. I used to insert two fingers into the tip while I was in the shower and spread them to stretch it wider. I eventually got up to three fingers and it was stretched enough so it retracted back easily and didn't hurt any more if it was back when I got erect. This took several months to do. I would stretch it as far as I could stand it and hold it for as long as I could stand it. After I got it so it went back comfortably, I worked on stretching it so it would go all the way back to the base. The stretching always led to an erection so I was forced to masturbate a lot while I was working on it. It's a dirty job but someone has to do it. If you can get a girl to help you it's much better as they have soft fingers."
Bambi27 also has a technique that involves oil that probably works well too.
https://www.steadyhealth.com/topics/cant-pull-foreskin-back-at-13&highlight=
Is the dry skin on the glans or the foreskin? I think the constant healing of the little cuts would probably cause dry flaky skin.
The apparent smegma coating on your glans that you can rub off with your fingers is something I used to have too. It was always an annoyance to have to clean that off before I masturbated. I used to pull my foreskin back and dry rub my penis when I masturbated and that stuff had to be cleaned off so my hand and fingers could glide over it without sticking (ouch). I used rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball to clean it off. As I got older there wasn't as much smegma and and when I was about 60 it disappeared altogether.
Some sadistic doctors and church people used to recommend hacking off the foreskin to prevent masturbation. It certainly wouldn't have worked for me, as I prefer dry rubbing it with my foreskin pulled back tight anyway. I think they were really just sadistic perverts who enjoyed the thought and probably watching that being done to little boys to make sure it was "done right" or checking it afterwards.
I love my foreskin and would never want to lose it but if you do decide to do that be sure to research it well to figure out what type you want --- yes there ARE different styles ---, and find a doctor who will work with you to give you the style you want. There is one style called "high and tight" that puts the scar way up the shaft, far from the glans and preserves most of the inner foreskin. To me that would be very important as the inner skin is a vital part of sex due to being stretch sensitive.
For Kingfreeze, I saw your note about the female doctor.
Today, I would prefer a female doctor. I really would object to having a male doctor examine my penis or touch it but I didn't always feel that way. I got over being embarassed when I was in the army.
1) I went to the hospital when I hurt my back. They put me in a hot whirlpool bath. I had my choice of being naked or having wet underpants to wear when I left. I chose naked. After a few minutes the cutest little blond girl I had ever seen showed up to massage my back and oversee my whirlpool session. She got to look at my erection all the time she was there.
2) I need to explain how army hospitals were built for this one. There is/was a long corridor section at the front with wings sticking out from the back looking like pigs lined up at a sows nipples. To get from one wing to another you have to walk out into the front connecting section and go to the wing you want.
We were all extended past our enlistment date because of the building of the Berlin Wall so we had to go for new physical exams. Our first one expired at the end of our 3 year enlistment. They gathered us all in one wing where we stripped naked and left our clothes in lockers, hanging the locker key around our necks. Then we had to go to different wings for different parts of the exam. This involved walking naked through the connecting front section. The only problem was that the front connecting section being the entrance, was also inhabited by the public and soldier's dependents such as wives and children, who were using the hospital. It's almost impossible to hide behind a locker key even when someone's ten year old daughter and her mother are coming at you.
The army has no shame. We weren't men, we were soldiers.
Our barracks had nothing to cover the windows so when you walked naked from your bunk to the showers you passed all the windows where anyone outside could see in. My girl friend (the colonel's daughter) used to tell me about she and another colonel's daughter driving around Fort Bragg at night to see how many naked guys they could see in the barracks.
Funny though, the army had a double standard. The WACs barracks windows were painted black so WE couldn't see in.
After I got home at the age of 22, I was hired by Raytheon, where they make missiles. For the pre-employment physical they sent me into a little room and said get naked and a doctor will be in soon. In walked a female nurse to do the physical. That was in 1962.
Today my nurse practitioner (substitute for a doctor) at the VA is a really cute blond woman in her 40s named Heidi. The first appointment I had with her about 12 years ago she had me drop em and bend over the table for a prostate check. The Ooo! Oooo! test o.O While she had her finger in there she exclaimed: Oh you have a nice little one ! I recovered from my first thought that she was talking about what was hanging down and realized she meant my prostate. I replied that I was just thinking the same thing about her finger. This was the first time I had a female stick her finger in there, it was always a male doctor with BIG fingers and I really appreciated her small finger. She got a kick out of my reply and we have had a good relationship ever since.
Last year at my physical, she had a young girl with her who was in training of some sort who did the exam at her instruction, so it took a little longer while she explained to her what she was supposed to be feeling in there. Ditto when she fondled my testicles looking for cancerous lumps. So I'm getting quite used to being examined by females, and I like it much better than by males.
Except for that time in the army whirpool, I've never had a problem with getting an erection during the exams. I think it's probably because it's not for fun, it's an exam. Of course I WAS a teen at the time of the whirlpool and she WAS a beautiful teenaged medic. AND she was massaging me 8-| :-S
Great post as usual, njoynlife :-D
I haven't been through the 'Ooo! Oooo!' test yet, but I can imagine it would be better with little fingers. And I think you're right about it being an exam, that kind of stuff is the last thing on your mind when you're in there.
I haven't been through the 'Ooo! Oooo!' test yet, but I can imagine it would be better with little fingers. And I think you're right about it being an exam, that kind of stuff is the last thing on your mind when you're in there.
you have phismosis