can anybody help me with these gay thoughts, i aint out to upset anyone, a genuine person going through alot of depression, having these thoughts 24/7
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I'm not sure what gay thoughts have to do with depression, but I think the important question is, how do you feel about what you're thinking?
It's important to give your mind free reign to explore these thoughts. Speaking strictly for myself, thinking through thoughts about gay sex only makes me more certain that I'm not gay, but if I didn't allow myself to explore them, I wouldn't know that. If your exploration leads you to a different conclusion, that's okay too.
What's really important is finding out who you are, not who your parents, church, neighbors, last girlfriend or anybody else expects you to be. You'll never be happy unless you let yourself be who you really are. If you're feeling conflicted about it, you need to sort out where all these different voices are coming from, and only listen to the ones that come from your own soul.
It's important to give your mind free reign to explore these thoughts. Speaking strictly for myself, thinking through thoughts about gay sex only makes me more certain that I'm not gay, but if I didn't allow myself to explore them, I wouldn't know that. If your exploration leads you to a different conclusion, that's okay too.
What's really important is finding out who you are, not who your parents, church, neighbors, last girlfriend or anybody else expects you to be. You'll never be happy unless you let yourself be who you really are. If you're feeling conflicted about it, you need to sort out where all these different voices are coming from, and only listen to the ones that come from your own soul.
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its just i have being with 7 women, and currentyly have a girlfriend, never being with a man, and my girlfreind says that i will never go with amna due to it nor being in my nature, but thrse thougths seem like i want to do it
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Do you enjoy sex with women, or do you feel there's something missing?
Is it possible that you're bi?
When your girlfriend says it's not in your nature to be interested in men, what does she base that on? I think she probably has a conflict of interest. She probably doesn't want to lose you, and there's this stigma attached to being a guy's last straight relationship.
One way to explore your feelings might be to ask your gf if she would consider a threesome, but this is very risky. I had a girlfriend once who told me she was curious about having sex with a woman, so I called a bi friend whom I'd had sex with and arranged a threesome. I knew there was a chance I'd lose her, but I thought, she's got to be free to explore her feelings, and she's got to be true to herself, and besides, I loooove threesomes (with two women, that is)!
Unfortunately, it didn't go well for my girlfriend. She not only decided she wasn't into women, but she got very freaked out and jealous because my friend and I hadn't been with each other in ages and we really got into it.
Your only other options are to break with your gf so you can have some space to sort out your feelings or to go behind your girlfriend's back, which would be totally unethical.
You've got some tough choices and serious soul-searching ahead of you, but it's something you're going to have to face sooner or later. I can't really give you any more specific advice because I don't have much insight about what it's like to discover that you're gay or bi or how to tell the difference. All I know is second-hand from gay friends who've told me about their experiences. If you have some friends who are gay you might want to talk with them. If not, look for a book called Growing Up Gay. It might give you some insights.
Good luck!
Is it possible that you're bi?
When your girlfriend says it's not in your nature to be interested in men, what does she base that on? I think she probably has a conflict of interest. She probably doesn't want to lose you, and there's this stigma attached to being a guy's last straight relationship.
One way to explore your feelings might be to ask your gf if she would consider a threesome, but this is very risky. I had a girlfriend once who told me she was curious about having sex with a woman, so I called a bi friend whom I'd had sex with and arranged a threesome. I knew there was a chance I'd lose her, but I thought, she's got to be free to explore her feelings, and she's got to be true to herself, and besides, I loooove threesomes (with two women, that is)!
Unfortunately, it didn't go well for my girlfriend. She not only decided she wasn't into women, but she got very freaked out and jealous because my friend and I hadn't been with each other in ages and we really got into it.
Your only other options are to break with your gf so you can have some space to sort out your feelings or to go behind your girlfriend's back, which would be totally unethical.
You've got some tough choices and serious soul-searching ahead of you, but it's something you're going to have to face sooner or later. I can't really give you any more specific advice because I don't have much insight about what it's like to discover that you're gay or bi or how to tell the difference. All I know is second-hand from gay friends who've told me about their experiences. If you have some friends who are gay you might want to talk with them. If not, look for a book called Growing Up Gay. It might give you some insights.
