I am fourteen now.And I have been thinking about sex.I have been masturbating since 11.But I want to los my virginity.But not to a guy. I want to lose it myself.I guess i wouldnt really lose it, not spritually anyways.But I hgeard when you lose your virginity your hymen breaks,and you bleed a little, and it hurts.I want to get that part over with.Without my parent finding out, he would kill me.But when I have sex for the first time with a guy.I dont want it to hurt, or bleed, becuase that will take away all the fun of losing it with him.Im scared and dont know how to lose my own virginity, how much will it hurt, like a scrape on the knee, a shot? how much will I bleed, a little? a lot? Please help me :-)
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Hi honey! Your moniker says it all for you honey! "TO YOUNG TO THINK"! Loosing your virginity is a HUGE deal and it should ALWAYS be with a person that you love and loves you back and will be tender and gentle with you and care about you and you experience the journey to being an adult together! You need to think about the consequences of "Making" yourself a non virgin! Say you are with a boy/man that is a "virgin" how do you explain RATIONALLY to this boy - who is JUST as nervous as you - That you did this to YOURSELF!?!! o.O First of all "think" about how that sounds?!!!!! And then think about how confused he will be - thinking "I thought she was a virgin, but that doesn't make sense what she said, so obviously she HAS been with another guy or maybe more"!!! Then there is his personal feelings - such as "Obviously she's not a virgin and has done it, so now she is going to judge me and I'm not going to be as good as that guy or guys!"
Think about it honey?! The reason why the hymen is there is the same for a boys foreskin that will be still attached to the glans! It becomes less and less over time! As you use tampons, masturbate etc, the hymen gets used to penetration and when you are older eveything else is BIGGER! So when you are ready, then you take it nice and easy and be gentle and then it MIGHT not even hurt or even bleed at all! EVERY woman and EVERY experience is different! You might think that Devirginating yourself is the way to go, but not spiritually, not emotionally for the WHOLE experience! I hope you REALLY understand what you are thinking of doing here! You are 14!!!!!! 14 years old honey! I know ALL the hormones are raging through your body and you are hearing - INCORRECT stories - about girls loosing their virginity! BUT you don't hear about what the actual guys are saying about these girls! It is DISGUSTING! And I KNOW! Because it is what I hear in my house from my boys and there friends! I am THOROUGHLY disgusted and have stated this to them! I think the words would be deleted automatically if I typed them on here! They USE these girls and then walk past them onto the next one! In this day of Texting, Facebook, Twitter etc, all it takes is ONE note about how ******* is NOT a virgin and WHAM!!! Your whole life is turned upside down! And girls are the worst for "spreading horrible rumours" you DONT need that honey! I promise you! You don't NEED a reputation of being "knowledgeable" So please think about the fact that you are "TOYOUNGTOTHINK" about this! OK? Love yourself more and demand more in the furture! Good luck honey!
Think about it honey?! The reason why the hymen is there is the same for a boys foreskin that will be still attached to the glans! It becomes less and less over time! As you use tampons, masturbate etc, the hymen gets used to penetration and when you are older eveything else is BIGGER! So when you are ready, then you take it nice and easy and be gentle and then it MIGHT not even hurt or even bleed at all! EVERY woman and EVERY experience is different! You might think that Devirginating yourself is the way to go, but not spiritually, not emotionally for the WHOLE experience! I hope you REALLY understand what you are thinking of doing here! You are 14!!!!!! 14 years old honey! I know ALL the hormones are raging through your body and you are hearing - INCORRECT stories - about girls loosing their virginity! BUT you don't hear about what the actual guys are saying about these girls! It is DISGUSTING! And I KNOW! Because it is what I hear in my house from my boys and there friends! I am THOROUGHLY disgusted and have stated this to them! I think the words would be deleted automatically if I typed them on here! They USE these girls and then walk past them onto the next one! In this day of Texting, Facebook, Twitter etc, all it takes is ONE note about how ******* is NOT a virgin and WHAM!!! Your whole life is turned upside down! And girls are the worst for "spreading horrible rumours" you DONT need that honey! I promise you! You don't NEED a reputation of being "knowledgeable" So please think about the fact that you are "TOYOUNGTOTHINK" about this! OK? Love yourself more and demand more in the furture! Good luck honey!
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I normally would argue to a point, but I do see the sense in what you are saying,is just that when and if i do have sex, I dont want to cry and scream and my guy will think like is it something i did wrong? than it gets awkward, and uninjoyable.then ...im just so scared that sex will be a pain in th *ss
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It's not like that honey! ONLY if it is not forced! IF it was that bad, NO ONE would do it!! So don't worry about that OK? also when you are ready, just know that your brain is your biggest sex organ and if you are all afraid etc, you will tense up and that will be a painful experience, it is about being fine that's all!
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