Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

Yes I feel that was as well. I obsess over different things at different times but they are usually about my relationship and that’s why it’s ROCD. Thanks for your help it makes me feel much better! -lola

I forget (so please remind me) are your thoughts about him cheating on you? I thought I read that somewhere. The one thing I can say about those kinds of thoughts are ... 1) has he ever have u a reason recently in the past 14 months to not trust him? 2) I had those obsessive thoughts once upon a time.. and unfortunately as soon as my boyfriend (same one as now) broke up with me ... my thoughts snapped out of it and they all just stopped.
Correct me if I'm wrong if those aren't your thoughts

SO I just finished at therapy .. and it's crazy how a lot of this could possibly stem from low self-confidence/esteem from the past, not accepting my past and that's why my brain is processing memories NOW. I totally believe that.. I need to accept who I was before and realize there was nothing I can change. Hmmm just a thought -Niki

Yeah maybe. The depression could possibly make us feel very low about everything. I’m glad therapy works well for you, I haven’t been. I’m trying to get over this by myself and it seems easy until a bad day or week or even month comes up. It’s a very tiring experience. I wake up every single day with these thoughts and feelings and it’s just hard to constantly have negative thoughts in my head.

Honestly, I always did this naturally and by myself too.. this time was way worse then any of my anxiety so I knew I had to just talk to somebody.. it's nothing like in the movies where people think your crazy or anything like that. It's literally such a good experience, and I'm not even covered under insurance but I still go because it makes me feel so much better. They don't judge, sometimes it's harder to do it yourself .. but of course we're here for you, I just don't know the psychological aspect of any of this

I used to worry about him cheatin. We had a bit of a breach of trust about 3 years ago. He didnt cheat but he did text another girl which i was devastated about. But we had been goin thru a rough patch so we talked about it an moved on. Altho i have to say i always did stuggle with it a little but inwould have a tendency to catastrophise things an overthink which doesnt help! Now i dont stress about him cheatin, i trust him in that respect but i seem to obsess over him keepin stuff from me or worryin that he will. Its hard to explain. I do trust him an i kno he loves me unconditionally but i just sometimes worry that he ignores things an he thinks thats dealin with them whereas i prefer to talk things thru. Its all very hard to explain but all i kno is i jus feel like u dont really understand what i worry about either an i just feel all over the place. I just want the old us back.

Thats should say "i" dont really understand, not "u" sorry

okay I’m thinking about it and maybe that would be a good idea for me. You talk To him or her about your relationship and they understand that it was the birth control? Like what do they say when you mentioned that you think it was because of BC

Yeah im wondering this too

Well when I first went I wasn't supposed to make any decisions .. and by the first time I had already broken up with my bf because anxiety was telling me too.. anyways I still went in there and I told her I'm getting these weird thoughts (this was BEFORE me realizing it was birth control) and then I told her that this had happened once before with somebody else because this person hurt me and I thought the world was ending. Anyways she told me she saw a pattern that I had a "fear of abandonment" .. (she never agreed I didn't like my boyfriend) then after a few more sessions I told her "but why am I have these negative thoughts about my bf" shes like "there not true!" I was like okay cool she agrees with me..because there is so much more to your anxiety then you think. When I don't want to eat something I don't like , I don't eat it. When I don't want to go somewhere because certain people are there, I don't go. If I wanted to break up with my boyfriend because I didn't like him anymore, I 100% would. (BUT I DONT LOL) I also learned that when I make the RIGHT decisions.. I am 100% calm .. no anxiety, no running thoughts, no nothing. So stop right there if you want to run away from your "fears" because (my therapist told me) it's your fear that is speaking out. I told her that "I wanted to be alone and it would be easier to be alone" and she's like "is that really you talking or your fear of "abandonment"" ... "I know it's your fear talking because of the way the tone in your voice changed and you became all mighty and tough" I was like ........ geez it really was the fear talking lol
Keep asking me questions I can share what she has been teaching me.

So how do you overcome negative/paranoid thoughts about your relationship? It seems to constantly be on my mind

After each time I went to talk I felt better. BUT other things I do is.. 1) stop fighting the thoughts. The more I fought them and said "no but I do like him, this isn't right etc." The more they fought back each time and every time it made me sad and angry. So I stopped fighting them.
2) I became AWARE of the thoughts and I LET THEM PASS. As soon as one comes in, I laugh and say good job anxiety sure you can pass through, I'm aware of you. I let them come and go . And once I mastered that .. I would look back when I was fighting them and feel SO BAD FOR MYSELF! I was like wow I put myself through so much pain when I knew it was my anxiety talking!
3) when my period comes around ... it's like my sex drive comes back and my feelings come back.. it's so weird but I enjoy the moment as soon as they do lol. Then I set my self up for the weeks after period when everything kind of falls back down.. but I don't think of that as a "setback". I just think each month it REALLY does feel better then how I used to be.
4) my therapist told me .. if I don't want to go out and stay in my room, then do that. Don't force myself to go outside of my comfort place just yet. I also quit my job because of this so she said don't go back to work yet have a break.. now I'm ready to work again because I feel like routine is great to have and I can focus my energy and thoughts on work instead.
5) time is the best healer if you do take the right procedures leading up to each period. And also I do tell my boyfriend that I am not me right now .. there's nothing I can do but just know I will be myself again one day. He gets frustrated at times but he also says he loves to just talk to me all night and I tell him all of these "discoveries" lol.
6) I do feel low self esteem and confidence because I stopped my whole life for this stuff. I'm starting to take care of myself again slowly ..
7) REALIZE THAT ITS NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND IT REALLY ISNT. ITS YOU. ITS HORMONES. ITS ANXIETY. Once you realize that and have reassurance and SAY IT OUT LOUD OR IN YOUR MIND. It just quiets them down...

Not to say I didn't act on my anxiety.. because I have several times.. but I am fortunate enough my boyfriend understands and we have been on/off for 2 years so it almost seems normal lol. But no thank god he can see this isn't me. And when I do break up with him I always feel like it's forced and it's not the right time for it to be over.. and that is anxiety my friends. Living in the moment is key to everything but it takes awhile to master mindfulness.

Will our hormones actually balance themselves out? 14 months seems extreme. Nothin else would take this long

Read the archives! Yes yes it can everybody is different, and how your handling it! It can take up to 2 years!

Its becomin unbearable for me now. Im jus constantly causing arguments with my husband :-( i jus cant seem to catch a grip an move on