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Hi,

I was just wondering, when I have sex and if I orgasm and cum before she does, what do I do?

Also, if she orgasms before I do, will she want to carry on like straight away after she orgasmed?

Thanks.

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Most individuals experience a sense of satisfaction, or completion when they reach climax or orgasm. This typically means that they want to stop and rest immediately afterward.

For the other partner who hasn't climaxed yet, this can be frustrating and annoying, but not nearly as annoying as being pestered by a turned on partner who wants more sex, loving, friction or stimulation, when what you want is to relax and rest.

So, some compromising is necessary. Most women will be able to sustain a little more penetration or thrusting, particularly if their partner is close to orgasm. But there is a limit, afterwhich it is just plain painful to continue, especially if the lubrication is drying up.

Alternatively, some women prefer to end intercourse, and instead, give their partner manual stimulation by pumping their genitals. This is commonly called a hand job, or when done with the lips, a blow job.

When the man comes first, which is often the case, he'll generally loose his erection fairly quickly, and then not be able to continue thrusting as effectively as before. Rather than leaving your partner high and dry, so to speak, the thoughtful lover will continue with caresses and kisses. Some women prefer to feel cuddled and loving caresses over their body.
But research has revealed that most women climax through direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. So, some digital or hand stimulation of her clit MAY be thoughtful and loving. But check with her first. It could be TOO direct, and the strokes and stimulation might have to be indirect, or in the area, transmitting vibrations.

Some women prefer mouth to breast or nipple play with or without this direct clit rubbing.

Some women will want to do this themselves to get off as soon as possible, and only want the closeness of their man.

There are some women who will want multiple climaxes, and could go all night, with the right attention and stimulation, but you'll have to ask her.

That's the key. To ask her what she would like, and what she's willing to do.

After a man climaxes, there is usually some excess fluid that drains out, and that could require some clean-up. So, be ready with a towel or don't be too surprised if she bounds up and rushes to the bath rather than stain the sheets.

To answer your question, we can only give you generalities. She will have to tell you want she wants to do, or continue, and it varies each time.
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