what losing your virginity at fourteen does to you.

ignorance will lead the senses in such a way. be honest and forget the past, most of the youth is leading same path, i feel you are honest to disclose.

Yes its ok you have to find self worth

So I'm a girl and I lost my virginity when I was 12 years old. The boy was so sweet and 18years old. We've done 3ways, gangbang, and plenty more. Now I'm 14 years old and I'm pregnant, but I don't know who's the father? My mom and dad don't know, because they think I'm an angel. Also I'm bisexual and in love with my best friend but she doesn't know about me being pregnant. What should I do? Because I really love her and I wanna keep the baby.

Sweetheart, you aren't in a position to hold a relationship with anyone, or raise a baby. You're going to HAVE to go to your parents, whether you do keep the baby (and if you can truly love your child, I cannot say you SHOULD put it up for adoption), or you do adopt out. Please do not abort. It may be simple and convenient, but do not kill a life because you had a crazy lifestyle. That's not fair. If you're going to do these acts? Be safe. Don't get pregnant, don't make some unwilling guy a father at that age. Get on Birth Control, use condoms, spermicide, and have him/them pull out. As for your best friend? If she's truly your best friend, she'll be around when you can clear up the baby issues and maybe the sex issues, and maybe you can decide to pursue a relationship then. Honestly, I'm not some condescending adult, but please, honey, find someone you can talk to and get help, please? At least for the baby, and what you're going to do with the precious life growing inside of you.

dont worry, the MAJORITY of girls masturbate, im 17 & i know i started at 13
unless you tell someone then they shouldnt know you masturbate.

Oh no please don't feel so much hate towards yourself. It's okay. I know you don't feel okay but I promise you it's okay. I am 17 and I am also a girl. I lost my virginity 3 weeks before my 17th birthday the summer of my senior year. I had wanted to have sex with someone I loved. There was this guy I liked and he asked me if I wanted to do it. I couldn't do it I just couldn't. I didn't want to loose being able to say I'm a virgin. Well two days after that I was alone with a guy I had met that day. We were in his car and he took major advantage of me. I wanted sex really bad but not from him, not now at all. I told him no. We were both sober. He did it anyways. My presious viginity was gone forever an I was sooooo depressed. I know how you feel darling.

I had gone against my beliefs in many was. It was before I was 18, with a guy I had met only a few house ago who I had no feelings for. It was a wasted pure girl. Wasted on that piece of sh*t that didn't listen. I couldn't have lost it that way. I couldn't have right? That's all I could think about... I thought in order to feel better about it I should do it with someone I care about and pretend in my mind that he was the one who I lost it to. I mean I wasn't a virgin anymore so I thought it didn't matter right? I thought if I did that everything would be a little bit better. So a week later I did it with the boy I was going to do it with. He didn't feel the way I felt about him. He just wanted to be friends with benefits. I was still torn and wanted some confort. I went ahead and became friends with benefits with him. We only had sex 2 times before I stopped.

I'm not going to go any farther in detailed events if my sex life but it got bad. I felt like sh*t. My friends were not supportive and made horrible rumors and said terrible things to me and lie to people about me.

I was so innocent and then all this came down on me. Not to mention I was homeschooled my whole life untill my junior year. Didn't have my first kiss till a few months before my 17th birthday. All that time keeping myself pure and BAM it was gone in seconds never to be retrieved. It sucked.

I have done it with serversl people since. You are not a bad girl and neither am I. I kept having sex with all these guys because I thought that was all I was good for. That it didn't matter since I wasn't a virgin. That I was trashy and stupid and couldn't go back to being good. I seemed counseling for myself and I now realize that I was never a bad girl. I was a good girl who had a bad experience and was to young to handle it maturely. I was a good kid who was making bad desisions because I thought I was bad. I now have my life under control.

I am sorry to hear what you've been through. Technically what happened to you when you lost your virginity was rape if you were that drunk and he was sober. It wasn't your fault just like it wasn't my fault. You must learn to love yourself.