Good luck!
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but my girlfriend isnt like, she is the one that always says to me, i wouldnt be tellin gyou this if iut wasnt true, she says if i had the slightest bit of curiousty that you were gay or bi she would tell me, i have being on this hocd site before and they i had this disease, and i hit all the main points, aniexty, 24/7 thinking about it, for you to reply and say reading a big called growing up being gay, gives me some indication that you think i might be bi or gay, which i can understand that due to what i said. Yes sometimes i do feel when i have sex with her that there is something missing, but doing it witha guy surely wud be the same thing i bet. i mean i have being with like 7 women and have always loved women but now getting the feeling that there might be some attraction towards men, but then when i think abut it i cant imagine myself having a relationship with a man. Once again u say my girlfriend maybe be holding back due to you saying i.e me could be my last staright relationship, dont you think that i kinda ov false to say that due to she would never lie to me or hurt me to keep me like that, and lie to me
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She wouldn't be lying if she believes what she's saying, but she doesn't know what's inside your head. You just can't tell if another person is gay unless they tell you. There are millions of women out there who have been married to gay men for years and never suspected a thing until something happened. In some cases their husbands concealed their sexual orientation, in others they either didn't realize it themselves or were living in denial. So Your girlfriend might be sure about your sexual orientation, but she might be wrong. How could she know something that you don't even know yourself?
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You might, be bisexual, like how all the other people above me said..
As for your girlfriend... Sweetie, honestly, she isn't you. You need to do one thing, and that's just, push yourself away. Sit down, and think. You know what it's like to be with a women.. Does being with a man, arouse you? Do you think it'd make you happy? Is it something you'd want to try? Can you go through life if you never confront this? What if you are gay?
I have a great friend.. And he's come out, as being gay. He dated MANY girls before he came out.. And when he did start, getting the thoughts and urges about men, he tried to avoid them. He kept with women, and it made him unhappier then ever. I'm not saying your gay, although if you are all the power to you!, I'm just saying.. Hiding this, and not thinking, and not exploring could really make you depressed...
Nothing is wrong with having thoughts about the same sex. I'm a girl, and honestly.. I have TONS of thoughts about girls. I've expected I'm bisexual. I'm not so open about it, but I know I am, and I'm ok with that. Do what I said, sit and think.. Just be yourself. We only have one life, do you want to live it trying to be something you aren't? Or go through it missing out on something that'll make you extremely happy?
As for your girlfriend... Sweetie, honestly, she isn't you. You need to do one thing, and that's just, push yourself away. Sit down, and think. You know what it's like to be with a women.. Does being with a man, arouse you? Do you think it'd make you happy? Is it something you'd want to try? Can you go through life if you never confront this? What if you are gay?
I have a great friend.. And he's come out, as being gay. He dated MANY girls before he came out.. And when he did start, getting the thoughts and urges about men, he tried to avoid them. He kept with women, and it made him unhappier then ever. I'm not saying your gay, although if you are all the power to you!, I'm just saying.. Hiding this, and not thinking, and not exploring could really make you depressed...
Nothing is wrong with having thoughts about the same sex. I'm a girl, and honestly.. I have TONS of thoughts about girls. I've expected I'm bisexual. I'm not so open about it, but I know I am, and I'm ok with that. Do what I said, sit and think.. Just be yourself. We only have one life, do you want to live it trying to be something you aren't? Or go through it missing out on something that'll make you extremely happy?
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thankyou virgin girly that is the type of message i really want to hear from everyone, not the whole sexuality buisness, the sensitivity the i know what u are going through. to be honest hun even though i have these thoughtsin my head 24/7 day in day out and they have cause me so mush depression, thinking thtra i ma ctually that way, saying to myself i am gay and i know, but i see women and i think WOW. do u know what i mean, i mena owmen are hot they are and they have the genitals i wank ovr, dont mean that n a stupid boyish way or anything, but with men as i am now its like i want to feel something inside me analy, its like i need to go try it to find out whats it like, i mean i dont think i could ever be with a man sexually for the rest ov my life or hun, its like i want to go try it though, i went on this site when i first having these thoughts i didnt like them i didnt enjoy them i thought they were idsgusting and wanted them to go away it was something that just came along, and poeople said to me you have hocd and they said TRUST ME ITS HOCD with they way i was talking now my head is in so much confuaion i dont know what to believe
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Hehe. I'm glad I could help!
