Lower Vaginal Soreness during & after sex

uh hey. so my boy toy is like really f*****g big. and it like tears the sh*t outa my vag. weve been using water based lube and it sucks balls (not as good as me though) ;)so whas tha DE@L???

Sorry newlywed84. I've been with my man for about 8 years now, and there were no orgasms until 6 months into it. It may just take a while for your mind to relax and you and your man to learn what specific "sequences" get your mind blown. As far as soreness, make sure you are both trimmed to minimize friction and also lube up to minimize friction. Just rubbing your arm for 30 minutes straight can cause dry sore skin so it shouldn't be a surprize that the same thing can happen down there. Hope this helps.

the same happenes to me and its just bc my bf is huge

I am 60 & had sex a couple of days ago for the first time in 12+ years with a much younger guy-didn't know it the soreness is because it's been so long & "things" had tightened up...he was so anxious that there was hardly any foreplay so I know I was not lubricated & I had to make him stop because of the pain & soreness...after almost a week-I'm still very sore to the point that I'm thinking of seeing my gyn...I was hoping someone knew of a cream or something to use to see if the pain will ease up...already know that I'll be embarrassed telling him I had sex afer all these years

I bet all the guys here are circumcised wich causes alot more friction

 

lube is essential, but id suggest trying a silicone based lube instead of water based... it lasts much longer and seems to provide more lubrication... this helped me when nothing else seemed to andyes, hot baths afterwards

well i had the same problem...dr found i had low hermones.....fixed it right up...

 

My boyfriend of over 2 years isn't circumcised, we don't wear condoms, I use a local contraception (NuvaRing), we use a lot of silicone based lubricant (to avoid yeast infection), there is usually foreplay and I do get wet. BUT I dry up fairly quickly and often get sore during sex. I often feel like a have wound at the bottom of my vagina, but gynecologists have found nothing and only given me estrogen cream to fix me up. They all say the same; there's nothing wrong here, just use lubricant and have a long foreplay. We have sex often (usually once a day).

This is driving us (particularly him) nuts.

 

So I am 21, lost my virginity at 16, no pain at all during sex. After my 19th birthday, I started getting unbearable pain. It is the lower part of my vagina. I have been to the doctor, I have no STD's, the guy I am with right now is a fairly standard size for me, so I know it is not his size. I get pain in the lower part of my vagina, near the perineum ( however you spell it). I always use condoms, and at the moment I am not on birth control. Usually I get the depo shot. I know it is not the lubrication because I become fairly wet during sex, we also use lubrication, so that isn't the issue. I am not usually patient enough for foreplay, so that rarely happens. My doctor has not said anything, and cannot find anything. I went to him with this problem and he did a full check up, and swabbed, and said to try massaging and inserting a finger or two and try and stretch and relax the muscles. The initial penetration hurts but after that I am good. The positions I found that reduce the soreness for me, Just a little bit, is just plain old doggie style, nothing extra like him elevated, b/c that right there is not ok. also me laying flat on my stomach and him inserting from behind, and then anything with me on top. I am still going to be sore for a few days 3 or 4 at the most, but it could be worse.

So if anybody has any other information, i will gladly appreciate, because like i said it is just the lower part of the vagina that hurts, not the whole thing, like a lot of have posted.

 

i went to the doctor to find out what it was from and it was a cancer. so i would get yours checked out.

I've been looking for  possible causes for this because I have been experiencing similar symptoms. My boyfriend is well endowed, but in the 7 years we have been together the vaginal pain during and after intercourse has only started within the last couple years. Possible causes could be Vulvodynia: 

characterized as a burning, stinging, irritation or sharp pain that occurs in the vulva, including the labia and entrance to the vagina. It may be constant, intermittent or happen only when the vulva is touched, but vulvodynia is usually defined as lasting for years.

Symptoms may occur in one place or the entire vulvar area. It can occur during or after sexual activity, when tampons are inserted, or when prolonged pressure is applied to the vulva, such as during sitting, bike riding, or horseback riding.[5] Some cases of vulvodynia are idiopathic where no particular cause can be determined.

 

Possible causes are: Possible causes include: genetic predisposition to inflammation,[7] allergy or other sensitivity (for example: oxalates in the urine), an autoimmune disorder similar to lupus erythematosus or toeczema or to lichen sclerosus, infection (e.g., yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, HPV, HSV), injury, and neuropathy—including an increased number of nerve endings in the vaginal area. Some cases seem to be negative outcomes of genital surgery, such as a Labioplasty. Initiation of hormonal contraceptives that contain low- dose estrogen before the age of 16 could predispose women to vulvar vestibulitis syndrome. A significantly lower pain threshold, especially in the posterior vestibulum, has also been associated with the use of hormonal contraceptives in women without vulvar vestibulitis syndrome.[8] Pelvic floor dysfunction may be the underlying cause of some women's pain.[9]

 

Doctors aren't generally aware of this as a diagnosis but in other discussion forums women have said this was the most likely cause. Apparently, can get special creams or medications to help.

I also have sore in my vigina it is not paining but i cant lubricate or enjoy sex any more my doctor told me that the gland that lubricates has been inflamme that they need to operate it .pls i need your help wheither operation is the solution

I agree that it in part has to do with his large size however it could also be a friction type burn from the condoms which are latex and if the lubricant is used before your body naturally produces some form of moisture then your body may not be ready for intercourse. Remember your causing small vaginal tears during sex, and then your body will try and heal itself afterwards. It may help to use a douche to cleanse the area afterwards and then apply a topical ointment to the area to assist healing In addition maybe cleansing daily with baby oil while wiping after toilet ing could also help soften the skin around the area aswell Hope this helps

Hun, it sounds like you need a lot more foreplay with him. He may not like going slower, but you'll both enjoy it more. Discover what you both like most--where you both like to be kissed and touched and so on. Try going for an orgasm on top. The vagina is also a muscle, use it. ;) Pacing and how deep or shallow can also be a factor.

I have the same situation.ive been with my bf 11 years.the only time im not feeling the soreness is when a condom is used.I'm not sure if just the skin on skin contact is sensitive in that area.if gone to my gyno and everything is normal.it is annoying because its stops me from sex.