Unplanned Pregnancy.. what should i do?

Unfortunately I'm not gonna give you and answer to this question because there is no answer. If I were you I would answer the following questions and base your decision on them.

1. Will your relationship with your boyfriend survive after the abortion anyway? Do not base your decision on the possibility that your boyfriend will leave you if you decide to keep it.

2. What are my financial options if I do decide to keep the baby? Look into centrelink benefits etc. The father may be legally obligated to support the child regardless of his feelings towards it.  

3. How much support will I receive from family and friends?

4. Could I consider open adoption? A chance to let your baby live and still get to know them when you're ready. I am certainly not going to judge someone for choosing abortion because all women have the right to choose the circumstances in which you have children, however as a person struggling with fertility issues I would suggest that your baby could bring alot of joy to this world for yourself or for someone who yearns to have children.

Make sure that your decision is as informed as possible. Research all options and then in 20 years you will not question whether or not there were other possibilities that you didn't consider. I really hope this helps. Please keep us informed and remember that you and only you can make this difficult decision.

Good luck with everything!

If you're not ready for a baby and yet don't want to have abortion, one option is to put the baby for adoption. I'm sure there are a lot of people who want to adopt and who can provide a safe and loving home for that child.

thanks for your opinions, i have booked in for termination next week. Heart breaking i know but if i were to keep this child to adopt it out i know i wouldnt be able to give it up. 

Please don't let anyone judge you regarding this decision because everyone women has the right to choose. I can't imagine what you're going through at the moment. All I suggest is that you seek councelling to get you through it. No matter how you loose a baby, there is still a grieving process that you may need help with and don't be afraid to ask for help.

I was asked too come into this conversation! So I hope you don't mind me butting in!?

I can't imagine what your going through right now, I feel for you. I'm 22 years old and I have had 2 unplanned pregnancies with the same father for 4 years. It's really hard to come to terms with at the start and you really do have alot of choices. By what I have read by your comments, it seems to me like your not happy with the decision of abortion. As the others said, even if you did have an abortion would you and your parner stay together? Or would you have so much held against him that you can't be together anymore? I have a son and another one on the way and I can garentee you that as soon as you carry your baby, give birth and spend your life with him/her you will never look back. I thought of abortion and thought it was the best thing as I was young but I couldn't be happier and couldn't imagine my life any other way. Babies are the most precious gift in the world and if you did decide to go through with your pregnancy I can promise you'll never regret it. My friend was in a simular situation where her partner didn't want anything to do with the baby and they broke up because she decided to have the baby. As soon as she was born and he saw his baby he couldn't walk away. There not together still but he has alot to do with the baby. Whatever you decide make sure it's what you really want. Abortion seems to affect the mother more than the father. I hope you've got alot of support around you because it sounds like you need alot of hugs. Keep us all updated :)

I am kinda regretting logging onto this today and ready everything. I have already had it done, cried my heart out before and after the procedure once i woke up. I have been trying to keep busy by cooking, cleaning etc so im not thinking about it but now ive just had alittle sook after reading all this. In australia today is now saturday and i had it done wednesday. My boyfriend went and saw his doctor on the tuesday and when i got home from work he decides to tell me that its my choice and he doesnt want me to hate him for it but at the same time he still said he isnt ready for a child. My answer was im not going to wait any longer because if this child keeps growing in me theres no way id have it terminated, i knew that if i said well im keeping it he would have freaked and probably walked out and if i cancelled my appointment i would have to wait for another one. It was hard enough the build up to getting to this one. Well the baby is gone and i do feel a loss and my heart is hurting and i do regret it but at the same time i think i feel alittle relief as i was not ready for a baby. Someone asked if i have family that would have helped me.. My mum has MSSS and my father partially disabled so they need careres for themselves, my partners parents wouldnt have helped me at all. They are the kind of people that would agree with anything their child wants (they dotn even know i was pregnant). One thing i also regret is speaking to more people about it, i only told 2 other people; my boss and receptionist at work. They wernt much help to me at all, basically said its my choice. My doctor tried to talk me out of it and could tell that i wasnt 100% for abortion as could my gynacologist who did the procedure. When i had my consultation with ther on the tuesday the second she gave me the paper to sign i couldnt hold back the tears, knowing this is it. She even didnt think i wanted to go ahead with it. I think my relationship with my boyfriend will last.. i asked him last night if he has even thought about the baby since its been gone and he said of course and he also said his still worried im gonna blame him forever. The problem is my partner doesnt show his emotions, he keeps them held up inside so i never know what his really thinking.

honey! You did what you HAD too do! We can't criticize you fro doing that! It will be hard for you - with your relationship - BUT at least you were both honest and you knew that you really didn't want too have a baby right now! And DON'T think of it like a lost baby! It WASN'T it was a Zygot/Embryo! This is the only way you will be able too deal with it! Do you know that MANY studies say that virtually ALL women have had a miscarriage in their lives - so it will appear as a heavy period, or a period out of the blue! And you need to think about it like this! It wasn't supposed too happen - it's just in this day and age (with vitamins etc it is more viable)! And you need to know that I don't think ANY woman getting an abortion does it with a happy heart! There is ALWAYS a "what if"? And another thing is this - you DO feel a little relief! So own that honey! Know that you weren't ready for this and you will miss the "what if?!" BUT I think you know what that "What if?" would had turned out too be! You both weren't ready and neither was your family! And also you have to be at ease with it and move on! And know that this is NOT the end! I have talked too MANY women/girls on here that ended up having abortions and then you should get a little something for yourself - like a little angel or even a little shrub (if you own the place) something too say that this WAS there for a brief moment! In years too come when you ARE ready, it will be different! BUT make this "worth it" (for lack of a better term) and what I mean by that is this! IF you were relieved, due to school, due to a job, etc. Then finish that school, get that job - so you know that this wasn't for nothing! BIG hugs honey! You did what you needed too do! PERIOD!