Best Female Orgasm Tips

Women want orgasms. As her partner and lover, you have no doubt wanted to be the one who sends her over the edge, but how can you make sure you’re going to do just that? The most important thing for a man to keep in mind is that orgasms for women don’t necessarily occur in the same context as they do for men.

For women, the build–up to orgasm requires a variety of sensory input, it is not simply a mechanical process as it is for many men. The act of intercourse alone is not likely to produce a mind-blowing orgasm for a woman. Why? Intercourse alone is not likely to stimulate the woman’s clitoris, which, along with the environmental surroundings and foreplay, plays a major role in climax.  So take it easy, be patient and add some new tricks to your repertoire, and your lady will thank you.

Cold feet, Cold Start 

A woman who is nicely warmed up is more inclined to get naked. If your lady is cold, she is less likely to be comfortable and therefore will be focused on how cold she is rather than on you.  One way to combat this problem is to have her keep her socks on; but another, far more sexy approach, is to give her a warm foot massage.  Use a warming liquid to treat her to a sensual massage, which is likely to get her juices flowing. 

Believe it or not, a research study conducted by Dutch scientists at the University of Groningen, concluded that a woman with warm feet is 30 percent more likely to experience an orgasm than a woman whose toes are frosty. So be sure to pay special attention to the bottom of her toes and the spaces in-between the toes. If neither socks nor foot massage is your thing, ask her to leave on her boots or put on a sexy pair of heels.[1]

Passionate Kisses 

Before diving into the deed or attacking her main parts, it’s important to take the time to loosen her up. Giving light, passionate kisses along her body just may do the trick. In addition to plenty of kissing, of course, comes touching. A good place to begin is along the right side of her spine. For some reason, sensual touch and light kisses along that particular area can make a woman melt. Be sure your touch is light and curvy rather than heavy-handed and straight on. Gently gliding over the skin in a wavy motion will allow you to cover more ground and each touch will be much more intense. 

What’s That Smell? 

Of all of the five senses, the sense of smell is most prominent with regard to sexual arousal. This can be due to one of two reasons. The first being that a man’s cologne, especially a musky scent, typically turns a woman on because it simulates male pheromones, so just one whiff and she’ll be all yours. The second reason being that smell, sex and memory all go hand in hand. The scent of musky cologne and sex will no doubt have her recalling the last time she was this close to you and leave her wanting for more.[2]

Atmosphere is Everything 

Many women will admit that there is no chance of them achieving an orgasm if they are not in the right frame of mind. If she is uncomfortable in any way, you won’t bring her to climax, even if you’re the most skilled lover in the world, so take some time and don’t ignore the little things.  Of course, a little romance couldn’t hurt, so if you’re going for it, be sure she’s relaxed and comfortable and that the atmosphere is pleasant. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with a quickie in the car or some other creative place, but to ensure the big “O”, a pleasant romantic atmosphere is ideal. 

Use Your Charm 

Earth shattering sex begins before you get in the bedroom. Undoubtedly you’ve heard the term “charm the pants off of her”, and though it’s a bit crude, it really is not far from the truth.  According to researchers at The Kinsey Institute, showing off your talent is an effective way to get your woman turned on. So sing her a song, tell her a joke, or shoot some pool; just be sure to show her that there’s more to you than meets the eye. Along with exposing your talented side, make sure that your lady knows you want her; tell her that she’s beautiful and sexy; there’s nothing better than feeling that your partner truly appreciates you. 

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Throw the Clock out the Window 

For most women, it takes time to achieve an orgasm. Therefore, you must make sure not to obsess over it and you must be patient. A lot of women end up faking their way through or just denying themselves a climax because they are so concerned that they are taking too long.

Being relaxed is one of the most important components of an orgasm, and feeling like you’re on the clock is a definite way to turn her off. Assure her that you have all night and that you want her to experience pleasure, orgasm or not. Once she knows you’re in it for the long haul, she will be more likely to let loose. And by the way, studies show that on average it can take as long as 40 minutes for a woman to climax, so get comfy. The classic sex studies conducted by Masters and Johnson in the 1960s report similar number. This particular study found that the average man was able to reach orgasm in about four minutes, whereas most women took about twenty minutes to climax.[3] 

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10 and 2 

Surely you have heard the reference 10 o’clock and 2 o’clock with regard to hands on the steering wheel while driving. Well, the 10 and 2 positions can come in quite handy when performing oral sex on your girl. Try moving your tongue in a circular motion around the top of her clitoris, paying special attention to the 10 and 2 o’clock positions on either side. Once you’ve got that down, slowly slide your tongue up under the “hood” of her clitoris. This technique is a sure fire way to push her over the edge. The most accommodating position for this technique is to lie flat on your back, having her sit just over your face, allowing her to grab onto the wall or headboard for leverage. 

Guided Practice 

All women are different, and even if you think you have all of the right moves, your moves may not work to bring every woman to a climax. If you’re not sure what brings your woman to the brink, just ask her. Whenever you try something new, ease into it to see if she likes it. If she responds well, then continue to build it up, if she doesn’t, than simply knock it off. Also, it wouldn’t hurt to let her control things; if she suggests a certain position or a certain way to touch her, go with it, because chances are she knows better than you what works best for her. Another tip: watch her as she stimulates herself, you can acquire some great techniques by simply paying close attention to her. 

Slow Your Role 

We’ve established that clitoral stimulation is paramount for most women, but just be careful not to attack it. Ease into oral sex or manual stimulation, there’s nothing worse than a harsh, vigorous assault to the area. The best thing to do is to start off slowly, then build up to deeper, more pressured stimulation. Too much gusto in the very beginning can desensitize the clitoris, making climax next to impossible.  Along this line, it may be best to let her finish first, as you’re a man on a mission and will probably climax no matter what. If you’ve found a position that seems to be working well for her, stick with it and let her go until she finishes. An abrupt change can cause her to lose the build-up and ultimately lose the orgasm. 

Whether you think you’re a well-skilled lover or a novice, learning something new can never hurt. When striving to get your girl to reach the coveted big “O”, remember that all women are different, and some tricks that work for one may not work for another. The best thing you can do is be attentive to her needs and take her cues, as she’s likely to be the best instructor for her own body.