Hi, I'm 42 and am trying to decide whether or not to get a circumcision. I'm a bit torn in a couple different ways and could use some advice, especially if there's anyone in my specific situation.
It's hard to say if I can really reach having a normal foreskin. I had a preputioplasty done in 2009 and it didn't help much. Ideally I want to keep my foreskin but if I knew it would make sex easier I'd go forward with the surgery. I have had a few doctors tell me I would need a circumcision but today I was told by a Urologist that I do not have phimosis since my foreskin can retract when I'm flaccid and he would not recommend circumcision. That said he is a testosterone-oriented Urologist so I'm not 100% sure I trust his opinion. He's an outlier but I have had some moderate improvements in foreskin movement lately so maybe it's not unreasonable to keep trying.
The other complication is that since it's been hidden for pretty much all my life the glans of my penis are very sensitive. I've read some stories about people getting circumcised under these circumstances and being in pain for months on end. I can imagine what that'd be like. Ugh. Since I can pull my foreskin back I can get a sense of what it'll be like, and yeah, it's not pleasant. :\ I'm also not sure if my foreskin is contributing to the pain during sex because it's tight or if the pain is just because my glans have been hidden for so long. They are sensitive both when flaccid and erect though I think it's worse when erect (more blood flow + foreskin pressure)
So basically my options are:
1. Keep stretching and hoping the lower grade phimosis goes away. I'll still have the sensitive glans issue but at least I can work on that on my terms rather than having them completely exposed though honestly that would guarantee that they would be desensitized at some point.
2. Go for a circumcision. That would fix the phimosis immediately but I worry about the irreversible effects on my enjoyment of sex along with exactly how long the extreme sensitivity phase would last.
In terms of trying to make option 1 work, for stretching I plan on basically doing what I'm already doing, but if anyone has recommendations on techniques, toys, etc, that might be most effective I'm definitely listening. As for desensitizing I'm thinking of trying to sleep with my glans exposed. We'll see how that works out. If anyone has advice here as well I'd appreciate it.
Lastly, the Urologist I saw today suggested that testosterone treatment could help a bit with sensitivity as it would make sex more pleasurable in general. That felt a bit dubious or at least hopeful. Anyone have experience with that?
Hi, when your doing the stretching exercises are you doing them when erect or flaccid and what do they consist of you doing? There are many different sorts of ways to stretch your foreskin from just pulling back when erect and letting the swollen glands stretch it to using your fingers to stretch tho opening or other items.
Every guy has the same issues about sensitivity at first when retracting there foreskin but the more you can keep the foreskin back and get use to touching the glands the faster it goes as the skin over the glands will start to dry out, my advice would be to keep your foreskin as it's a stimulation point during intercourse.
I don't think I really appreciated how separate these issues were. I thought the tightness was more to blame for the sensitivity but nah, gotta figure out how to deal with both of them.