As for, the need.. or sexual urge, if you want to do it by yourself, try a dildo, or another sex toy they have out there.
If you want to try it with your girlfriend, a strap on could be bought too. That way, you could stay with a girl, but then (If she's ok with it) you could let her play the man, and get the sexual urge you have, quenched.
Or maybe, just go out and find a guy, who would be willing to do something like that with you. (I hope you don't mind me being so, blunt..) But you could receive anal sex, and then give it...
Don't let this get you depressed! It's normal to not want to think you might be bisexual, or gay at first.. But that won't make it go away. Love yourself for who you are. Enjoy your body, and that means doing what arouses you. Either if it's with a woman or a man. You are who you are, and so be it. Don't change yourself.. Gay, Straight, Or Bi, you're beautiful. ;D
As for, the need.. or sexual urge, if you want to do it by yourself, try a dildo, or another sex toy they have out there.
If you want to try it with your girlfriend, a strap on could be bought too. That way, you could stay with a girl, but then (If she's ok with it) you could let her play the man, and get the sexual urge you have, quenched.
Or maybe, just go out and find a guy, who would be willing to do something like that with you. (I hope you don't mind me being so, blunt..) But you could receive anal sex, and then give it...
Don't let this get you depressed! It's normal to not want to think you might be bisexual, or gay at first.. But that won't make it go away. Love yourself for who you are. Enjoy your body, and that means doing what arouses you. Either if it's with a woman or a man. You are who you are, and so be it. Don't change yourself.. Gay, Straight, Or Bi, you're beautiful. ;D
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i know but from what i have being writing i know u cant actually to say my sexuality is but, from what i have being writing to you what do u think i ma, is it possible that i might just be bi curious, or going through a stage in my life where u just wonder what it would be like, my girlfriend has used a dildo on me and i didnt really like it, alot ov staright men like it i have heard, but if i dont like it why do i want it so much huni, i mean i dont think i could ever shag a guy, but then there is something in my head saying i want to do it
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You could be bi curious.. And as for a dildo.. The real thing is always just a little different...
This whole thing is just.. about being yourself, and finding out who you are... Instead of having your girlfriend use the dildo on you, try it yourself. Picture it being whatever is turning you on..
This could be a stage, or.. maybe it's not. Only you know for sure, sweetie.
This whole thing is just.. about being yourself, and finding out who you are... Instead of having your girlfriend use the dildo on you, try it yourself. Picture it being whatever is turning you on..
This could be a stage, or.. maybe it's not. Only you know for sure, sweetie.
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when u say stage what do u mean, just want to thankyou for all ur help, can i ask u are a few questions, are u gay or bi? have u being with any men that like anal sex just with women, is there alot ov guys out there that are staright and like anal sex
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i believe that it all depends on your feelings towards these thoughts..
are they "good" or "bad"? its all down to what you believe and what tv and magazines put into our heads..
everyone concerned: read, and reply your personal oppinion..
https://www.steadyhealth.com/topics/was-a-straight-man-but-now-gay-thoughts-seem-nice-anybody#527346
are they "good" or "bad"? its all down to what you believe and what tv and magazines put into our heads..
everyone concerned: read, and reply your personal oppinion..
https://www.steadyhealth.com/topics/was-a-straight-man-but-now-gay-thoughts-seem-nice-anybody#527346
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just go with your feelings! i know it is VERY scary to think about and it doesn't seem normal because you haven't tested it yet...but just try it. even just holding hands with a guy. you'd be surprised how much you might be able to learn about yourself from just that. you don't have to automatically hook up with a guy to learn more about your interests.
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