I feel sick when i'm around my boyfriend

I have the same thing and my boyfriend is wonderful! it is anxiety honestly! something in your past has triggered it and made you feel anxious on relationships but it takes time to heal. Mine is like clockwork and happens end of september early october with an ex and happened same time with my current boyfriend who I love dearly. I just talk to him when it comes up like hey my stomach hurts my anxiety is up and we talk it out. It is a rushing thought of do I love him do I not but those have passed now it is what do I find annoying of him does he annoy me? haha it is that anxiety building up a wall rather than just breathing and letting it be we focus on the anxiety and it grows and makes you feel sick to your stomach when you think of him or are near him but to divert it focus on other things focus on how happy you are and IN THE MOMENT! which is super hard for me i nit pick things apart like crazy and i overthink too but sometimes I just have to breath and realize not everyone is perfect I am not and it is ok and it is part of a relationships and it will make us grow together and be stronger together!

Uhh...HELP...Scant stand my boyfriend! Yes repulsive. I don't like anything he does or says. He looks better with his mouth shut...But I do love him. I JUST CAN'T STAND HIM. Aaand I can't sleep because hes either breathing to Damn loud and snoring. At least I can use that as the excuse why I don't sleep with him most of the time. Like every night almost. Can you help me please?

Later I started chasing men like my father, not the part of him that was violent, but the part of him that made me feel not good enough, unwanted. I fell for the cool guys, distant and cold and unable to show affection. During this time, I also went to therapy, trying to resolve my childhood trauma. My therapist was a kind and empathetic person. I absorbed her kindness, patience and empathy in a way that opened my eyes to people who showed similar kindness, and warmth. That in turn created a new role model system in my head, if I could call it that. After that I began looking for different kind of friendships and relationships, kinder ones, less dramatic ones, more mature ones.

It was difficult, since being around balanced and normal people, required me to let go of the roles that I was used to playing, victim and abuser. But the last couple of years I have been getting better and better.

My current boyfriend is nothing like anyone I’ve dated before; he’s kind, stable, smart, has a loving family and good friends. It’s clear that he was raised to believe that he has worth as a human being, which neither I nor people in my past believed about themselves.

While writing the above I felt a calm taking over. I went to my bf and apologized for my weird behavior lately. We talked about our relationship, about how things have been lately and what we find difficult with each other. I guess despite all the therapy and all the “moving in the right direction” are still not enough to change my past experiences. Yet.

While talking with my bf I realized that I had been stressing about some things at work and my next career move. I have been occupied with thoughts about who I am and who I want to be, what the future holds for me and fear of not being able to do the things I want to do. At the same time, I have been taking our relationship for granted, getting annoyed at my bf for not being the kind of perfect I’m forcing myself to be. He in turn has been feeling alone with me constantly being in my head and occupied with thoughts about myself.

After the talk, I felt calmer and I felt my love for him returning. I realize that I need to be more consciously present in my relationship. I know myself well enough to know that I probably won’t be able to do that all the time. Being in my head, spaced out, or in deep thought is what I used to do in my childhood when the world was too difficult to handle, and that’s what I still do today. But I must get better at not staying in my own bubble for too long, or else I will lose touch with reality.

My advice is, try thinking about who you are and what has made you into the person you are. Share it in a forum or talk to someone. I think what helped me while writing this was the thought that someone might read and care about what I had to say, even though I don’t know if anyone ever will read this.

Reading through these posts I'm thinking "what the hell is wrong with us?? How can so many people be going through the same weird thing?" It helps reading that others are going through the same, that it's not uncommon or abnormal, but I'm still struggling to understand why this is happening.

Been with BF for 3 years and as others here have mentioned, love him, we're great together, but now I feel anxious and "disgusted". I just want to scream LEAVE ME THE f**k ALONE

I've felt like this two or three times in the past as well and am trying to find the psychological reason for it.

