I just found out I'm pregnant. I have no idea what to do. I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months and I'm incredibly in love with him. However I don't know if he will want to keep it or if he will ask me to have an abortion. I just found out today and haven't talked to him about it yet. I'm also scared that if I tell him I'm pregnant that it could ruin us. Like if I get an abortion that he will be too scared to have sex with me or continue anything with me. I just don't know what to do, and I need some advice. I love him, and I want to be with him more than anything. I also know that if he wants to have this baby that I would be so happy to have his child. I need advice!!!!!!
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If my gf was to tell me she was pregnant i would support her not make her get rid of it.
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Dear 'Help'
"I just found out I'm pregnant" There is always that chance when you have sex.
"I have no idea what to do" Then think things through very carefully before you discuss it with him. Otherwise it will be his decision, not yours, and you may well regret it. You have only known him for 4 months.
"I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months and I'm incredibly in love with him." So much in love, yet you don't know much about him! Be careful. It seems that your 'love' is more on the physical level that on the spiritual level.
"However I don't know if he will want to keep it or if he will ask me to have an abortion." If he does, will you? It is your baby you are carrying, and many sorely regret having an abortion afterwards. Think of the physical and mental impacts on you.
"I just found out today and haven't talked to him about it yet." Don't until you have weighed everything up in your mind rationally.
"I'm also scared that if I tell him I'm pregnant that it could ruin us." If it does, he's not the man for you. If he won't support you through this, he's not a real man!
"Like if I get an abortion that he will be too scared to have sex with me or continue anything with me." He might be scared to have sex with you, but that is not a bad thing if he still shows real affection.
"I love him, and I want to be with him more than anything." Again, you don't know him very well yet. You need to know his mind and heart; his hopes and fears. You need to understand him, and develop mutual trust.
"I also know that if he wants to have this baby that I would be so happy to have his child." But this child is a long-term commitment for you both. Have you considered marriage?
Whatever you decide, I would caution against abortion. So many on here have regretted what they have done. One I talked with cried something like, "I should have been the one to protect my baby, but I have killed it! I would do anything to get it back. I so much regret what I have done". There are other options (like adoption) you could consider if you could not cope with the child.
Anyway, I hope this is some help to you.
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