hymenal remnant diagnosed - surgery needed

Hi Jami
I just had surgery to remove excess hymen remenants. I am in Toronto and had the proceedure done in my Hospital's Colposcopy Clinic. The proceedure took half and hour and I was on my way home to rest. I was awake with only local freezing so I got to watch. It was not too bad, the worst part was the itching when the stitches were healing. I had it done on Jan 25 (last tuesday) and I am almost completely healed now. I got 4 remnants cut. Only one stitch stubornly remains. No sex yet but hopefully I will have the nerve to try this weekend with my hubby.

what did you decide to do about yours?

hey, i am so glad to have found this, i was looking for info on my boyfriends painful tailbone and luckily i found this, i am recently not a virgin..well not recently but months ago..and ive had sex atleast 10 times since....well ive tried no matter how painful and how hard he pushes he just cant get in...i think that my hymen is to thick to disapate or there are still pieces that are ubstuckting it. sex is really painful and i know it is partially open because other things can fit and i use tampons..i havent gon to a gyno yet because im nervous and i was just wondering what kind of things you ladies experienced and how painful the surgery was..i think i may have to get one myself.. but, i wouldnt know what to tell my parents (eek) but i dont want it to mean i can never have sex until i move out..jeez im inbetween a rock and a hardplace

i'm 17. i had sex about 8 months ago, it did not hurt until my boyfriend at the time tried to push right inside me. this hurt ALOT and it felt like there was a barrier stopping him entering me fully. i have had sex a lot since but my boyfriend still hasn't been able to enter me which sucks cause sex would be great without the pain. i do not feel any discomfort or anything like that unless a penis is pushing onto what i think is my thick unbreakable hymen which won't break. i want to go and see a doctor but i know i will die of embarrasment and i don't want to tell my parents cause .. yeah, obvious reasons, arghh meep help!!!

I am 19 yrs old and have not been able to have vaginal intercourse, insert a tampon, or complete a gyno exam. I have been to a few doctors and for a while I thought I had vaginismus. But recently my doctor told me I had a prominent hymen which could not be broken on my own. I experience intolerable pain when even a Q-tip is inserted into my vagina. I am getting an ultrasound to make sure I am alright, anatomically and then I will have the hymenectomy.
Just wondering if anyone out there has had a similar experience because I feel like a freak because my vagina has been broken my entire life.

hey.
i had sex last year for the first time. my boyfriend said there was blood on the condom. i have sex now frequently, but my boyfriend cannot insert his penis fully inside me as he feels there is a barrier stopping him going any further. this is really painful for me and i don't know what is blocking him from penetrating me. i'm sooo scared about going to a doctor cause i'm so embarrased :[!
it cannot be the hymen can it? not that far inside me...cause i thought hymens were just at the opening of the vagina not roughly 5 inches inside it?
i'm confused PLEASE help :|.
xx

ihateyourface, I think you'll find that what you're experiencing is not anything to do with your hymen.

If you are experiencing pain about five inches inside you, he's hitting your cervix. The average vagina is approximately five inches long when you're aroused, and if your boyfriend's penis is longer than this, it just means that his penis is hitting your cervix, which is quite painful.

You just need to find a different position, or tell him that you're in pain. No amount of thrusting is going to help - your cervix marks the end of your vagina.

More foreplay to ensure you are fully aroused can expand your vagina a little, but it probably won't allow him to get all the way in.

This is totally normal, by the way!

i have never been able to put a tampon in without excruciating pain, but recently i have discovered a opening in my hymen and i have been stretching it daily... i think this is helping a little, but if not then i might have to have surgery. what is the hymenectomy procedure like?

i'm 18, never been able to do anything either. i went to my doctor only yesterday and she did an exam which hurt a little but was ok and then she told me that my hymen is quite tough and so i'm being referred to a gyno in jan and she will do a hymenectomy. apparently it's really simple and will get rid of the problem. there's nothing else i can personally think of that i could do about it. so go to a gyno! it's not that embarassing, because it's their job, for them it's like looking into a throat, they do it every day.

to the first person that wrote on this thread... i have had the surgery, and it was not painful at all, it was short and you can go home the very same day. only problem is it didnt work! .. i had the surgery over a year ago, and i still have painful sex...everytime!!! ... it sux ... has anyone else had the same thing happen to them ..?.... perhaps its not what they thought it was .. who knows... i hope it all works out for you tho!!

im 19 and i am so scared to have sex because of how bad it will hurt. i cant even put in a tampon without it hurting and i dont masterbate or anything cuz nothing can fit. i dont want to tell my parents, how am i suppose to explain or even start a conversation about it to them. i want to go to a gyno just for a check up i guess but im scared ill be a virgin forever!

