Don't listen to the guy above me. I'm a 20 year old male that grew up looking at playboy. I was a virgin until I was 18 and I never even got to see her because it was dark. I always thought that's what a vulva looked like ( no protruding labia). I currently have a girlfriend that was sooo nervous to let me see her or go down on her. She finally told me that she was uncomfortable with her large labia and that she was having surgery soon to remove it. Anyways, she let me see her and it was beautiful. I had to admire and caress it. I truly want her to realize that it's extremely normal and HOT :-D
So I have a question for you - How do I let her know that she's beautiful the way she is. I've tried telling her, but she thinks I'm just trying to be nice %-)
So I have a question for you - How do I let her know that she's beautiful the way she is. I've tried telling her, but she thinks I'm just trying to be nice %-)
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i have a large labia and im 19
and ive been with a bunch of guys
not once has any of them said anything, and for the most part i have been with them more than once, they keep coming back lol
as for my first time
i was so scared of what guys might think
but the first time a guy went down on me was with lights on and everything
i was so self-conscious and found i couldnt really enjoy myself
but we ended fooling around again and i lightened up a bit
after that it still bothered me when i was with a guy for the first time but like i said so far so good
im not scared to have sex with anyone now, i think im completely over it
its just to walk around and be completely naked in front of someone that i still need to get used to, i just think that its more noticable when you're not in the middle of having sex and it kinda bothers me
i just keep telling myself to get over, it just takes time to get used to i think
well hope that helped one of you
if anyone has questions feel free to ask or send me a private message
and ive been with a bunch of guys
not once has any of them said anything, and for the most part i have been with them more than once, they keep coming back lol
as for my first time
i was so scared of what guys might think
but the first time a guy went down on me was with lights on and everything
i was so self-conscious and found i couldnt really enjoy myself
but we ended fooling around again and i lightened up a bit
after that it still bothered me when i was with a guy for the first time but like i said so far so good
im not scared to have sex with anyone now, i think im completely over it
its just to walk around and be completely naked in front of someone that i still need to get used to, i just think that its more noticable when you're not in the middle of having sex and it kinda bothers me
i just keep telling myself to get over, it just takes time to get used to i think
well hope that helped one of you
if anyone has questions feel free to ask or send me a private message
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look her in the eyes and say
"listen, i dont care if you believe me or not but i really believe its beautiful and a part of who you are"
i think she'll believe you after that
"listen, i dont care if you believe me or not but i really believe its beautiful and a part of who you are"
i think she'll believe you after that
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I have the same issue, and am just wondering if any female out there knows if a large labia can cause urinary tract infections &/or yeast infections?? ?? ??
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not sure about UTI, thats usually from not peeing after sex, make sure you do that
as for yeast infections, i think it make relate
i get them every so often
as for yeast infections, i think it make relate
i get them every so often
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After reading everyones comments I feel no better although it is comforting to know that I'm not a freak. I'm 20 and have large labia, I've been with my current boyfriend for 3 years and hes never mentioned anything about this although he lost his virginity to me so can't compare I suppose. But I usually have to be drunk just to have sex because I feel so self concious.
My previous boyfriend however told all his friends and everyone at work and made fun and everyone at work joined in. :$
I have suffered with depression since I was 14 and often think about my body and although (not to sound vain) I think I'm ok looking, I'm not fat and have alot to be gratefull for. But when I think about whats down there I often feel suicidle and in previous years have even self harmed about the situation, I have been to see a counseller and I realise now that it was silly, but still to this day when I see myself in the mirror I cry and sometimes convince myself that just one cut will help.
I feel insane!! Especially about something that sounds so common.
But I also get alot of water infections, one or two a month and I wondered if this would help me get a labail reduction on the nhs???? as i've looked into it privately and i just can't afford it. Although I'm scared to mention it to my doctor as I've never spoke about it to ANYONE because I'm so ashamed.
Has anyone got any helpfull advise???
My previous boyfriend however told all his friends and everyone at work and made fun and everyone at work joined in. :$
I have suffered with depression since I was 14 and often think about my body and although (not to sound vain) I think I'm ok looking, I'm not fat and have alot to be gratefull for. But when I think about whats down there I often feel suicidle and in previous years have even self harmed about the situation, I have been to see a counseller and I realise now that it was silly, but still to this day when I see myself in the mirror I cry and sometimes convince myself that just one cut will help.
I feel insane!! Especially about something that sounds so common.
But I also get alot of water infections, one or two a month and I wondered if this would help me get a labail reduction on the nhs???? as i've looked into it privately and i just can't afford it. Although I'm scared to mention it to my doctor as I've never spoke about it to ANYONE because I'm so ashamed.
