Trying to get pregnant for 3 years with very irregular periods.

yes. my husband and i have been tryin for two years and i to have very irregular periods. i havent had one for a year.. and i went to the doc and they said my utures is twice as big sa it suppost to be. and i wont to knw the same thing bout how come everyone else is gettin pregnant but i cant... i hope you and i both get our hearts desire...

I wasn't sure if I'd ever be able to have a baby because I would always skip periods for 3 or 4 months at a time my whole life and often go for a year or more with no periods at all. I was able to get pregnant a few months after I got married and today we have a 9 year old daughter. When we tried to have another child it took 7 1/2 years of heartache trying to conceive. I must have gone to more than a dozen different doctors. They would all refer me to someone else and I kept getting a run-around. Then we'd move or change insurances and I'd start all over again. Nobody had any real answers for me over the 7 1/2 years. Some would say PCOS, then one told me that its considered just a blanket-term for anyone with irregular periods. One doctor told me that I shouldn't diagnose myself with PCOS over the internet (which I didn't) and that there is no way to know whether you have PCOS without an ultrasound (which I never had). No one ever talked to me about fertility treatments or spent any real time trying to figure out what the problem is. They'd just give me the same old blood tests and a pap smear and then pass me off to another doctor (where I'd have the same tests). One doctor told me that I should stop complaining and join a gym. I was furious, as you can probably imagine. After a while I gave up and just prayed that I would somehow get pregnant anyhow. It took several more years after I stopped trying to get medical answers, but I was surprised one day to get a positive result on a pregnancy test (which I wasn't even going to take because I was tired of being disappointed and figured I probably just had the flu!).

I just read all of the posts on this topic today after coming home from my 6-week postpartum checkup. Its weird, but once I finally got pregnant they considered the fertility problem resolved (like it was somehow magically "fixed") and now that the baby is born I'm right back in the "unexplained infertility" boat again. (By the way, they did an ultrasound of my ovaries during the pregnancy and there were NO cysts, so thats not the problem like many doctors assumed it was). Today at my check-up my doctor told me to come back in the first time I miss a period so they can confirm pregnancy. I didn't argue with him because there is no point, but for me a missed period is nothing to get excited about. I know there are many, many families who are struggling to have their first child, and I am grateful for the children I have been able to have, but the frustration is still there and I still have no answers. We want another child eventually and I hate to think that it will be another 7 years this time because I'm in my mid-30's already.

Hey, i don't know if anyone is still using this posting, but i just want to say, i too have been having a hard long frustrating time trying to conceive. Its been 2 long years and its making me sad and depressed! I know people say not to stress or think about it, but its hard when people are having kids left and right just because they want to. I have a cousin who has a child that is nearly 2 and they are havinganother just because they want to shoot for a girl. My sis-in-law has one that is nearly 2 also and she wants to try for another after highschool just because my cousin is pregnant with one. My sis in law does NOT even take care of her own child that well. My nephew would go tomy mom in law any day over his own mother. Shes 18(and not all 18 y.o. Are like this) but shes very irresponsible. My mother in law buys mostly all the babys clothing and diapers and all the babys needs! My hubby and i are his god parents and i treat him like my own, but sometimes when im babysitting him, it really breaks my heart that i dont have one of my own to spoil my own. I dont envy others, its just that i, and many other women, who want a child but cant conceive right now don't deserve this. My family, both sides are also very fertile. I don't know where i came from. Lol... But god luck to alm of you teying to conceivers! Hehe.. God bless you all and when the times right, i'm pretty sure it'll happen, and when it does, it'll be perfect. **Baby dust-:..:':-..->**

I am newly married and enjoying my life to the fullest. My husband and I have been trying for a year. I have the surprise cycles where I only get my period once in a blue moon. I had testing and the doctor said I ovulate but I been trying the kit for over 6 months and never does it say I'm ovulating. However, my doctor said I am again after I brought it to her attention. We have been trying for a few years now and the more and more we try, the more and more we get depressed with the same outcome as the previous pregnancy test. Everyone in my family is fertile except my sister. She has the syndrome where she doesn't ovulate and I get tested about every 2-3 months and I come up fine. I don't think I can take anymore disappointments. I'm so upset and depressed that all my friends are having play dates and I don't. They have "accident" babies and I can't even be blessed with a planned baby. I'm running out of hope...Please someone help.

Hi alshiffert,
I just want to encourage you to not give up your hope. Your time will come, just be patient. I know that this is hard thing to do when you are wanting a baby this much.
Has your husband checked himself, to see if everything is fine with him?

Absolutely. We've gone the whole nine yards! He has healthy sperm and there seems to be no issues with either of us besides me not getting regular periods. We're waiting to take a test in 2 weeks to see if we are now. If we aren't but we are keeping a positive mind, I will go back to my doctor and try a medicine that will help with my ovulation for better success. I'm so upset and feel like I won't ever be a mommy. We're trying to keep positive minds and a happy healthy life environment. We're just at the point where we're both getting depressed.
Thanks for encouraging us to keep positive though this tough time.

