it's hard when i try to get over it *before* getting mad about it (re: i try not to get mad in the first place), and then have to deal with the person that went ahead and reacted and freaked out and expected me to be ok with it after - now that they feel better... a guy can only be so patient :)
it's just my view that if you have a reason to be mad, then that's fine. but if you're going to flip out and be fine 2 minutes later... what was the point?
Thats something entirely different then, if you fly off the handle, thats silly...
it's just my view that if you have a reason to be mad, then that's fine. but if you're going to flip out and be fine 2 minutes later... what was the point?
Thats something entirely different then, if you fly off the handle, thats silly...
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i'd like it if people would just put some thought into things before they freaked out. that would curb the problem to start...
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i'd like it if people would just put some thought into things before they freaked out. that would curb the problem to start...
agreed 100%
agreed 100%
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it really depends on who said it pf and the context in which it was said. the most hurtful things, to me, come from those who mean the most to me, be it friend or family.
oddly enough, my kids can say the most hurtful things to me. no one else's opinion seems to cut as deep; and i'm not talking their disrespecting me either; it is usually their heartfelt opinion and it seems to hit me right between the eyes every time.
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It's virtually impossible to hurt my feelings. I had my feelings removed in law school.
Angry is a different story. I have a longer fuse than I used to, but when I do get mad, duck. I also have a tendency to stay mad.
Angry is a different story. I have a longer fuse than I used to, but when I do get mad, duck. I also have a tendency to stay mad.
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Is it bad to be considered insensitive? How 'bout a-sensitive?
Get over it. Life is too short.
(Spoken like a true Ancient Mariner.)
Get over it. Life is too short.
(Spoken like a true Ancient Mariner.)
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I really don't think its bad to be insensitive. I feel like I know whats important enough to worry myself with and don't waste my time getting hung up on others. At least the scenario I'm talking about involves people's opinions, and I guess I don't care what other people think that much. Maybe I should? I don't know. But, I don't know how to deal with people who are so sensitive that they take the most benign things in the wrong way, as though its about them. Its not. Get over it. Who has time or wants to get upset over dumb things?
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go figure a lawyer with no feelings
I am pretty sensitive myself, I give others a ton more slack than I give myself.
I am pretty sensitive myself, I give others a ton more slack than I give myself.
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If a friend came up to me and said "you look fat in those jeans"....it rolls off. Context means alot. Now if that person went up to someone else and whispered "she looks fat in those jeans". My feelings will definitely be hurt. I think this is the big difference between men and women. I could see a friend of my husband's saying "did Sue help you into those jeans today".......he is definitely not going to whisper a snide comment to the guy next to him. I've always looked at this as a wonderful trait that men have. Unfornuately, women with this trait have a harder time. I admit, that most women that I come to respect have definitely NOT made good first impressions on me and when I think about it, it's because they were blunt, straightforward.
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I'm overly sensitive, yes. But not regarding people who don't know me well, and only on certain issues (my parenting ability, for instance). I also tend to hang on too long to whatever hurt my feelings, but I'm getting better at letting go.
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I found a sensitive bill collector once, you know, those guys who call you all the time with nasty comments because you don't have the money.
After having 6x heart bypass surgery I was sent to a cardiologist for evaluation before starting cardiac rehab. That created many individual billings from the cardiology group that for some reason were not covered by my insurance. I made an agreement with them to make monthly payments. After several months I got a letter from a collection agency looking for payment so I called the cardiology group and they said it must have been some kind of mixup as I was OK with them. A few more collection letters came and each time the cardiology group told the same thing but the collection agency insisted they were still being sent over due listings on me. I finally got a letter from the cardio group so I could send a copy to the collection agency which I addressed to the the "head flesh monger". In a day or two I had a phone call from a verrrrry upset collection specialist. I finally figured out what had happened and got it straightened out but I had to find it myself even though it was the fault of THEIR billing department. Their billing carried two items over to a second page which was not included in our original agreement so that second page had not been removed from their active list and kept getting sent to the flesh mongers.
After having 6x heart bypass surgery I was sent to a cardiologist for evaluation before starting cardiac rehab. That created many individual billings from the cardiology group that for some reason were not covered by my insurance. I made an agreement with them to make monthly payments. After several months I got a letter from a collection agency looking for payment so I called the cardiology group and they said it must have been some kind of mixup as I was OK with them. A few more collection letters came and each time the cardiology group told the same thing but the collection agency insisted they were still being sent over due listings on me. I finally got a letter from the cardio group so I could send a copy to the collection agency which I addressed to the the "head flesh monger". In a day or two I had a phone call from a verrrrry upset collection specialist. I finally figured out what had happened and got it straightened out but I had to find it myself even though it was the fault of THEIR billing department. Their billing carried two items over to a second page which was not included in our original agreement so that second page had not been removed from their active list and kept getting sent to the flesh mongers.
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I can be VERY sensitive about certain things, but not so much about others.
I wish that I could let what other people choose to think about me roll off, but I can't, always. For example, I felt great when someone I respected at my old job told my husband what a great job she thought I did and that I was screwed from the beginning.
But I felt like c**p that I couldn't get my old boss to respect me or my work.
Does that make sense?
I didn't think so, either.
I wish that I could let what other people choose to think about me roll off, but I can't, always. For example, I felt great when someone I respected at my old job told my husband what a great job she thought I did and that I was screwed from the beginning.
But I felt like c**p that I couldn't get my old boss to respect me or my work.
Does that make sense?
I didn't think so, either.
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