Guys: What's it like to have a penis!

Gosh, just remembered I didn't answer you last question. I had a good picture in mind and it was a bit of a turn on, sorry if that made you feel weird, just being honest.

Hi Cay

I think it is good to masturbate often. It has it's benefits.

So you only masturbate when you are alone. Do your parents disapprove of masturbation? Mine never talked much about sex, so I have sort of done it secretly. But I expect they knew, but didn't say anything.

Camel-toes can I suppose be embarrassing (don't be ashamed of your opinions), a bit like seeing the outline of a guys penis. Are you shaved? What do you think about seeing other's camel-toes? What about seeing a guy's 'outline'?

Your room-mate (a girl?) was watching porn and you saw a penis. What exactly did you see? How did you react to that? Was that the only time you watched porn? I am curious.

How did it come about that your aunt 'accidently' showed you a picture of a penis? What was your reaction?

I think it is admirable you haven't yet touched one. It would be very imtimate! My thought is to wait until that someone special comes along, rather than play with just anyone.

Regarding sucking, I guess I figured you hadn't. That is even more intimate than touching! I wondered what you thought it would be like to suck or be sucked, and whether you knew of girl's perspective.

I think this discussion is good because we can talk and learn and share about intimate things safely. Things I would not discuss 'face-to-face' with a girl. So thank you.

I am glad you got a good picture. I obviously described it well! Learning it was a bit of a turn on didn't make me feel weird at all. I think it is natural. And I do like your honesty. It is nice to talk to someone who says what she feels and not what she thinks is expected. (so how did you respond physically?) In fact I got a bit turned on too. But not yet enough to have to masturbate because of it. I hope that doesn't bother you!

Do you ever go 'commando'?

 

 

Dear cay,

When you masterbate do you squirt?

Does squirting wet the whole bed?

Is it possible to have a dry orgasm?

Can you have repeated orgasms?

Well I've never talked to my parents about it, but I think they would disapprove of it anyway. My mom has those days when she's pretty much says life is gonna be hell for me if she finds out I have had sex without being married and out of her house. I mean I'm not ready to have sex anyway. Um if I were to see a camel-toe, I wouldn't think much of it. That's just what that chick likes, so to each it's own. I've actually never seen a guys outline before, but if I did, I'd probably wonder who he was looking at or what he was thinking about. I am shaved currently, I do it every so often. Do guys shave? If so, do you and how often? Yes, my roommate was a girl. We had just finished a class and I was coming up from dinner and she was just watching porn on her laptop. When I first walked in, not sure what was going on so I walked over to her and there it was. It was actually two gay guys hitting it off. So that's how I saw, one was doing the other a b/j. That was my first time watching porn and it was a turn on. Like really, but I heard that it could mess up sex in your future so I didn't watch it after that. How my aunt showed me, it really was an accident. She was showing me pictures on her phone of a party and she didn't realize where they stopped, so there it was. It was kinda fast, because she was like you don't need to see the penis, so it was only a glance, so didn't really affect me. I also agree about this discussion. My biggest fear is to have a conversation like this and weird things start happening like asking for private information. This is just a way for opposite genders to keep up to date on what's happening with the other gender. So thank you too.

I've never squirted, not all girls do. I guess it could wet the entire bed. Yeah, you can orgasm without all the liquid. I can't. After I orgasm, I have to stop for an hour or longer and then try again. I hope I helped!

Nothing physically, sorry. It didn't offend me! It was a turn on, but not enough to masturbate, same deal. No, I've never gone commando. Do you?

Thanks again Cay

Masturbation and having sex outside marriage I think are two completely different things. I think sex outside marriage is wrong, but masturbation is good - excellent, in fact. I think keeping intercourse for marriage will enhance the marriage as I think it is something special. I hate the idea of putting my penis in a vagina that has had several other penises in it, which have also been in several other vaginas.

Guys can have an outline without an erection. Just tighter clothes, or a big or thick penis. Have you never seen an outline in swimwear? I've seen cameltoes in girls' swimwear! That is nice.

Being shaved I would imagine is cleaner for a girl. From pictures I have seen, I think shaven looks much nicer. Does it feel nicer? Some guys shave, but I don't (well, apart from my face).

So the bj was a massive turn on for you! I expect you had to relieve that. (Were the penises you saw circumcised or not? Which do you prefer?) Yes, I believe porn can seriously mess up your sex life, so I also don't watch it. You obviously have those images in mind even now, and I expect the memories are still arousing. So the impact of watching it mustn't be underestimated. BTW I am completely heterosexual.

