What am I to do? I have just found out my girlfriend's BI! We got drunk the other night and we talked about our previous relationships and she told me she had sex with girls on several occasions! To be honest, my feelings are now all mixed up. I do love her, we have a great time together, but something is different now. I cannot tell if it is bothering me or not, I act as if any thing is normal, but I know that she will ask me if I am okay with she told me. What should I say?
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What difference does it make who she had been with before you, if you love each other? She did not cheat on you, so what is the problem. Having sex with girls does not make her a lesbian, she did choose you, after all. I have a theory regarding lesbians. Most of men do not have a problem if their girlfriends are BI. That is because, subconsciously, they do not feel endangered. On basic level, girls do not have penis, cannot leave off spring, and male within us is satisfied. Also, physically they cannot mach male rival, and again male within us is content. Of course, this theory today does not have a solid foundation, but it does sound interesting.
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dude its almost every guys dream to have a bi girlfriend. the confusion is normal because it caught you off guard
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Well, judging by your wording here, you're not too comfortable with the fact that your girlfriend is bi. But as mordy said, it shouldn't make a difference. She loves you, right? Shouldn't that be all that matters?
However, there is another issue at hand here. Lots of people feel threatened, in a sense, by bisexuals, because they believe that a bisexual will only truly be happy if they are engaging in sexual activity with both sexes on a regular basis. THIS IS NOT TRUE. I myself am bisexual, and I can get just as much enjoyment from a guy as from a girl, both physical and emotional.
As for what you should say... be honest. If you're just a bit uncomfortable but want to give it some time so you can learn to accept it better, try saying something along the lines of, "You caught me off guard, and I'm a bit surprised by it. I might need a little time to be more comfortable with this, but I still love you and still want to be with you." Then give her a nice romantic hug or something.
However, there is another issue at hand here. Lots of people feel threatened, in a sense, by bisexuals, because they believe that a bisexual will only truly be happy if they are engaging in sexual activity with both sexes on a regular basis. THIS IS NOT TRUE. I myself am bisexual, and I can get just as much enjoyment from a guy as from a girl, both physical and emotional.
As for what you should say... be honest. If you're just a bit uncomfortable but want to give it some time so you can learn to accept it better, try saying something along the lines of, "You caught me off guard, and I'm a bit surprised by it. I might need a little time to be more comfortable with this, but I still love you and still want to be with you." Then give her a nice romantic hug or something.
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I will honestly say that I found out my girlfriend was a bisexual and had a relationship for 6 months with a girl. I was at first just knid of caught off guard, and then later dwelling on it and worrying that I wasn't enough for her. Th situation actually made me rethink my own sexuality and I have found that I also share in attraction to other members of the same sex. I now understand that it is as far as it goes. Despite the fact that I find both sexes sexually attractive, I only love my girlfriend and she only loves me. That is pretty much enough for me to be assured that nothing is wrong with the situation. We actually see eye-to-eye on attractive people than most couples and it has turned out to be very rewarding. I know what you're going through--it's a big shock and can leave you in some really weird emotional territory that you can't quite pin down. Reassess your relationship, think about how much you love the person you're with, and most importantly, talk about it with her and be honest. You'll figure it out, I promise:)
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I have not had the same experience, but i have had a similar one. i found out that both of my best female friends ae bi. i dint have a problem with my friend amber, but 2 yrs later when i found out my bff was it like put me in shock and i didnt no what to think. i dont have a problem with bi or gay people, but when it is somebody u have known 4 a long time it will affect u more than it would if u didnt no them.
so just be honest and tell her how u feel about the situation
so just be honest and tell her how u feel about the situation
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Well this topic is very close to me now as my girlfriend told me she lost her virginity to a girl, and has changed the sex of who she dated often. I had to say I was very surprised and kinda uncomfortable with this new found knowledge. After thinking about it over the past few nights I really don't like the fact she is bi because its a theataning feeling to know that if we break up she might be leaving me for a girl.
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I dont kow about the other guys on here, but I'm not into the whole Bi-sexual girl thing. My opinion is that if you are with another chick that DOES make you a lesbian. If one of my male friends kissed another guy, I would label him as being gay, no exceptions.
