And for the pregnancy problem probably just hormones
Okay...for everyone going "AM I PREGNANT?!!" ...
First: if you *know* something went wrong with a condom or other contraceptive method and it's been less than five days, you can still take emergency contraceptive (aka Plan B). This is not an abortive method and will not work if you are already pregnant; it's a contraceptive that prevents your ovaries from releasing an egg. The sooner you take it, the more effective it will be. It's available over the counter without age restrictions in the US and you will not be asked to show ID. If you're in another country, check this list for availability: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emergency_contraceptive_availability_by_country
Next, if you're not sure if something may have happened and it's before your expected period, just wait. This sucks, but it's all you can do. Bear in mind that stress can delay your period, and if you're young, your period may already be irregular. If it's before your expected period, you're very unlikely to be experiencing symptoms of pregnancy; you're hypersensitive to anything your body is doing right now and may be over-interpreting. Try to relax - get some exercise, meditate or whatever calms you down.
If it's after your expected period, take a pregnancy test. Strangers on the Internet can't tell you if you're pregnant or not; you must take a test. If you go to a doctor, she will get you to take a test. If you go to Planned Parenthood or other clinic, they will get you to take a test. DO NOT GO TO A CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTRE, but if you do, they will get you to take a test. Sensing a theme here? The only way to know if you're pregnant is to take a test. Take one. In general they are quite reliable and false negatives are rare, but they're usually sold in packs of two, so take more than one if you need to. But again: there is no way to know without one. Taking one can be scary, but it's less scary than not knowing. If it makes you feel better, there is a stranger on the Internet who'd give you a hug and go to the pharmacy with you if she could right now.
Now, on the subject of "can I get pregnant if my partner and I use a condom?"
The short answer is yes, as various people on this thread have pointed out. However, please do not be dissuaded from using a condom by the people who are clearly just trying to scare you (I'm looking at you, abstinence-until-marriage poster). If you use a condom every time, BEFORE penetration, the odds of getting pregnant are less than 5% in one year; the odds are even better if you use an additional method. (If that still seems high? It's about comparable to the odds that you will get in a car accident, and I'm betting you still get in a car.) Most of the "failures" involved in condom use are actually user errors - putting on a condom after penetration has started, or forgetting to use one, or saying "heck, let's go without, just this once". Condoms are great but they're not magic and don't work unless you're actually wearing them! (If you need an anecdote: I'm 31, and the longest I have gone without having sex since I was 18 is three months. I have never been pregnant. I have taken emergency contraceptives once because a condom slipped off and taken pregnancy tests about four times when my period was late. I never had a pregnancy scare while I was on hormonal birth control at all.)
Hormonal birth control can have side effects, but for the overwhelming majority of users those effects are minor, manageable and worth the tradeoff of, you know, not being pregnant, which I can assure you is not a comfortable or side-effect-free state either. There are also multiple options available. PLEASE don't listen to one person saying that HBC sucked for her and conclude that it's therefore awful for everyone. Talk to a doctor.
If you're at university or college, I guarantee that there is a student health facility available to you. (University students have sex! None of this will be new to them.) Go to a doctor; go to a hospital emergency room if you can't go to the doctor; ask the pharmacist at your local drug store if you have to. I can promise you this: nothing you say will embarrass them. They have heard it before. They want to help you.
For those of you who are wondering why I scream about crisis pregnancy centers: these are not medical centers. They don't employ doctors; they're not even required to have a nurse there. They are politically oriented institutions that are set up to convince people not to have abortions. If you're pregnant, you need to talk to a doctor, and you will not find one at a crisis pregnancy center. If you're not pregnant, they can't do anything for you anyway.
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