Today was quite a relief for me. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he is my only sexual partner. And in the 6 years we have been together i could probably count the amount of times we've had sex on both hands. The reason for this is that EVERY time it was painful and everything we tried was useless. I became disheartened and avoided sex at all cost, putting a strain on our relationship. But lucky me, he is as supportive as can be and understands. After countless GP visits & pap smears all i got was "try and relax a little" and "have yo tried lubrication?". So I asked THEM for a referral to a Gyn and today, with one quick examination she diagnosed me. I have something along to lines of "excess hymenal remnant", where a clean break hasn't been made and all the hymen is sticking around inflicting pain. She was pretty sure that would have been causing my 6 years of agonizing intercourse. I am now booking myself in for a hymenectomy and i am over the moon. I just cannot believe that this has so clearly been the problem for so long and now something is being done. Fingers crossed it helps, and that our relationship is not too far gone for intimacy. Just some advice to others, please see a gynecologist and push your GP for a referral. Because my problem was "staring them right in the face" and they couldn't even see it. Good luck to all, it's glad to know we're not alone.

i just had a minor hymenectomy procedure done about an hour ago. My bf and i have been having sex for a little over a year (im 21) and the last six months it has been so painful that i am in tears any time we do. It is almost impossible for him to enter me and it kills when we try. Ive gone to pp a few times to see if it was a yeast infection or something along those lines and everytime they say just use lube (we already do). I went to the gyno today and was told that my hymen ring just isnt streatching like it should. The were able to take care of it right then and there. Luckily i only had to have one side done. The injected me with lidocane and then cut me and stitched it up. I didnt even know that they had started cutting until he started to stitch. it took him probably 20 min. Now that the lidocane is wearing off it is a bit painful but not too bad. Hopefully this will solve the problem. He did say to continue to streach it on my own and schedules a follow up for 2 weeks. Nice and easy.

I had a hymanectomy after I finally went to my Gp frustrated and upset through years of trying to insert tampons and have sex with my very understanding boyfriend. There are various operations depending on the severity of your condition and unfortunately for me, mine was the top end of the scale.

After a useless attempt at an examination I was referred to a specialist who explained that my vaginal opening was actually a few millimetres, which explained the many failed attempts! had previously had a blockage when i was 15 and what had happened is that I didn't have an opening but did have periods although there was nowhere for the bleeding to go due to my very thick hymen, but eventually the blockage built up enough to burst through, which then created the few millimetres opening.

I then had to have an operation and after a week of recovery, more due to the general discomfort than any unbearable pain (I sit at a desk all day), I was back to the consultant to start me off on dilators. There are a lot of websites explaining what they are but in short, they are various sized dilators that are inserted into the vagina to stretch it and you progress through the different sizes until you are able to have sex.

I am still using these as i did stop for a while due to moving in with my boyfriends parents before moving in to our own place, so I am not yet a success story, but I'm persevering and I did previoulsy see an improvement in being able to progress to bigger dilators.

if anyone is having trouble inserting tampons or having sex then please get checked out straight away, you may need further treatment. I do regret not going to the GP earlier but I was so embarassed and upset over the situation i just wanted to avoid it. the general advice is that it takes up to 3 months to see an improvement post-op and from using the dilators and it is difficult to stick to it and not give up as you need to use them daily, but hopefully I will get there in the end.

If anyone is going through this, you are not alone, thousands of women suffer from this and do not think you are a failure, you just need some help in getting there.

bubbleflew, when you had this procedure done, did they give you any medication to take home for pain. I am supposed to have the same surgery tomorrow at 11 and I was wondering what the doctors do for pain.