Okay well im a 16 year old girl, soon to be 17 in the summer and i have been talking to this guy whos 22. Me and him are 6 years apart but we get along great, same sense of humor, hobbies, interests and everything. Hes a lot of fun to talk to and im rlly comfortable around him which isn't normal for me, im usually rlly shy and uncomfortable around even some people i have known for a while. Me and him kinda wanna date now but the only problem is my mom does NOT like the whole idea of me even hanging out with older guys, she says that ppl in their 20s are sexually active, drink and can do things i can't so its wrong for us to hang out even. I understand where she is coming from but me and him are soooooooooo much alike, we are basically on the same maturity level and he makes me happy...i dont know how to convince her to let me she doesn't want to hear it at all :-( Is it rlly wrong to like him? is 6 years apart THAT big of a deal?
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DV,
FIrst off, I think it is a wonderful wonderful expression of your love for your mother that you are listening to what she says and respecting and obeying her. Your mom is older than you are (obviously) and she had experiences and wisdom that you dont posess yet, that no one expects you to posess yet.
Hear me out on this one, ok? 6 years age difference REALLY is not that big of a deal IF IF IF ..... you were already 20 years old. You are at a tender age right now, I am sure that you are probably going through all kinds of changes (hormonally etc.) that are TOTALLY normal. It is just the beginning of you growing into the woman that you were created to be.
However, I remember when I was going through that time in my life, that sometimes the hormones, etc. made me feel "different". I felt unsure about a lot of things, and wasnt quite too sure about alot. That is normal also.
This guy on the other hand, is already in his 20's and has been through those things, and probably hangs out with a crowd that is in the older range. I understand your frustration..
I think it would be best if you could find some time, and sit down alone with your mom and have a heart to heart talk about this with her. I would explain to her that it is very important to you. Now please understand, it is a two way conversation, and I am sure she is willing to talk, however she may not give you the answer you want or hope for.
PLEASE learn to trust your mom, she is looking out for your best interest, that is how you learn to develop trust. It might hurt, and you may not understand, but TRUST ME she is looking out for your best. I chose not to listen to my mom years ago, and if I had, things would have been alot different.
Try to remember she sees things that you dont have the experience/time on earth to see. Let me know how it turns out.
Hugs and Blessings,
Hizgrace
FIrst off, I think it is a wonderful wonderful expression of your love for your mother that you are listening to what she says and respecting and obeying her. Your mom is older than you are (obviously) and she had experiences and wisdom that you dont posess yet, that no one expects you to posess yet.
Hear me out on this one, ok? 6 years age difference REALLY is not that big of a deal IF IF IF ..... you were already 20 years old. You are at a tender age right now, I am sure that you are probably going through all kinds of changes (hormonally etc.) that are TOTALLY normal. It is just the beginning of you growing into the woman that you were created to be.
However, I remember when I was going through that time in my life, that sometimes the hormones, etc. made me feel "different". I felt unsure about a lot of things, and wasnt quite too sure about alot. That is normal also.
This guy on the other hand, is already in his 20's and has been through those things, and probably hangs out with a crowd that is in the older range. I understand your frustration..
I think it would be best if you could find some time, and sit down alone with your mom and have a heart to heart talk about this with her. I would explain to her that it is very important to you. Now please understand, it is a two way conversation, and I am sure she is willing to talk, however she may not give you the answer you want or hope for.
PLEASE learn to trust your mom, she is looking out for your best interest, that is how you learn to develop trust. It might hurt, and you may not understand, but TRUST ME she is looking out for your best. I chose not to listen to my mom years ago, and if I had, things would have been alot different.
Try to remember she sees things that you dont have the experience/time on earth to see. Let me know how it turns out.
Hugs and Blessings,
Hizgrace
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