My partner and I have been together for 7yrs now and i've known since day dot his been curious about anal sex but only recently has he constantly been bringing it up. I've been discussing him with it but I just can't help but feel it's disgusting and i'd be a s*** (i don't judge people who do it, you want to do it fine your'e still my friend) but i just don't see how it could be pleasurable and it's actually making me feel more insecure about myself because he wants to do anal, i feel like what's wrong with my vagina? lol. I just feel like he cares less about me because he wants to do this. Im just after some advice if anyone could please help me understand what im feeling. im so confused that i feel like this might be a reason we'll break up because if he really wants to do who i am i to hold him back? but i don't feel comfortable doing it. i mean how could it be pleasurable? im worried about diseases, being judged, being a s***, feeling dirty (in a bad way). I feel like if we were gonna try it i'd ball my eye's out, im worried about it hurting, bleeding. Someone just please give me some advice i don't care if your'e for or against it. I need mixed reviews im so lost & confused right now and i have no-one to talk to. thanks.
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Don't worry about being judged, tell him how you feel about it and it may hurt the first time! Just tell him what your thinking! Hope I helped!
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thanks for your advice. I have spoken to him and i feel much better about everything.
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i am also in a similar dilema my husband has done this before with previous partners and has alays wanted to try this with me ( ive never done it before and always been adament i would not try it) ive always said women have a vagina for a reason and he must be gay if he wants to do that but he explained its because its different and tigther they get a bit more pleasure plus its a bit taboo and this is a turn on ! then one time when we were having sex he slid a finger up there and it was actually quite pleasurable but the thought of his penis larger and wider i think god that would hurt and what about poo etc recently ive been starting to think about this and ive said for him i will try it just once and he has agreed if i hate it we wont have to do it again so im going to try it for a comprise im still not convinced but will give it a go
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i am also in a similar dilema my husband has done this before with previous partners and has alays wanted to try this with me ( ive never done it before and always been adament i would not try it) ive always said women have a vagina for a reason and he must be gay if he wants to do that but he explained its because its different and tigther they get a bit more pleasure plus its a bit taboo and this is a turn on ! then one time when we were having sex he slid a finger up there and it was actually quite pleasurable but the thought of his penis larger and wider i think god that would hurt and what about poo etc recently ive been starting to think about this and ive said for him i will try it just once and he has agreed if i hate it we wont have to do it again so im going to try it for a comprise im still not convinced but will give it a go
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to lish275: My partner & I agreed to give it a go, but we've just started with toys at the moment to get use to it and let it loosens up. the results were not what i expected in the way that it has actually brought us closer together as a couple and re-ignited that flame, i didn't think it would bring us closer together but it has, i just suggest using toys first until your completly comfortable for the real thing and make sure you talk to your partner alot about your concerns before you try it. try it when your'e ready.
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