Im really confused on this one. Im not gay, well I dont think so, but I keep having sexual thoughts about having anal intercourse with a guy; I also like the idea of other oral activities. I also have a long term girlfriend but I cant seem to get used to the idea and I know she will not understand on this one. Trust me, she recjected me big time on trying anal.
I dont want to cheat but I want to try it I think but im so confused! Im sure my mind will be made up if i decide to do it. Also whats the lowdown on the whole safety issue?
PS, i dont like to idea of kissing or cuddling guys!!
I think you're thinking too often on anal sex, therefore you don't choose whose anal hole. Your imagination turn into "every possible anal hole". You don't feel sympathy with guys, so I think you're not a hidden homosexual, more a man who's continuously trying to get his thing into someone's anal hole :-)
I suggest you to visit a brothel, and to find and pay the person for such pleasure. I think it's the best way to find out what a great feeling is to get your little friend into anal world :-)
How old are you? How couldn't you talk to your lady about that? Try to show her some anal porns, maybe she'll change her mind!
So she just doesn't understand this really. I have been speaking to a guy who has the similiar case, he feels he wants to try it, has a gf aswell but he also doesn't like the idea of kissing. I feel bad for cheating but it makes me turned on thinking about it, but after I just think, no its not for me!!
Mr Confused here i think!!
Anal activities in sex are less talked about, and make many people feel more than a little uncomfortable. This is mainly because of the taboos about the butt, of course, and not because there's anything wrong with it.
In fact, there is a unique form of pleasure to be gotten from anal stimulation, for a guy or girl. For men this is because of the prostate, which is an important sexual organ and can only be directly stimulated through anal contact, and on women it is because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, making the sensation different and sometimes actually stronger.
Anal sex is not always the #1 favorite, but it is certainly high on the list for many people, and can be a fun change of pace for almost anyone who isn't bothered too much by the taboos against it.
You said you cannot bring your girlfriend to do it. I think you need to inform her about it. Here are a few basics about anal sex.
You need to be sensitive, I mean this in several different ways.
First, it's that taboo thing, again. There is a reasonable chance that your partner have already thought of it, and were afraid to bring it up themselves, but there's also a chance the idea would horrify them, like in your case. Hopefully your relationship already involves open, relaxed, and frank discussion about sex, or else you probably should work on that long before you worry about testing the waters on this subject.
Second, the anus really isn't meant to be entered. Don't get me wrong; humans aren't really meant to fly, either...I'm not saying it's bad, I'm just saying you have to bear these little facts in mind. One should be very gentle when experimenting with these things.
An important example is never...ever try it on your lover for the first time without them expecting it, especially if we're talking about penetration with a penis or similarly large object. Trust me on this, please. If you've ever had a really big, hard BM (Bowel Movement), that was really painful, that's nothing compared to being caught off-guard by this. Not only are there better ways to go about it, but you may never get the chance to try again, if they're upset enough.
I can give you some instructions, but first you need to bring up your lady to do it, otherwise it won't be possible, except you try it with a man, but in that case you need also to know a lot of things before you do it.
Are you ready for this? Think about it and talk to your parnter first.
I have tried talking to her about anal sex, saying we could do it this way, that way etc but its just NO NO NO straight out.
"Its not natural"
"Its not made to put your penis in"
etc etc, as you can imagine.
I do feel guilty as I do love her and I know im not gay but the thought of trying is a turn on and I do fancy partaking in oral activities. I really dont want to hurt her and I dont like keeping the truth from her!
Keep the replys going please its helping me a lot!
Start off slow and do not slam it in there, lol, take your time and listen to her and everything should be fine. ;-)
Now, if she is not willing, you may have to find someone who is. Why do you feel you would have to turn to a gay male for anal sex? You could find a Woman. You might have to pay for the services though. If your Girl friend is mature enough, she will get over the whole poop thing. Just remember to be very careful not to give her an infection! Dont go from penetrating her anus straight to her vagina! Do not use a finger in her anus and then use the same finger in her vagina!! Even if she finds she enjoys anal stimulation, she will not like the infection she will have to go to the Doctor and explain! Also, when you enter her anus for the first time, even with a lot of lube, it will sting/hurt slightly. If you want success, use your finger before you insert your penis. Use a smaller finger and test the water. She will know better of what to expect if she allows you to put your penis in. You might want to offer her some wine to help her relax too. Relax and lots of lube, my last suggestions to you.
Simply, be open, communicate, use lots of lube and take your time :-)
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BUT HEY WOZ.. IT TOOK ME LIKE 6 MONTHS BEFORE I LET MY BOYFRIEND TRY IT ON ME.. BUT I HAD TO BE DRUNK TO LET HIM. WE TRIED WHEN I WAS SOBER AND NO. IT HURT WAY TOO MUCH.. BUT WHEN I WAS DRUNK IT WAS ACTUALLY PRETTY NICE. IF SHE DOES LET HONESTLY IT DOES KIND OF FEEL WEIRD WHEN SHE GOES TO THE BATHROOM FOR THE FIRST TIME. BUT YEAH.. REMEMBER TO USE A CONDOM TOO. THERES A LOT OF BACTERIAS IN THERE. EWW.. BUT IF YOU GIRL WANTS A GIRL POINT OF VIEW IM MORE THEN HAPPY TO PUT MY 2 CENTS IN!! BEST WISHES!!
Woz mate, I understand you completly i think your abit curious of your sexuality, in some ways, i'm not saying your one way or the other, your just curious and everyone goes through that stage in life. I reccomend you talk some more with this other guy who is having the same problem as you, and maybe meet up and have a one off, that way you will be able to set your mind at rest, aswell as your girlfriends.
I don't reccomend doing anal whilst under the influence of speed 8)
P.S (to the idiots)- Definition of HOMOPHOBIA in many cases is: One's fear he or she may be homosexual.
-- Stop taking out the anger you have at yourself on the ppl who are not afraid to express themselves emotionally and sexually. BIOTCHES
and Woz, just go with it with a bi/gay guy, if its something you really want to try then try it, if your gf doesnt want to endulge your curiousity, there's no helping it, you'll never release this "want" to do it if you dont get it out of your system.