17 year old girl with serious problem ; need someone who really knows what there talking about ;;

You self-description is quite impressive for a teenager... these days. However, disrespecting your parents by doing whatever you want to do; especially having a sleep-over at your boyfriend's home, is totally unacceptable. As you may have guessed by now, I am a mother who has raised two boys, and believe me it wasn't always easy. I've been told that raising girls is harder, but I think it's all relative. But nevertheless, I can only imagine that you must be living under very hostile and strained conditions, especially since your dad has threatened to put you in boot camp. What can you do to prevent this? Well, for one, you can start by changing your attitude. Your parents only want what is best for you and it is their JOB to protect and give you guidance. Your job is to continue getting good grades in school so that you can (hopefully) go to college and become the woman of whom you can be proud. It wouldn't hurt to make sure you clean up your room, help around the house (consistently! not just when you want something), actually talk to them once in a while and maybe, just maybe, they might see the daughter that they know and love. And if your boyfriend was a mature and caring individual, he would not have allowed you to sleep over. Obviously, he doesn't care for or respect you or your parents either. So, young lady, I don't think you are in a hopeless situation, but you do have some "work" to do. I'm certain your parents will meet you half way when you begin to show them love, respect and maurity. You sound like a lovely person, but I think it would also behoove you to increase your circle of friends this school year. Come on, this is your senior year, make the best of it both academically and socially! Enjoy yourself! Good luck and may God bless you and your family.