I'm a 19 year old virgin. i have recently tried to lose my virginity to my girlfriend twice however both times i have not been able to get hard enough for insertion. i know that it is all in my head as i have manage to get rock hard erections by just making out with her and knowing that sex isn't going to happen. The problem is when i know that we are going to have sex and start foreplay i can only get semi erect. I'm sure the problem is all in my head but i cant seem to stop thinking about it. see when we get into all the foreplay, her clothes are off and so are mine all i seem to be able to think about is my erection but even though I'm aware that this is the problem i just cant seem to get it out of my head no matter how much i try to tell myself not to think about it and let it happen itself. So basically my Question is, How can i overcome this problem? i am aware that i just need to stop thinking about it and just enjoy the moment but somehow my thoughts always end up back at the erection and its really frustrating. this problem seems to be making me rather depressed also as I'm worried it will ruin my relationship which i don't want because i love my girlfriend more than anything.
Thanks in advance for your help
Thanks in advance for your help
Simple...RELAX! Stop getting all worked up! Stress and Anxiety can cause tons of problems and your problem is only the beginning. Maybe stop planning when you guys are gonna do the do? lol. Sometimes that can be good and a huge turn on to some and sometimes it can cause problems, in your case of course ;D You plainly love your girlfriend and i'm sure she loves you as well so I'm sure it's not a problem and i'm hoping she doesn't stress you out more by pointing it out. If so she's not the right girl and would most likely cause you even more frustration and lead to even more stress which leads to many more problems. So like I said, relaaaaax hon!
Obviously you just need a little reassurance :)