Hey all,
I'm a 16 year old guy with a steady girlfriend (5 months), and I've been wondering if it's normal at this age to start fooling around; I'd like to but I'm not sure she would. By this I don't mean have sex, but rather just finger her or something similar. It's been bugging me for a while now.
I'm a 16 year old guy with a steady girlfriend (5 months), and I've been wondering if it's normal at this age to start fooling around; I'd like to but I'm not sure she would. By this I don't mean have sex, but rather just finger her or something similar. It's been bugging me for a while now.
if she is ok with it then there is nothing wrong with it at all. talk to her and she what she would like. ask her if it would be ok. tell her you would like to.
Before you start thinking about "fooling around" you should start thinking about "fooling around" with the idea of some birth control.
At this age your hormones are crazy and it is very normal for a boy (or girl) to want to explore new things, sex being one of them.
You can do the mature thing and talk with her about it. Find out exactly what she thinks. Maybe she is the type of girl who wants to wait until she is married. If that is the case, do not push it on her.
She could possibly already be on some kind of birth control, you don't know.
Has she given you any signs that she may be interested in taking it to the next level?
Just know that once you start messing around a little, you can get carried away, and before you know it you are finding yourself in the middle of actual intercourse with no protection from either side. Manual stimulation, i.e. fingering her or something similiar, as you put it, is a hugh turn on, this is foreplay which is the prelude to intercourse.
Just think it thru before you take the next step. I wouldn't hurt if you bought yourself a pack of condoms, it sounds like you are on your way to needing one.
At this age your hormones are crazy and it is very normal for a boy (or girl) to want to explore new things, sex being one of them.
You can do the mature thing and talk with her about it. Find out exactly what she thinks. Maybe she is the type of girl who wants to wait until she is married. If that is the case, do not push it on her.
She could possibly already be on some kind of birth control, you don't know.
Has she given you any signs that she may be interested in taking it to the next level?
Just know that once you start messing around a little, you can get carried away, and before you know it you are finding yourself in the middle of actual intercourse with no protection from either side. Manual stimulation, i.e. fingering her or something similiar, as you put it, is a hugh turn on, this is foreplay which is the prelude to intercourse.
Just think it thru before you take the next step. I wouldn't hurt if you bought yourself a pack of condoms, it sounds like you are on your way to needing one.
yeah man i'm 16 at the moment 17 in 2 days (7th) and yeah it is normal for you at this age even earlier to want to have sexual contact with your partner or girls. just remember use a condom and be as careful as possible, unless u wanna have some nasty accidents, like me.
Thanks bbfeet9. Ya I already bought myself a pack of condoms just in case :-D. My question was more geared toward whether or not a girl would be interested in this kind of thing at this age. But thank you for the great advice.
Wonderinguy, i knew exactly where you were going with your question.
An interest in sex at this age is very normal, like i told you. She may be very interested, but on the other hand she may want to wait until she falls in love (maybe she has with you, i dunno)...The only thing that you can do if your that interested in taking it to the next level is to come straight out and ask her. She will tell you how she feels. Maybe she is not ready so she hasn't really given you any hint that she might be.
If she feels uncomfortable talking about it, drop it. Girls hate guys that push for sex. (i did not say you)
An interest in sex at this age is very normal, like i told you. She may be very interested, but on the other hand she may want to wait until she falls in love (maybe she has with you, i dunno)...The only thing that you can do if your that interested in taking it to the next level is to come straight out and ask her. She will tell you how she feels. Maybe she is not ready so she hasn't really given you any hint that she might be.
If she feels uncomfortable talking about it, drop it. Girls hate guys that push for sex. (i did not say you)
Richard, relax. I know your situation and i honestly do not believe that you had a nasty accident. Do what your Doctor told you and next time you get curious, wear a condom. You probably do not have an STD, so chill out before you drive yourself wacko.
OF course she is. I'm a female and I can tell you girls are just as turned on and eager as you are. They just hide it cause of the stigma of being labeled a s*** for wanting to be sexually active. Just kiss her and slowly work your way down. Ask her if it's okay and she will either tell you to stop or to keep going.
Thanks guys this was helpful
Turns out she was VERY interested :-D
Turns out she was VERY interested :-D
Alright, wonderinguy!
Now, please tell us that you and she discussed protection and have been very careful to use it...every time.... :-D 8)
Now, please tell us that you and she discussed protection and have been very careful to use it...every time.... :-D 8)
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