Has anyone got any helpfull advise???
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I am a female in my early twenties and I too have a some what stretched labia minora. I used to be very worried about how it looks, but then I talked about it with my boyfriend at the time. He said not to worry about it, that it was beautiful and that he liked it just the way it was. So I just want to let the rest of you females out there know that you are not alone and DO NOT let anyone tell you that you are deformed or ugly. You find someone who respects you and your body!! I agree with the possibility that it may happen when using the restroom, pay attention to the way you wipe after using the restroom.
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I'm a happily married, 33-year-old with large inner labia. Mine didn't come about until I hit puberty. I was all kinds of insecure about it for years and still am somewhat. I have to say that my husband has been the biggest help in acquiring self confidence regarding this issue. He thinks they're beautiful and they remind him of rose petals. He has been horrified with any mentions of surgery that I've ever made. I'm still working on getting enough self confidence to include female exams during my yearly physical. It's a process and it doesn't happen over night. But I have happily decided not to get my "petals" clipped, so to speak.
I can't wear tight jeans or underwear. Occasionally a seam will put pressure on them causing pain. I have to be careful what kind of bathing suit I wear. But I figure that there are well endowed men out there who have to make similar adjustments in their everyday lives to stay comfortable. And that's all we are, ladies. Well endowed. We shouldn't any more want surgery to reduce anything than a man would just to look like everyone else. It's horrific to believe we're abnormal simply because we're unique. If anyone finds us disgusting, that's their problem.
I can't wear tight jeans or underwear. Occasionally a seam will put pressure on them causing pain. I have to be careful what kind of bathing suit I wear. But I figure that there are well endowed men out there who have to make similar adjustments in their everyday lives to stay comfortable. And that's all we are, ladies. Well endowed. We shouldn't any more want surgery to reduce anything than a man would just to look like everyone else. It's horrific to believe we're abnormal simply because we're unique. If anyone finds us disgusting, that's their problem.
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once upon a time my left labia minora was hypertrophied and it took me a minute to figure out what was up because it was UNCOMFORTABLE when i wore LOOSE clothing. i asked my doctor about it (who had never mentioned anything after 9 years of being her patient so obviously it's totally common cuz my OBGYN is tha sh*t) and she said that if it was uncomfortable i could possibly be a candidate for surgery.
it WAS uncomfortable and i don't like to use the H word but i hated it! i couldn't even walk around naked without noticing how sensitive and uncomfortable it was, rightly so because the labia minora is highly vascular (lotsa blood vessels) so it's noticeable when your clothing/body comes in contact with it.
anyway, i ended up getting the surgery to reduce it to be within the labia majora and i couldn't not be happier about my choice. i know surgery is extreme and i don't even like to take advil or go to the doctor. so believe me people it was not my first choice. but it did go smoothly because the type of tissue in this region of the body regenerates quickly (i will tell you that i went from a speed walker to a super slow walker real quick for a minute there ;-)
i hope this helps all of you that are experiencing this. REMEMBER i am totally down with the hypertrophied labia minora but if it is uncomfortable and you just can't stand it i wanted to let you know i've been through it and this is how it turned out. for all the males that posted about how it's dope when girls have large labia minora and
"it's a turn on" are the sh*t...way to keep it real!
L8
ps~ people make fun of things all the time but they know they really are about it......and alotta doods dig that sh*t ;P
it WAS uncomfortable and i don't like to use the H word but i hated it! i couldn't even walk around naked without noticing how sensitive and uncomfortable it was, rightly so because the labia minora is highly vascular (lotsa blood vessels) so it's noticeable when your clothing/body comes in contact with it.
anyway, i ended up getting the surgery to reduce it to be within the labia majora and i couldn't not be happier about my choice. i know surgery is extreme and i don't even like to take advil or go to the doctor. so believe me people it was not my first choice. but it did go smoothly because the type of tissue in this region of the body regenerates quickly (i will tell you that i went from a speed walker to a super slow walker real quick for a minute there ;-)
i hope this helps all of you that are experiencing this. REMEMBER i am totally down with the hypertrophied labia minora but if it is uncomfortable and you just can't stand it i wanted to let you know i've been through it and this is how it turned out. for all the males that posted about how it's dope when girls have large labia minora and
"it's a turn on" are the sh*t...way to keep it real!
L8
ps~ people make fun of things all the time but they know they really are about it......and alotta doods dig that sh*t ;P
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If you are worried of your labia being the cause of several problems, such as infections, ask a DOCTOR, not a stranger on the internet who can be anywhere between your 11-year-old niece to my 80-year-old grandpa.
