One thing I have noticed though is that when I do last very short like 30seconds, usually the last time I masturbated I didn't finish and didn't ejacualted (I just masterbated and stopped sorta) and I feel like this makes my arousal build up for the next time I masturbate, if that makes sense?
If I last this long sometimes just masturbating it makes me worried to the real thing.
(But when I do last 30min or so it dosn't take me actaully 30min to ejacualte I just masterbate for 30mins, If I feel like i'm close to coming I stop for 5 or so seconds and keep going)
I want to actually learn how to control myself and make it actually take me 30mins to ejacualte, not when I feel like Ejacualting I have to stop and keep going and continue doing this for 30mins.
I've heard Kegels work, I want to start doing them but am unsure, do you do them with an erect or flacid penis?
What do you think I should do? I heard about desensitizing creams and will use them when I'm having sex, But what can I do before I'm ready for sex?
I was in the similar situation, just like you. But that was eight years ago and I was really ashamed to tell this to someone, I felt like I am having some sexual problem, and that is not true. When we are talking about kegel exercises for men , you should know that as much as I wish that kegels were enough to tackle premature ejaculation, they probably aren't for most guys. Also, they are harder to get right than you might expect. I am telling this from my own experience, I was never able to learn those exercise, no matter how I tried. Maybe that is why I didn't find them helpful. I mean, definitely, that is why.
You just have to practice getting close and learning to pause or mentally talk yourself down.
Just remember that a lot of girls get sore after anywhere from 5-15 minutes.
So don't overdo the stamina thing.
During masturbation when I stroke my penis fast, in about 40 seconds I feel that I would ejaculate , so I stop stroking my penis for just 10 secs and I start again or i slow down my pace .By this way I can masturbate for as long as I want ,say for 40 mins also . When I stroke my penis at slow pace i get feeling of ejaculation in 2 mins or 1.5 mins so I stop for 10 secs and start again . My total masturbationtime is 20-30 mins always .
So I have a questions
1) when a man continuelly stroke his penis at fast pace , in how many seconds he should get feeling of ejaculation ??
2) I also want to know timmimg for moderate pace
3) am I suffering from premature ejaculation ??