Okay I'm 26 I've been in this off and on relationship since I was 22. The first issue we had was when I walked in on him playing with himself on a video can. I left and came back like six times after that. Every time I left he promised it would get better and every time I came back it got worst. More recently, I've left jobs, family, friends and school to prove my love and I all I get in return is I'm not trying hard enough. I get verbally abused everyday, and every time something goes wrong its my fault. This month alone I've been told that I'm his problem, he snifs me and my clothes, he keeps saying things like he's thinking of sleeping with other ppl, and I've seen an email he sent to a female online about being single and very interested in her. So I've made the final decision to leave for good, and I know I'm making the right decision. My problem is this gut feeling. Its like I'm feeling guilty, for how he makes me feel. I'm so used to being cooped up in a house and him telling me I can't do anything unless he tells me too. Now when I go outside I feel like a child that's gonna get in trouble. I've tried everything I could to make it work, and even after all the bs he put me thru and telling me that he doesn't have to try I still tried. But why do I feel like I could die? After all I've been thru I'm still thinking to myself I don't want to hurt him, but if I stay I'll still be hurting myself. Idk what it is or what to do. Advice please....
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Hi Tonnie! That's a heavy story. Everything you had to go through with this man is really not nice. I'm sure you made the right decision to leave him. You know love relationships between a man and a woman must be an exchange of love, friendship, and so many other things. Tt can just be one side giving. One day it finishes, like yours did. You have to take care though to be strong and not go back. Ask constantly yourself why did you even allow yourself to be treated like this. Maybe something from your past, maybe low self esteem , and focus yourself now in asking this question. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need, and most of all don't be afraid of change. Change the way you behave and think. if we don't change the way we act we will keeping on having the same results. You are still young and have a lot of time to work on yourself and then go for a new and more pleasant relationship.
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