Hi, I'm 16. My boyfriend is a few months younger than me, but is 16 also. We both still have our virginity, and both want to lose it to each other. I know that people say: if you are worried about sex, then it's best to leave it until you are sure, but I am sure, and i want to lose it as soon as possible to him; I am just so scared. I'm not scared about whether it will hurt, as I am pretty used to pain, but I am really self-concious, because I just got rid of anorexia and am still really worried of what he thinnks of me. There is something else that makes me self-concious, I have a mole on my vagina which is about the size of 2/3 of my thumb nail. He doesn't know about the mole, but he knows I am a bit self-concious. He has promised he will wait, and won't do anything I don't want him to do, but we are already way past the masterbating eachother part. When I talk to people about this I always leave out the mole part, but they always seem to ask what I see in his eyes when we are doing things, so I shall tell you this now: I have never seen a hint of uncontrolled lust in his eyes, only ever love and passion. Without meaning to at all, he makes me want to prove to him the love and passion I have for him too, but I can't get over this self-conciousness.
I want it so bad, but am just too scared, what do I do?
I want it so bad, but am just too scared, what do I do?
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I'm not going to lecture you about the rights and wrongs of having sex with him at a young age or premaritial sex or anything else. But I will remind you that he is just as nervous as you. He will be just as nervous as you when you are having sex for the first time. He will probably also be just as self-consciousness as you. There is a lot of pressure for him too, so you two can help each other and work yourselves through it.
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Congratulations on getting over the anorexia, that must be really hard.
Exactly as gatoraide says. You say you see nothing but love in his eyes, so why do you think he's going to be freaked?
If he hasn't seen that mole yet it sounds like you still have a lot more mutual masturbating to do. You can move on to oral for a long time before you need to do insertions. When I was just a little older that you I was dating a girl in a situation where I would probably have gone to jail if she ever got pregnant. She practiced giving me hand jobs until they were to die for, and my face spent hours glued to her vagina on every date. She wouldn't give me head but we spent a delicious year and a half together. :-D
If you do simply HAVE to have him inside you, get some birth control pills first. I guess you're sure you won't be exchanging any STDs. When you're heated up, stopping to install a condom is a real PIA, and they are no where near as reliable as the pill.
Now, I hope your doctor is watching that mole for you. :-)
Exactly as gatoraide says. You say you see nothing but love in his eyes, so why do you think he's going to be freaked?
If he hasn't seen that mole yet it sounds like you still have a lot more mutual masturbating to do. You can move on to oral for a long time before you need to do insertions. When I was just a little older that you I was dating a girl in a situation where I would probably have gone to jail if she ever got pregnant. She practiced giving me hand jobs until they were to die for, and my face spent hours glued to her vagina on every date. She wouldn't give me head but we spent a delicious year and a half together. :-D
If you do simply HAVE to have him inside you, get some birth control pills first. I guess you're sure you won't be exchanging any STDs. When you're heated up, stopping to install a condom is a real PIA, and they are no where near as reliable as the pill.
Now, I hope your doctor is watching that mole for you. :-)
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I think you should wait till marriage .. its better and till then u will learn so much more about this relationship which is not actually a joke .. its very serious and at this age u may make a mistake which u may regret for the rest of ur life..
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