I am a 16 year old girl. last September my boyfriend cheated on me and so i left him. my best friend, who i needed so badly, went out with him and i found out it was her he was cheating on me with. I loved my boyfriend and i see them everyday together, kissing in front of me. its killing me. i have turned to alcohol and cigarettes but they don't do anything for me.
Last week i asked this older guy to get alcohol for me and he agreed an introduced me to his friend. He is 3 years older than me and is the most handsome guy i have ever met. he is also really nice. the problem is, his younger sister is the best friend of the girl that stole my boyfriend and so this guy wont get involved with me. I really like him and i am unsure what to do. I have been told i am attractive but whenever it comes to asking a guy, they always refuse. They say that they'll have one night stands with no strings attached as they find me 'sexy' but i want to lose my virginity with someone i love, not to a one night stand. I want and cant wait to fall in love but im terrified i will never find the right guy. I really need someones advice because i am becoming seriously depressed and have my exams next week which i am also worried about. Thank you.
Last week i asked this older guy to get alcohol for me and he agreed an introduced me to his friend. He is 3 years older than me and is the most handsome guy i have ever met. he is also really nice. the problem is, his younger sister is the best friend of the girl that stole my boyfriend and so this guy wont get involved with me. I really like him and i am unsure what to do. I have been told i am attractive but whenever it comes to asking a guy, they always refuse. They say that they'll have one night stands with no strings attached as they find me 'sexy' but i want to lose my virginity with someone i love, not to a one night stand. I want and cant wait to fall in love but im terrified i will never find the right guy. I really need someones advice because i am becoming seriously depressed and have my exams next week which i am also worried about. Thank you.
I know you hear this a lot, your younng and life goes on, but it really does. If you like that guy tell him, if he's mature and if he likes you like that he wont care that his sister is bestfriend wit ur ex bestfriend that goes out wit ur ex. At your age its hard 2 find good guys that like you for you and aren't tryna have sex, most guys at that age (for a while) just want some ass. Don't rush love, you will meet someone somedy and if you do fall in love always keep in mind that that perosn can break your heart. Nothings garenteed to last forever.im 20 now and when I was 15 going on 16 I fell in love witth this guy, he and I talked eery single nigt on the phone and would often see eahother on weekends, he never claimed me as his offical girlfriend, he even almost said he loved me once but stopped himself..a few weeks later he called me and said hes getting back wit his ex because she moved back into town, and although I know I should have stayed away I didn't, and he would go from her to me and eventually my whole out look on men went diffrent I felt as if guys were using me for sex sso instead I wanted 2 use them, so I did. I don't regret losing my virginity to that guy cause I kno I loved im, I guess 2 this day part of me still kind of does but he and I are friendss now and me thinking of being with him is never in my mind, I guess cause I tell myself it will never happen, but wen u do loose it, have it b your own choice and ask yourself if you will regret it later on.
P.S drugs are never thhe anwser, im not gonna sit here and say don't drink , smoke..w.e but u know the effects of cigarettes, and alcohol. Don't get addictted to alcohol and ciggeretts are just not bad 4 u period. Don't let a guy or w.e problems you have in your life turn you 2 that stuff, cause if you do you could make those same reasons b y ur life gets tottaly messed up or ends. Trust me when you get older you will laugh about this guy.
It sounds to me like your problems go quite deep? If I were you I'd go to the doctors, as they will be able to get more to the root of your problems and help you. Good Luck :)
I'm sorry to hear about what your boyfriend and best friend did to you! The best advice i can offer you is (and i know it must be hard)
Theres gonna be people in your life that hurt you and leave you, i know from experience, but a positive side is, them people are out of your life now for a reason!
That reason being, in the long run they were going to hurt you even deeper, and to get rid of them now, means you can move on to better things.
I always believe good things come to those who wait, and so my advice is, work hard on your exams, and do well at them, and show your boyfriend and best friend how strong you are without them, and that you never needed them.
If that other guy is too shallow to get involved with you because of his sister, he is also not worth your time, he should be man enough to have his own life, without it concerning his sister.
Everybody wants to fall in love honey, but now is not your time, which means life has other things planned out, trust me.
Do everything as it comes.
I'm not one to say you shouldn't smoke and do alcohol, thats your choice.
But i don't think it's gonna solve how your feeling, i think they are things which are helping you feel numb on the inside from hurting sweetie, but they aren't helping with the problem, they are adding to problems.
Let all your problems go slowly, things can only get better now them people aren't in your life, and eventually new people who love you and respect you will.
I really hope this helps, and i hope you eventually become really happy!
Theres gonna be people in your life that hurt you and leave you, i know from experience, but a positive side is, them people are out of your life now for a reason!
That reason being, in the long run they were going to hurt you even deeper, and to get rid of them now, means you can move on to better things.
I always believe good things come to those who wait, and so my advice is, work hard on your exams, and do well at them, and show your boyfriend and best friend how strong you are without them, and that you never needed them.
If that other guy is too shallow to get involved with you because of his sister, he is also not worth your time, he should be man enough to have his own life, without it concerning his sister.
Everybody wants to fall in love honey, but now is not your time, which means life has other things planned out, trust me.
Do everything as it comes.
I'm not one to say you shouldn't smoke and do alcohol, thats your choice.
But i don't think it's gonna solve how your feeling, i think they are things which are helping you feel numb on the inside from hurting sweetie, but they aren't helping with the problem, they are adding to problems.
Let all your problems go slowly, things can only get better now them people aren't in your life, and eventually new people who love you and respect you will.
I really hope this helps, and i hope you eventually become really happy!
sorry to hear how much of an a**hole you boyfriend and your "best friend" are. ive been through a fair bit of sh*t in my life, usually to do with relationships. 2 years ago, my girlfriend Michaela, was killed in a car "accident", more like a hit and run. ive been suffering from depression ever since then. i was with a girl, Montana, for about 6 months when she suddenly called it off. i know what its like to feel like theres no one out there for you, that no one cares about you, that theres no one to talk to. theres always someone there for you. i know alcohol and smokes may make you feel a bit better, but its only ever a temporary solution, trust me ive been down that path before. its YOUR choice though. you wouldve had your exams already and i hope you did well. dont worry, no matter how many people break your heart, theres always one to put it back together again.