My boyfriend thinks I lie to him all the time. Yes I admit I've lied in the past. But I told him specifically I'm not lying to him anymore. He believed me at first but then later on when we have arguments he always brings those things up &when I tell him the truth he just sticks with his opinion &doesn't believe me. Please tell me what I can do to help him trust me.
Loading...
The problem with lying is that it is hard to know if someone has actually stopped - they could be lying. He is only your bf, so you could move on if he can't. But if you want to make it work, you have to be honest. By honest I mean give him an open door to ask anything and you will tell him the truth (being kind if necessary). But hiding anything about anything right now is not a good idea. If he asks about your past, tell him. If he asks for details, ask him if he really wants to know and can handle knowing it. If so, tell him. When he feels there is nothing for you to hide and you are completely open with him he can move on. Getting angry that he doubts you is kind of your fault to begin with, right? So decide if this is the relationship you want or not. Go all in, or move on with someone you can be all in with.
To be fair though, if you are not looking at him as long term, then you don't need to open your past. You have to decide this first.
To be fair though, if you are not looking at him as long term, then you don't need to open your past. You have to decide this first.
Loading...