Wow - a picture on her phone. What was that all about, I wonder?

I agree about the private information thing. We must stay safe online. Never give out any information that could identify you. So if I ask a question that sounds weird, just let me know, and only say what you are comfortable saying. I'll do the same with you. I want to be safe also.

In one way, I sometimes think it would be nice for me to sit face to face with a girl I could trust and talk like this, maybe see each other's bodies, and watch each other masturbate, but without getting sexually involved - but I don't think that would work. So this is a great alternative. Do you feel the same?

What pet names or alternative names do you girls have for your 'girl parts' and our 'boy parts'?

Thanks again

Yeah, it's nice sometimes to be turned on enough to enjoy the arousal, but not so intense it needs dealing with.

I've never gone commando, apart from around the house and garden in just a dressing gown. I think to wear shorts/pants without underwear would mean washing them daily. Girls can wear skirts and allow the air to get to the genitals. I am told it is healthier, and many years ago, women never wore underwear. If you try it, let me know what it feels like for you.

What sort of underwear do you wear? What do you like about them?

No wetness? No engorged clit?

I have seen an outline in a swimwear. I knew the guy and just because its him, he probably had an erection with all the bikinis around. Shaving is clearer and it feels smooth. It also helps prevent unwanted infections and bacteria and other things. It was a massive turn on, but probably because that was the first time I'd ever seen sex. It probably would have been the same if a girl was giving a guy a bj. They weren't circumcised. I guess it wouldn't matter, but wouldn't being uncircumcised be I don't know, better? I wish I would have relieved myself, but I thought it would be embarrassing, so I didn't. My roommate did though. After I finished showering, she locked herself in the bathroom. I could hear, which was beyond weird. Personally, I don't think I could ever have a conversation like this face to face unless it was a boyfriend who I really loved and felt comfortable with or my husband. I'm still wondering if I would tell anyone I masturbated.... I'm just afraid they'd react in a negative way. BTW, I'm heterosexual also! I kinda figured you were, but just in the long run, I have no problems with any sexuality!

It varies between brief and female boxers. I wear them because they're not tight and you have room to breath.

Yes wetness, yes engorged. I'm not really sure how you squirt and how a girl's body can determine if she can or not. I've never done, not to say I never will, my body just hasn't. You do get wet though. When you're aroused, you get wet. You can also pre-cum. After a while, your clit does get engorged, especially when you get close to an orgasm. When I said dry orgasm, I didn't mean there was no wetness involved, cum just doesn't come streaming out. It's there though and does eventually exit the body. It all depends though.

How did you react seeing a boy's outline in swimwear, particularly as you thought he had an erection? Is the thought of a guy having an erection arousing? I expect you were also wearing a bikini, so does that not show a cameltoe automatically, particularly if you had been in the water?

When you get wet from arousal, does it seep through your underwear? If I have pre-cum, it sometimes seeps through mine. That can be embarrassing if it leaks through to my shorts/pants! I suppose that is a benefit of skirts/dresses for girls.

As you are heterosexual, it would probably have been more arousing seeing a girl giving a bj. Did you see the ejaculation? It must be nice for a girl to see the effect she can have on a guy. Do you ever imagine what it would be like to give a bj?

I think uncircumcised is better. I am, and I am glad. Some guys have tight foreskins and they have to make extra sure they keep it clean. In what sense did you think it might be better?

You wished you could have relieved yourself, but you didn't, so how does that make you feel when you don't? Is it a problem? It can be for us guys, for a while. Have you ever seen anyone masturbating?

I don't think I could actually talk like this face-to-face either. I sometimes think it might be nice, but I couldn't go through with it. Like you, it would have to be with my spouse. With a girlfriend, I would wonder what would happen if we broke up. Someone knowing me so intimately and I marry someone else!

You didn't answer when I asked what pet names or alternative names do you girls have for your 'girl parts' and our 'boy parts'? Or do you prefer not to say?

Also when you are wearing dresses/skirts, how short are they? How do you ensure no-one sees up them? Or don't you mind? Do girls sometimes deliberately let guys see their underwear - sometimes it seems they do. Is it a turn-on, or a tease, or a girl's dare?

Going commando is sometimes called 'freeballing' for guys. I might try it once just to let you know what it is like. I think for girls it avoids the VPL!

Do you wear a petticoat/slip under your skirts? Is it a problem if the skirt fabric is thin and you can see through? Or does that not worry girls?