You are a beautiul soul who has been brought down by the realities of this world. Don't beat yourself up over it.

If you really love this guy wait untill your ready. When you're ready you'll know it. You'll know that you wouldn't have it any other way but to give love to this person in every way including sexually. You'll know. If you have any doubts don't do it because you could wind up hurting yourself again emotionally.

He sounds like an amazing guy to be with. I mean you've had sex with him but he is willing to stop for months an months untill you are ready and stays with you? Damn. I like the way his personality and character sound.

Again please do not hate yourself. You are a good person.

Best of luck to you<3

-hailey

Hi im 14 iam the same what i do is get a lock on your door if your parents ask why, say you dont want anyone to see you changing ,lock ur door and if they knock tell them your changing

i am ready but am scard an am 14

I lost my virginity on my 14th birthday to my friend who was 15 and he had already been with a lot of girls, although I don't regret the actual sex, I feel stupid for telling my boyfriend at the time when I broke up with him. I had to explain that I had cheated on him and he went and told the whole school. Now there's roumors that I'm pregnant and everything. My parents also found out and I got shouted at and hit for it. The guy who took my virginity also got hit by his father and my parents got the police involved. We both have it on our records for underage sex and I'm on the social services list. I think this is quite unfair though because many people my age are having sex and we got punished for it. I know my parents are only trying to protect me but now it's only records, I'm less likely to get a job working with children and it will be there forever. I believe I'm a mature 14 year old and I think I was ready for loosing my virginity, but the consequences hit me hard

im 14 to and have already had sex. take a home pregnancy test i did and it came up positive im 35 weeks. and dont regret anything, everything happens for a reason and everything will be alright i promise you . just be calm and go to dollar store or walmart and grab a test and if u cant ask a friend if they could possibly get one. my friend got me one and i took it and and the out come was scary but im living with it now. i cryed a little at first but it was my decision just get one and see what it says if it comes up positive the best thing it do it tell ur parents so u can go get checked by a dr asap to make sure everything is okay i hope everything works out good

I just lost my virginity to my boyfriend and im fourteen also. & hes 15 . He does care . Ans I care also. But we did it with the condon on for 5m in and he wasnt having much dun nor was I & so he took the condom off. He didnt cum at all but what about pre cum? & yesterday I woke up feeling sick as f**k. I wanted to puke but I couldnt and I pooped a lot.today I feel the same. Is there a chace im pregnate ? I donr know uch aboit sex. And so im scared. But right aftwr sex I took two of my birthcontrol pills.

well you should'nt feel alone...lost my virginity at 14 ...and it was the biggest mistake of my life. Ididnt tell my parents either...and they were very strict...........so i know how you feel.But don;t put yourself down about it ....everybody makes mistakes...it's just a part of life and growing up.....So dont worry.....you'll be okay as long as you learn from your mistakes

No biggie. Don't over think it. Just be careful. You are just a hormonal teenager.

Just have sex with him I'm fourteen now and my god is sex gr8, my parents don't know but I don't care, if the boy goes fast I'm fine.

I'm kinda the same lost mine at 13 an now I'm 15 an I've sleeved with 4 guys an hell. Ya at the time with the frustrated few I thought I loved em but it end not to long after sex an well idgaf. I'm me n happy that way I do as I want come an go when I please but I have cool after parents. So ya they by me condoms. An bc. So I'm good sex is fun but to me if u really love some there worth a wait if u can wait as for me the guy I'm with well we talked onfFacebook for 11 months. An then we hooked up after we began to hang out at school an out side of school an stuff after five month. We was together. We both liked each other slot an stuff but waited until. We was both ready for a relay n our life's an that time came we been together a month n like two weeks we have had sex slot but we both don't need it we both puffer to coddle. An lay around. An be lazy but I'm scared I'm Oregon bc I'm really hungry. All the always want water an I'm not having a period. An I feel light headed slot an Idk sick but it's been a month n nt. So far an yes I took a test an it says I'm not but the way I been lately says other wise