I personally don't think they relate to infections. Some women are more prone to yeast infections/urinary infections due to hormonal changes, not the size of their labia.
I personally don't think they relate to infections. Some women are more prone to yeast infections/urinary infections due to hormonal changes, not the size of their labia.
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Skye, I think that it is unlikely that "water infections" would be caused by your labia. As you get "one or two a month" then you should see your Doctor and certainly see your Doctor if you also have a back ache, as that may mean that you have a serious kidney infection. You should not be embarrassed by your large labia, they are perfectly normal and your Doctor will have seen large labia before. You are not a freak, you are perfectly normal. Having large labia is no different to having large breasts or large feet, it is in your genes. We are all different, wouldn't it be boring if we all looked the same!
However:-
"Water infections" are fairly common in women because the urethra is very close to the vagina and the anus. Consequently, it is important that you wipe from front to back, and NOT the other way round.
If you use perfumed soap or put any perfumed products on your vulva then they could create an allergic reaction, so use a pure soap.
Drinking plenty of water every day will help to flush out the bacteria; recommendations vary but drinking at least 2 litres per day seems to be the norm.
Also, drinking a glass of cranberry juice every day helps prevent infections but is only a preventative measure not a cure.
Before sex you should reduce the possibility of introducing bacteria by ensuring that both you and your bf have clean hands and bodies. Ensure that there is no anal contact before entering the vagina, or at least wash the body parts before entering the vagina. Also ensure that you are well lubricated so that the skin around the urethra does not get cracked and harbour bacteria. Urinating after sex may also help to flush out bacteria. CONSEQUENTLY, BEING DRUNK BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX IS NOT A GOOD IDEA.
On a personal note, I love large labia and if I were 20 years younger I would marry you.
However:-
"Water infections" are fairly common in women because the urethra is very close to the vagina and the anus. Consequently, it is important that you wipe from front to back, and NOT the other way round.
If you use perfumed soap or put any perfumed products on your vulva then they could create an allergic reaction, so use a pure soap.
Drinking plenty of water every day will help to flush out the bacteria; recommendations vary but drinking at least 2 litres per day seems to be the norm.
Also, drinking a glass of cranberry juice every day helps prevent infections but is only a preventative measure not a cure.
Before sex you should reduce the possibility of introducing bacteria by ensuring that both you and your bf have clean hands and bodies. Ensure that there is no anal contact before entering the vagina, or at least wash the body parts before entering the vagina. Also ensure that you are well lubricated so that the skin around the urethra does not get cracked and harbour bacteria. Urinating after sex may also help to flush out bacteria. CONSEQUENTLY, BEING DRUNK BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX IS NOT A GOOD IDEA.
On a personal note, I love large labia and if I were 20 years younger I would marry you.
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I am a 14 year old girl... I have never had sex or been touch by a dude sexually. I have a large labia minora, i have notice it before but now that im getting older its alittle bit uncomfortable. My other friends dont have it(so they say) but i do. why do i have it? is it normal? one day when i become sexually active what am i supposes to do about it. its not cute. its stretchy and a brown color. :$ :$ Please help me cuz i cant explain it to my mother.
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I am a 15 year old girl who also has this problem. i feel very self conscious about it because it hangs out and is a darkish color. i always assumed that this was abnormal and while i feel a little better about it after reading these posts, i still feel uncomfortable with it. I dont remember when i started noticing that it hung out, but i know that ive masturbated before and at first i was scared that this had something do do with it. i had a boyfriend for about 5 months and we broke up about 3 months ago. im a virgin and ive never had sex, but he touched me down there and fingered me and stuff and i trusted him so it never really bothered me, but im so scared that if i find a guy i like and want to be intimate with that ill feel self conscious about it.
sometimes i even try to tuck it in because im so embarrassed by it. I feel like a freak and ive never told anyone about this. The worst part is, (not meaning to sound conceited) I'm a very smart and pretty girl and i always have guys after me wanting to get with me. Im holding off on sex for a while but im scared to be intimate.... help?!
sometimes i even try to tuck it in because im so embarrassed by it. I feel like a freak and ive never told anyone about this. The worst part is, (not meaning to sound conceited) I'm a very smart and pretty girl and i always have guys after me wanting to get with me. Im holding off on sex for a while but im scared to be intimate.... help?!
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wow.. im the same. but its starting to cause me discomfort.. i think i should see someone about it, but im too embarassed to talk to anyone about it.. where should i go?
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