I was physically abused by my father as a child, my mother played the role of the victim and saint, so I had two role models growing up: victim or abuser. I chose a mix of both, but tried to find a better me. In the beginning I would choose friends and boyfriends who resembled my mother, people who needed saving, who seemed strong but needed someone to care for them and guide them. I would do with them as I did as a child with my mother; be supportive, give unconditional love, sacrifice myself for them and hope and wish that they would get strong enough to love me back one day. I would also take one the role of my father, insecure, always thinking someone is out to get me, and if someone dared to tell me they love me, I would not believe them, blame them for not loving me enough, making them jump through hoops.

Later I started chasing men like my father, not the part of him that was violent, but the part of him that made me feel not good enough, unwanted. I fell for the cool guys, distant and cold and unable to show affection. During this time, I also went to therapy, trying to resolve my childhood trauma. My therapist was a kind and empathetic person. I absorbed her kindness, patience and empathy in a way that opened my eyes to people who showed similar kindness, and warmth. That in turn created a new role model system in my head, if I could call it that. After that I began looking for different kind of friendships and relationships, kinder ones, less dramatic ones, more mature ones.

It was difficult, since being around balanced and normal people, required me to let go of the roles that I was used to playing, victim and abuser. But the last couple of years I have been getting better and better.

My current boyfriend is nothing like anyone I’ve dated before; he’s kind, stable, smart, has a loving family and good friends. It’s clear that he was raised to believe that he has worth as a human being, which neither I nor people in my past believed about themselves.

While writing the above I felt a calm taking over. I went to my bf and apologized for my weird behavior lately. We talked about our relationship, about how things have been lately and what we find difficult with each other. I guess despite all the therapy and all the “moving in the right direction” are still not enough to change my past experiences. Yet.

While talking with my bf I realized that I had been stressing about some things at work and my next career move. I have been occupied with thoughts about who I am and who I want to be, what the future holds for me and fear of not being able to do the things I want to do. At the same time, I have been taking our relationship for granted, getting annoyed at my bf for not being the kind of perfect I’m forcing myself to be. He in turn has been feeling alone with me constantly being in my head and occupied with thoughts about myself.

After the talk, I felt calmer and I felt my love for him returning. I realize that I need to be more consciously present in my relationship. I know myself well enough to know that I probably won’t be able to do that all the time. Being in my head, spaced out, or in deep thought is what I used to do in my childhood when the world was too difficult to handle, and that’s what I still do today. But I must get better at not staying in my own bubble for too long, or else I will lose touch with reality.

My advice is, try thinking about who you are and what has made you into the person you are. Share it in a forum or talk to someone. I think what helped me while writing this was the thought that someone might read and care about what I had to say, even though I don’t know if anyone ever will read this.

Yes the same thing happens to me like right my boyfriend come

Thank you for sharing​. This was so helpful

Hi, by feeling sick do you mean queasiness in your stomach region?

Does this feeling means you stop loving your bf?

Hello there I have been in a relsaship before were I was getting sick all the time and I broke up with him and I've been talking to this guy for 3 weeks or so and now it's back help

I really hope that's the case. I've not been able to date anyone that I've liked for years because as soon as it's "official" I feel instantly sick and it can last weeks.. by that point i've ended it as no other way gets rid of it.

please please please share w me these tips i’m actually so desperately begging you

I deal with this too girly and no its not in your head, its called relationship axienty, its cause in the past relationship where something happen to you and yeah you can be in a great awesome relationship now but your axienty freaks out and makes you want to throw up, here are tips to help you and yes it works bc i do it all the time when im around my boyfriend. tips: breath in big inhale and big exhale through ur mouth or nose, this expands your stomach and tricks it basically, or/both take nuesea dissovling pillls , you can get it at walmart or something like that, those are my tips hope they help :) they did for me.

don't end it with her, you feel like her feel sicker and mentally unstable. Just give her some space and she will come to you in her own time.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!
I reeeeeeeeeeeeealy, reeeeeeeealy like this boy but every time I'm near him I want to puke. He surely thought that I'm some kind of loser and don't want to have anything with me. But this breathing thing worked wonders for me. I think that I'm even more confident now.
I cannot wait this weekend when we are going to my friend Amy's party and he will be there. I already have a plan how to be alone with him and no more puking near him. :)

Hello please tell us how did u get out of this situation

Every time me and my boyfriend hang out I feel weird, nervous and sick. What can I do?