Hi alshiffert,
You said that you have irregular period. I was wondering if you ever been on any birth control to regulate your period? Has your doctor ever mentioned this?

Yes. I was on birth control for about 3 months before I had problems with it. I have a heart problem and my cardiologist cleared me for birth control and 3 months later, I was in the hospital because of it. I am now never allowed to go on any sort of birth control since before it almost killed me. I've been off of the birth control for years. If my husband and I aren't pregnant this time, I am going back to my doctor to talk about things I can go on to help. It's so frustrating that we've wanted a family since we were just dating and now we're married for going on 4 years and still no family of our own. Yes, we're still very young and on in our low 20's but we're still both so ready and so upset and depressed.

Hi alshiffert,
I don't understand how could your doctor put you on birth control if you had this kind of reaction!?
You have to know that stress is also a big factor in conceiving. If you stress about this too much, that is not a good sign. Try to relax and stay positive. Also it is a good idea to visit a doctor for raising the chances for conceiving.

I'm also wondering when did you stop your birth control? This year or earlier?

Last year I was on birth control to try to regulate my period just a little bit...What good that did me. We put trying to conceive on the back burner for a few months while we were thinking, "this would help."When I discussed our failure this year to my doctor, she said that the birth control has nothing to do with it now. That I should be more fertile going off of the birth control then I've been in years. I have an appointment on the 10th of December to talk with her if my husband and I didn't get lucky this time. If we did, then we get to see our baby for the first time. We're keeping a positive mind and we're thinking pregnant. I am doing everything that a pregnant woman would. Health wise. He's is being a healthy dad-to-be. This I think, is the most positive we've been throughout this entire year! We really feel like this is it. We're praying for the best!

Hi alshiffert,
I'm really glad that you and you dad-to-be :-) are positive about this. This is a right attitude. Just keep it on a high level.
Well in some women birth control can be more affecting then in others, but this is really a small percentage . But if your doctor said that it couldn't affected you, she is probably right.
Have you searched maybe for some fertility enhancements?
There are a lot of threads here, so feel free to look around.

Best regards

We really feel this is it! :-) Thanks for all this. Just the simple words of the tongue really helps me. We will look at some possible medications that I can go on to promote ovulation if necessary. I've been living on this site since I've found it. Great information and Its a relief to my heart and all the pain my husband and I've been going through, that we're not the only ones. I knew we weren't but we've felt so alone through this all. Here, I have people to talk to that understands the struggle. Thanks again!

Hi alshiffert,
I just want to say that I am very pleased that you have found many interesting things here. If you would like you can participate in other threads and give some comfort to others that seek it. You have been trying to conceive for a long time, and i hope that you are pregnant now.
When did you say that you will take the test? This week or next?

hey, im the guest right above you. Ehehe.. Well, DO NOT give up hope. I get to that stage so many times, but im trying to stay positive and i know it is so hard to, but you truly got to stay strong for yourself. Hey, at least your ovulating!! I can't ovulate on my own and even when i was put on clomid, i didn't ovulate and so my dr stopped it after 2 cycles. I was so so so sad! But you know, we got each others supports here. K. We know how it feels when it's hard ttc and even though you are ovulating, we don't know why it's hard for you too. But just dont give up. There was a lady i work with and she said it took her 6 yrs!!! to have her first child. Its a long time but she said she just stopped trying and BAM! there she was, preeegggooo! So, its hard but im going to try and stop trying cus it does get depressing! But when the times right, it'll happen and when it does i truly hope it WILL be perfect. :)

The soonest I can take the test is the 16th. However, my doctor said the 21st would be the best time which is 19 days after sex. That is the optimal time to take a test when you never know when you're going to ovulate or get your period. So we're taking one both days. I am starting to look around on this site and see if I can relate to things other than pregnancy. Thanks for all this support. Really means a lot to me.

My husband and I are trying to stay positive. We're just afraid of what the results can mimic. 6 years is such a long time! I'm glad she was able to conceive! I'm glad I'm ovulating still too but honestly, its so hard to feel like a full woman when you never get your period and have the slightest clue to when your ovulating. My sister can't have children without help from medication. Even with that, her doctor said that she still has a slim to no chance of conceiving. She's not trying to have a baby yet, she's not even married to her fiance' yet. But they talk about the disappointment all the time. They may never have their own children... I see children having babies who do not want them and drug addicts who have babies and sell them for drug money. Mothers who leave their children. Seriously, I can't even get pregnant. It breaks my heart seeing women having babies they don't want. People I know who just had babies are my age and honestly, I have never seen such bad parenting. They leave the baby home ALONE and they go out to party and drink and do drugs. I'm married, have a good job, been with the same man for 10 years! All of them either, don't know the baby's father, know the baby's father but it was a one night stand, or it's their ex boyfriend who is just as bad as a parent as they are. I don't understand how mother nature is working now-a-days. I'm just so glad I found this site and now have support that I've been looking for.
Thanks for this help!!