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I have been with my fiancee for a few years now and just over one year ago we decided to try for a baby. nothing happened for the first six months however in december i fell pregnant, and on the 25th of January i miscarried. I have honestly never know any pain like it. We were both so happy because although we were only trying for six months it felt like a life time!!! especially as some people only have to have intercourse once and they fall pregnant. Around about the same time my friend fell pregnant but she decided to have an abortion. It is probably the most horrible thing to say but i really did and still do wish our situations were swapped over. We really wanted our baby. The emotional pain that accompanies a miscarrige is ridiculous. Our relationship took a turn for the worst because i wanted to talk about our loss because we had built dreams in the month that i was pregnant and spoke about general baby things as you would then our dream was snatched as well as our babys life. Although i wanted to talk about our loss my partner didnt. he used to make jokes about it as a way to deal with it, which was very hurtful on my part although i understood. eventually we spoke about it and he broke down and now we are on the road to recovery and are learning to deal with our loss. Then in April i was 2 weeks late on my period. i didnt want to take a test incase of putting bad luck on it. Sounds silly. But then i had almost the same symtoms as i did in january so i think i may have miscarried again. Then in July i found i was pregnant again however miscarried again...yes again, a few weeks into my pregnancy. We are both absolutely devestated and all we want is a baby. Never realised it would take this long. The emotional strain this has put us under is rather bad. I keep looking on websites to try and justify my miscarriges but nothing as yet has helped. So now...Mid september i am currently ovulating...fingers crossed. I know that sperm can stay inside a woman for up to seven days and that having intercourse in the seven days leading up to ovulation and during can increase your chances of getting pregnant. I am mid ovulation and today i woke up and was sick. I have been sick about 3 times today and also felt unwell yestoday and had a headache and back pain and have not been able to keep any food down and feel sick at the sight of food. Do you think there is a possiblity of another pregnancy?? I think about being pregnant every single day and we want nothing more than to have a baby. The more i want it the less it seems to happen. Do you think i should make an appointment with my gp and speak to him about the miscarriges? It sounds so silly but i have been putting it off because i feel ashamed...it was my baby and i failed to keep it safe. Maybe if i had done something different my baby would be here within the next month. Any advice would be greatly apreciated. Thank you

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Hi,

I'm sorry for your loss. It is not your fault, do not feel ashamed. There are many reasons for a miscarriage to occur.

I have a few questions. Did you see a doctor after you miscarried? Each time? It is not clear. I'm asking because you ask about talking to your GP about this.

When was your last gynecological exam? Last PAP smear done? Have you ever been tested for STD's?

Please go see your OBGYN, not your GP. This is their area of expertise so take advantage of it. Get a thorough checkup. If you haven't, make them VERY aware of your history. It is significant.

Please keep us posted. We're all here for you.

Good luck
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I agree with medic-dan. I think that your OBGYN would be the best person to see in this sort of case as it sounds like you have a number of questions to clear up. Can you let us know how it turns out for you? I would like to hear back.
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I have already been tested for std's. Me and my partner both decided to do this before having unprotected intercourse. I saw my doctor the first time and he confirmed that it was a miscarriage. In April i decided not to as i knew the symptoms were the same as before and that there was nothing that could really be done, as with the same in July. So my gp only knows of one miscarriage so far, but i have been seeing a friend who is a nurse and she also agrees that i should seek more help. I have not yet had a pap smear, I was informed that i didnt need on until i was 24 or after my pregnancy.

Thank you for your comments, they were a great help.
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No problem at all! Please come post if you havea ny other issues or any other questions, okay? I'd be glad to help :-)
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Glad to help. As bluedog says let us know if you have any other concerns or questions.

FYI, you should always see your OBGYN after a suspected miscarriage. They need to make sure that the uterus is "clean" of any remaining material so you don't risk developing an infection.

Take care
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