I wouldnt be able to date a chick that has been with other girls. I know many will disagree with me and I respect that. I'm not saying I'm right, Its a choice. The same way that some men prefer blondes over brunettes. I'm not a gay basher or anything like that either. I just dont want to know what you do in your bedroom and I wish people would respect the fact that seeing that stuff is shocking to the conscience, of us straight folks.
I wouldnt be able to date a chick that has been with other girls. I know many will disagree with me and I respect that. I'm not saying I'm right, Its a choice. The same way that some men prefer blondes over brunettes. I'm not a gay basher or anything like that either. I just dont want to know what you do in your bedroom and I wish people would respect the fact that seeing that stuff is shocking to the conscience, of us straight folks.
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SO what if a girl kisses a girl, then kiss a guy? your logic must explode by then because kissing a girl means shes a LESBIAN but kissing a guy means shes STRAIT
oh gosh gollies no no inbetween at all!! what do you sherlock guest holmes?
it's called bisexual. get used to it and get over yourselves. just because a girl's bi doesn't mean shes forcing you to be bi.
oh gosh gollies no no inbetween at all!! what do you sherlock guest holmes?
it's called bisexual. get used to it and get over yourselves. just because a girl's bi doesn't mean shes forcing you to be bi.
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Dude I am a female
have a boyfriend I am Bisexual he thinks it's hot :D I think he may be bisexual too
have a boyfriend I am Bisexual he thinks it's hot :D I think he may be bisexual too
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having a Bisexual girlfriend is somehow a guy's dream but when you are confronted with it, it is another story. There is also a difference between being Bi curious and completely bisexesual. lets no get those 2 facts mixed up.
So I totally understand your position because I am in this same situation. I love her dearly and I have learn that she was completely bi (and not just curious) she told me she could love a man or a woman exactly the same way. She doesnt have a preference in gender whatsoever...something that I do accept but will never understand completely.
for those who dont understand the position a guy is in this situation, you cant until you actually experienced it, so please refrain from judgement. There is a certain feeling of jalousy that can surface, but not the same feeling as if another guy would be in the vinicity. Being a man, there is no way in hell that you can mimic, reproduce or replace what another woman can bring or do to her. Therefore this "jalousy" turns more into the "inhability" feeling, that you cannot do anything about it because you are simply not a woman.
like other said, if she choosed you, then you are the lucky one. It is you and her together.
On the other hand (the possible 'bonus' part, it is true that if you guys are ever talking about "sharing" pleasure with other(s), she would probably be more willing to bring another girl that you both like into your plays than if she was a girlfriend that is not bi or just bi-curious. Just accept that you cannot compete with another girl and that you shouldnt anyway. She is with you for the guy that you are.
So I totally understand your position because I am in this same situation. I love her dearly and I have learn that she was completely bi (and not just curious) she told me she could love a man or a woman exactly the same way. She doesnt have a preference in gender whatsoever...something that I do accept but will never understand completely.
for those who dont understand the position a guy is in this situation, you cant until you actually experienced it, so please refrain from judgement. There is a certain feeling of jalousy that can surface, but not the same feeling as if another guy would be in the vinicity. Being a man, there is no way in hell that you can mimic, reproduce or replace what another woman can bring or do to her. Therefore this "jalousy" turns more into the "inhability" feeling, that you cannot do anything about it because you are simply not a woman.
like other said, if she choosed you, then you are the lucky one. It is you and her together.
On the other hand (the possible 'bonus' part, it is true that if you guys are ever talking about "sharing" pleasure with other(s), she would probably be more willing to bring another girl that you both like into your plays than if she was a girlfriend that is not bi or just bi-curious. Just accept that you cannot compete with another girl and that you shouldnt anyway. She is with you for the guy that you are.
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My gf that I've going out with for a couple weeks now tells me that she has dated girls before, and she enjoys eating girls out... I though it was quite sexy at first but now I feel kind of uncomfortable with her... any advice?
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No advice as such, but just do what your hearts telling you mate. You're feeling uncomfortable about it so.....
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