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A couple of weeks ago things were looking great I had lots more freedom than last year when I basically wasn't allowed to do anything. Then my mum says that she is going on holiday, with family to Somerset, and I said I wasn't going I was staying at home. However she is forcing me to either go or sleep at my Grand mothers. Also being on study leave I was going to go out but was ordered to come home in an hours time at ten o clock. I am 16 my friends stay at home on their own all the time also, they stay out as late as they want. I am starting to feel quite depressed about this and feel stupid amongst my friends who can do what they want.

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Hi Billy! I am going to talk to you as a mother of 2 teenagers - 14 and 17 and ALSO as someone that was a teen! 1st the teen time

When I was almost 15 my parents left me for the weekend - home alone - i told 2 friends who told 2 friends who told ...... There was over 200 people at my house within 4 hours of my parents leaving!!!!!! my house was DESTROYED! There were bikers doing wheelies on my front lawn, there was people having sex in ALL the bedroom! Someone got my dog stoned! My dad had a 75 gallon aquarium with rare fish in it, someone poured a 40OZ of Vodka in it and killed the fish! There was over 60 smashed bottles of beer downstairs and blood EVERYWHERE from fights and people cutting themselves! Someone had pulled off BOTH of our doors, and ALL the furniture was destroyed! The curtains were either burnt or torn! There was blood and spaghetti sauce on the ceiling of the kitchen! We had a tent trailer and someone had slashed it to bits! they had broken our entire fence! AND the Creme de la creme - someone stoll my dads car and filled the gas tank with pebbles!!!!!!!! They had left used condom in my parents bead! And a hand made table cloth that my mom and dad received as a wedding gift was shredded! My mom used that to strangle me with! I had her engagement ring mark in my cheek for years! Also my dad took me outside and shoved my head intot he car to show me the pebbles in the tank!!!! people still talk about that party!!!

NOW as a mother - do you think that I am going to ;et my boys be alone?!!! NO!! Also remember this! IF Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Texting had been available back then my house would NOT have been standing! ALL it takes is 1 word and within seconds THOUSANDS of people will know what is happening! It's not that I don't trust my boys - it's that I don't trust strangers that they don't have a clue about! AND where I live there has been several kids killed by party crashers that were being kicked out! In this day and age you CANT blame your parents for being worried honey! I do think that 10 on weekends is too early - my 17 is 12 oclock! BUT that's me! Also know this honey! We ALL have our friends that can do "anything" but those kids, their parents usually don't have a clue - nor want to know - what their kids are upto! I promise you - as a fellow parent - that IF you show your parents that you can handle this responsibility! The rest of your teens will be a cinche! You HAVE to be able to prove to them that you aren't going to be stupid and or invite someone stupid! So hang in there OK? And just play by the rules, summer is coming! Also I tell my boys to TALK TOO me! so perhaps sit your parents down and say how you are feeling - in a calm tone and point out ALL the times you have shown responsibility! And that you NEED them to trust you and you will prove yourself! IF you screw up then fine - let them nail you - BUT if yu don't then they need to let go a bit!

It's called "Helicopter Parenting" I am just as guilty of this as your parents! I am scared stiff about my boys being shot, stabbed, being in gangs etc. Because compared to what we went through, these days that are upon us are SO scarey! So try and understand them too OK? Big hugs honey!
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Thanks, you have helped me understand what my parents are thinking. I am sill angry with them but like you said I will just try and make them trust me.
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