Hello Everyone!
I sure need help.. I am so scared for my son right now! It has come to my attention that my son has told his friends that he is gay. I'm not feeling so good as he has so many other things in his life that he has to deal with and this news is only going to giive him added things to struggle with. He has a few good friends, but majority of other friends post a lot on facebook & other social media and some of them can be really cold with their comments.
I guess I'll start with as he was growing up..
Through his childhood he was your tipical boy doing boy things and when he became a teen he found girls attractive and has gone through the stages of dating. Dating a lot of girls after he became 14. He was so thrilled in his popularity and his good looks. He has gone through a lot of female realtionships and a lot of break-ups. And also his feelings hurt by girls really bad. His sexual behavior was nomal for a boy growing up. Intercourse came to him in his relationships early in life. Way to early in my opinion!! I have seen & heard that he has explored with videos & his healthy attractions toward females.
He has became friends with a boy that says he is gay and now my son says he's gay! How can that be with my son growing up being so very attracted to the female body? I am beside myself.
I have nothing against gay males as I have a few male friends that are gay & they mean a lot to me, but they have gone through some very hard times being gay, being beat up etc. etc. and I don't want that to happen to my son.
Can anyone help me understand as to why he has said he is gay all of a sudden? He is hanging out with a boy that is very vocal about his sexuality being gay.
Thank-You for your help as I appreciate it very much!
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It sounds to me your son has made his disision of being gay. If he told his friends that he MEANT IT! Nobody purposely ( jockingly) says they are gay. Nobody kidds about that. Also, when you say how could he have changed his sexual attraction in such short notice .....Well just because a girl loves playing football as a kid , and was a tomboy, doesn't mean she wont be a girly girl in the future. People change as they grow up , and as they grow maturer they start getting feelings for other people and other things.
When you say you are beside yourself, that makes you sound angry and not supportive. Yes bullying DOES HAPPEN, but by being supportive of whatever your son decides to do, you will help. Therapy can help when such a new change in his life happens , when coming out. Spend lots if time with your son, and get to understand him better. If you make time with your son, it could decrease suicidal toughts....Not to make your scared , but when telling people you are gay it can make people feel unworthy and depressed
GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR SON! :-)
DISCLAIMER: I am only 13 so I am not a porfessional
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thank-you for your post.. I appreciate it. My son has anxiety problems & sometimes over believes things about himself.. I can't explain it.// like I said there are a few issues that he has to deal with. He will do things to get people to like him or think that he is the best in something but intale needs to still work towar a goal in what he says he is so good at. I am not mad.. I want to support him but I really need to kknow why he gets mixed up & how to help him along the way.
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Hello Everyone.. I sure could use input from as many people as possible..
I really need opinions & suggestions from all views on this subject.
I will answer questions if you have any on his past and other issues he is struggling with..
Thank-You Kindly for your help!
Have a good day everyone :)
P.S. Thank-You ever so much for those that reply back to me \& that have posted back all ready.. .. words can not express how greatful I am at this time!
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