My boyfriend is not necessarily huge, but they way he moves tends to make me sore around the outside. In addition to lube and foreplay, I find it helps to shave or trim down there as well. The hair may not necessarily cause irritation, but it does help the lubrication to move around a bit more and we can slide against each other more easily.
Also, try different positions. I find that switching it up a bit gives certain areas a much needed break!
Also, try different positions. I find that switching it up a bit gives certain areas a much needed break!
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Are you well lubricated before actual penetration begins? I have heard form a doc (and some friends) that on average, a woman may need between fifteen to twenty minutes to reach total vaginal relaxation and readiness for intercourse, where men are about two to four minutes. If penetration occurs too quickly the lady may well experience soreness during or after intimacy.
Furthermore, many women are allergic to the presence of semen in the vagina. It is important to wash after intercourse with plenty of lukewarm water.
I hope this helps everyone.
Have Fun and Good Luck Ladies.
Furthermore, many women are allergic to the presence of semen in the vagina. It is important to wash after intercourse with plenty of lukewarm water.
I hope this helps everyone.
Have Fun and Good Luck Ladies.
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I have the same problem with my boyfriend. I have found that it is actually the angle of penetration and his penis rubbing against that bottom part of my vagina. Although it feels nice from that angle, do not stay there long. A good break from the soreness is going doggy style on hands and knees. The penis goes straight in and does not rub on the outside. If it is still a problem, make sure the woman arches her back while being penetrated this way.
This has helped me, hope it helps you too! :-D
This has helped me, hope it helps you too! :-D
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i have had this exact problem for about 4 years, i have been told about this local anaesthetic cream you can get from the doctor that you can apply to the part that gets sore about 20 minutes before, i know this seems to take the romance out of it, but so does wincing every time you sit down for the next three days.
it started for me after i had a really awful experience having a coil fitted and i always thought it might be some kind of underlying anxiety because it certainly doesn't relate to my enjoyment, i only find that using lube helps a bit, it doesn't totally sort it out .
i have found it hard when men think it means they aren't good enough at foreplay and it makes me feel like I'm not good enough too, when i really know that neither are true.
it started for me after i had a really awful experience having a coil fitted and i always thought it might be some kind of underlying anxiety because it certainly doesn't relate to my enjoyment, i only find that using lube helps a bit, it doesn't totally sort it out .
i have found it hard when men think it means they aren't good enough at foreplay and it makes me feel like I'm not good enough too, when i really know that neither are true.
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im not sure if it is normal to have one section of my vagina hurt so much. i have to be very lubed in order to contemplate having sex with my bf because it hurts, him being behind me seems to stop it from hurting as much but sometimes the lube can cause me to 'sting' on that side. Hes older than me and bigger than im used to, could this be the matter? he isnt displaying any symptoms so im guessing it isnt an std???
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I had this problem -- it turned out to be an allergy to the latex in the condoms. Latex allergies are not uncommon, and if this is the problem it will actually get worse with repeated exposures. If you are both monogamous and are free of STD's you might consider switching to the pill to see if it helps. I understand that there are non-latex condoms out there but I haven't found any myself.
I realize this post is old, but perhaps someone will find it helpful as the Google :-)
I realize this post is old, but perhaps someone will find it helpful as the Google :-)
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Well it was great to find this website I have been married for 6 years and for about the last 4 years everytime after sex I get really sore that i cant lie down or anything and it hurts when I pee, BUT it only happens when my husband cums, when he doesn't and it's only me that cumz it doesn't hurt at all and that's what is puzzling me??? I hate going to docotors but if anyone has any advice would love to hear it??
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i had the same problem with soreness i use pleasure gel and it helps with the dryness
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What brand do you use? I'd like to hear if you have anything you'd specifically endorse! THanks :)
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hahaha, god makes sex hurt ... that's a laugh, and i guess, does that mean jesus is really watching when u masterbate! the perv...!
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That is an interesting position but my understanding is that he position is that sex is for procreation only, at least according to the perspective that you are talking from. Am I mistaken? I know that there is no biological reason to feel prolonged pain during sex.
I just got married and was wondering the same thing, after reading the suggestions here I came across something that I hope won't come across as rude, but just thought it could change someones life... I think the reason that some of you are having these issues continuously, is becasue you are not married. God doesn't honor sin. And all though we are all sinners and can only be saved from hell by knowing Jesus, God made sex for our pleasure. If you are not following His law by being married before sex, then He won't bless you with great sex.
That is an interesting position but my understanding is that he position is that sex is for procreation only, at least according to the perspective that you are talking from. Am I mistaken? I know that there is no biological reason to feel prolonged pain during sex.
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she may have thrush . that can be very sore if you have sex when someone has it . has she been to the doctor , i would advise that . they will be able to sort out any problem's if there is one .. and they are very friendly
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lauren clare wrote:
JUst FYI if you can't get to a doctor then they also treat thrush at a free clinic or planned parenthood too. Not always for free, but it's worth your time if you can go.
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Same problem here, she doesn't want to have sex as much because she knows it will hurt afterwards. My was also 19 when it started.
she may have thrush . that can be very sore if you have sex when someone has it . has she been to the doctor , i would advise that . they will be able to sort out any problem's if there is one .. and they are very friendly
JUst FYI if you can't get to a doctor then they also treat thrush at a free clinic or planned parenthood too. Not always for free, but it's worth your time if you can go.
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I used to be able to have sex and be alright. But after a while, I was getting soreness. This was with one boyfriend, whose virginity I took. I broke up with him and started dating someone else. He was a virgin as well, but I was still having the soreness. I am positive I do not have an STI, I was tested for that. It is really weird, I will be alright for a while, and then just in the middle of intercourse, it hurts. I have no clue what this is. Again, there are no bubbles, spots, cuts, bleeding, anything. It gets really puffy, once to the point where my vagina was closed because it was so puffy, the inner flaps were so enflamed that you could see them from the outside. They were so swollen they looked like bubbles, and they were hot and swollen. I have tried hemp lubricant, because it said it was healing. But really, I have no clue what to do. I am in college, and commuting, living with an older religious lady, and I don't have my license, so I cannot drive anywhere without telling her. I can't tell her.... HELP!!!!
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Try getting her relaxed with a bath first, a glass of wine or two glasess and start with a massage, foreplay. If it hurts still she needs to build a pain tolerance.If you are the first partners, and she was a virgin before you....then she needs to build a tolerance, figure what SHE likes, she needs to either watch porn or bedcome more involved in experimenting. Try anal.
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