Ive been married to my husband for a little under 6 months. We had not been dating long when we decided that we would tie the knot, so I could be with him in USA. Prior to me moving, i was suffering major deppression, and was happy to move away from my native country in the Uk, were i had no family or friends. My husband has the wildest temper, when he gets mad he insist that i look at him, if i dont he will throw me around slap me, choke me, hit me. He says that i need to be more responsible for hurting his feelings, and more submissive, and if i do as he says i cant go wrong.
Ive been feeling like i cant handle it recently, as the violence seems to be escalating, he slaped and chocked me so hard last night, this morning I have a stinking headache.
I have no one to talk to in this part of town as I have no family or friends here. My parents have ex comminucated themselves from me as well, as they were involved in a tight christian group, and i decided to leave. I feel very lonley, and stuck in an awful situation.
There are womens shelters where you can go. Don't take that abuse.
I'm sure nearly any public official would be willing to help you find what you need or any clergy person.
but what i want to say that you need to get out of there no matter what or no matter how much you love him you have to leave, if he put his hands on you ones he will do it again and again and again... dont wait untill something bad happend, and trust me that affected my life a biiiiig time, i cant trust no one or be with some one without messing it up cause i cant trust... it took me 8 years to get out and 3 years later am this way.. hope you have a better luck and you move on and forget all of it as soon as you leave him.
good luck sweetie
i just feel for you and i hate man like this
i am thinking of you, i just want you to know you are not alone.
Your husband will never be in the right to hit you. never.
Get out quickly, plan it well, because people that are so violent and so UNRESPECTFUL of others physical and mental well-being will NEVER change.
He must've had a really nasty traumatic childhood, which will never justify your pain.
Get out quickly, i'm with you , follow your intuition and reason, someone will help you somewhere for sure. Please Don't Give Up.
I know that your all right, in what you say. Never the less, i cant seem to see beyond the situation. Its not like going back to the UK would be better for me. I dont have anyone there, and the past is full of painful memories, one of the reason i was so eager to get out in the first place, when i made my move here.
Since my last post, he's actually "smacked me around" twice since, only one yesterday, when i expressed dissapointment, that he had still failed to get in some important documentation, that has needed to be processed for months. He got on top of me in te bed, slapped/ hit me about 8 or 9 times in the head, including my lip and temple, which now have brusises and pulled my mouth apart with his thumb and stuck his finger really hard into my cheeks, pressing down really really hard. All before going to work..
He's actually very, very normal. In fact, some of his male friends consider him a role model by some standards, but with me, he seems to think anything I do wrong is a 1000 times worse than what he could ever do. I hate the way he treats me.. I really hate it. Im convinced he doesnt love me. Why would you do that to someone otherwise. Im not sure... Im just lost with the entire situation.
I hope the best for you and that you find a way to get out. It was the best thing in the world when I left my ex boyfriend ( and all he did was push me around and verbally abuse me) .. but it was the hardest thing I have ever done. I loved him.. I had a child at a young age cuz I thought we were gonnna be together forever.. and the first 6 months after we broke up were very emotional and traumatic on my heart.. but I vowed that I would get better and become a strong independent person for my child. Now i'm married with someone else and I let him know right off the bat he would never treat that way cuz I walked away once from love and I would do it again if I had to. He treats me very well. Sometimes we gotta look inside ourselves and think of whats gonna be best for us in the long run and regardless of how hard and how bad its gonna hurt to do it we gotta stick to our guns and suffer thru to get to where we wanna be. You can do it!
you go to walmart .1
you buy a metal baseball bat .2
you use a metal saw and cut the lower end off .3
now its hollow. .4
go get some sand .5
fill the bat up with the sand .6
then cap the bat so the sand doesnt run out .7
what i did was take a knuckle of tissue paper and put it in and then taped it over that .8
then i went and used that on the guy that raped my sister.
i think he still cant walk straight.
he probably wont try to call the cops when his knees are shattered and legs are broken by a woman.
most guys like that are wannabe tough guys.
they cant handle getting beaten by some one they see as lower than themselves.
btw. this is a really really bad idea.
only use it as your last option.