after a few years I met my boyfriend and obviously decided to go on the pill again and within weeks of taking the same pill I got the same feelings back so I immediately went to doctors to change it. Then a year ago things started to go really wrong and it severely affected my relationship and continues to. I started thinking of obserd situations with my boyfriend being with other people (females) and has caused us to be on constant eggshells and almost broke up a 7 year relationship. I had (and still have) relationship doubts that never existed before and hes done nothing to provoke anything.
my head feels that bad sometimes and constantly heavy. I try and block out thoughts but they can easily run away with me. Ive no interest in anything like I used to which is straining the relationship as im always too down to go anywhere.
All I can say is ive come off the pill now for about 2 months now and im just hoping things get better for me. Sick of feeling like a crazy woman and not doing things I used to. My period was 2 months late and just started one day so im hoping ive just hormonally unbalanced. I feel for my boyfriend as ive said all kinds of stuff which isnt like me.
There needs to be more awareness about the side effects of the pill and what damage it can do! Stay strong everyone x
I hope you are feeling better, it will just take time for your hormones to balance out. Be sure you're drinking lots of water and many girls on here and other sites have said taking a good B-complex vitamin really helps since the pill depletes your body of B vitamins (among others).
I have had the same relationship issues, my fiancee has been so supportive through all this but it's definitely stressed him out not knowing what to do or how to help. Talking about it helps, I know it's hard for guys to understand all the hormone stuff. Just remember
it's temporary and it will get better!
That's awful, I'm sorry that she's going through this! There are many forums like this one out there where all the post BC symptoms are discussed. I didn't want to go on antidepressants or anxiety meds (even though I did end up taking them briefly) so I went to a holistic dr. and had my hormone levels checked. Please encourage your daughter to read things on this site and another "Aphrodite Women's Health" under the "contraception" topic. There are tons of girls going through the same thing after stopping BC. I hope she starts feeling better soon!
Hi everyone!
Just adding my story to the pile, in case anyone still wants to claim it can't have anything to do with the pill... (Just google it, there are so many forums with women with the exact same symptoms! Maybe it only happens to those of us who are more sensitive to it but there really should be more research and warning!)
So I stopped birth control 5 months ago, I had just switched pills and forgotten to take the new ones in the third week, I decided to wait till I'd start the new pack, and suddenly I found myself having a panic attack. In a really quiet train. For no reason. The panic didn't really go away that entire day.
Desperate for a solution I went to the doctor, i need to take the train to get to uni so i couldn't afford the fear I now had for getting back in the train. the doctor prescribed anti-depressants. Not a good idea I might add, because while they do work for and are prescribed for panic disorders, they take 2-6 weeks to work and i needed to get into the train the next day! Also, they can make anxiety worse before they make it better!
At any rate, i took the first one, pushed myself in that train - you do not want to know what that looked like - and it was the last day before the weekend so I thought that would let me recover. I took the second pill, even though after the first one I was feeling so anxious I couldn't sleep. Well that was bad, really bad. I couldn't sleep. The next day I couldn't do anything but sit in bed vibrating with fear, unable to do anything, feeling like I'd rather jump off a bridge. I have social anxiety, and especially phone calls, but not that bad and I forced myself to call the doctor because I was terrified of myself. The doctor wasn't there, and the replacement was so startled by me she prescribed me a sedative.
With more effort than I have ever put into anything, I managed to get the prescription filled. My boyfriend had to convince me to take it though because I couldn't because I was too scared. It worked and i finally got some relieve. I even laughed a little. I had to take them for some days after before I felt secure enough to just take them when needed - when taking the train which had now become a fullblown phobia.
I managed to get to the end of the schoolyear. During the break I felt better until I didn't. One morning I woke up with just panic rushing through me. I eventually took something to make me feel calm again and while I felt calm I now felt down and worried. This continued for about a month, gradually getting better. Then school started. I kept pushing myself and pushing myself, sedating myself to be able to cope with the train, but it was always a push and there were days when it didn't work in time.
And then last week I had a complete breakdown. I woke up terrified again - hadn't in a while - and it wouldn't subside. None of the coping things worked. I ended up sedating myself again, even though I didn't want to. It helped. I felt much better. But the next morning I woke up the same way and this time taking the meds calmed me down, but I now felt really really really depressed. No words can describe how I felt, but despair is close. I stopped functioning. I stopped eating, I stopped taking care of myself, I barely managed to feed the cats. My boyfriend had to do everything and he said he'd already feared this would happen. I had just pushed too far too much. This went on all week. I saw my psychologist on Monday and she said I had to take a break from school. She wasn't sure if the depression was a sign of anxiety or a new one all together but I needed to calm down before any treatment. (I was there on her lunchbreak and hadn't stopped crying during the entire session.)
Tuesday was the first day I managed without a sedative but the depression is still there and it is terrifying. I am genuinely terrified of myself.
I just want to tell everyone experiencing symptomps, give yourself time to heal. Please. If there is any way to get rid of stresses do it, ecplain to people what is going on, don't push push push. It isn't worth your health.
I'm seeing her friday again and we'll see what she has to say, like many of you I am hesitant going on anti-depressants - especially after last time. But it is everyone's choice to make, just outweigh the possible side-effects against how you feel now and what you think you can do.
I mean, right now I think it's an accomplishment that I have gotten out of bed and gotten the mail. That is about all I can do now. So what side-effect is going to stop me from doing even that?
There are some natural ways to try if you want (there's a thread on aphroditewomenshealth in the forums you might want to check). Please take care of yourself. It isn't weak of you or selfish of you. Also don't be afraid to approach a psychologist for help, you can tell them you don't want to medicate unless there is no other way, you just have to find one willing to work with you and one you feel you can trust.
At this point, it hit me that something was WRONG. I have been to many doctors since,without taking anything except for ativan to sleep at night. The depression was a 10, and despite my beliefs and all my protective mechanisms, I began having suicidal ideation and just wishing desperately I would just go away. It was all just too painful. Finally, last month, out of desperation and worry that I would jump off a bridge, I went to an all-natural doctor I know through a family friend...had tests of hormones, neurotransmitters, heavy metals, etc. Turns out, MANY things are very, very wrong with me and my heart health is compromised due to the severe stress I have been under, including low serotonin, low progesterone, etc. It is costly and long, but I am getting better all naturally. For over two weeks, I have felt better and despite having that pressing feeling for two days, it was very slight and manageable. Things are finally looking up after six months. This is a huge problem that doctors reject and people blink at but it is REAL. This has been the worst time in my 26 years, and that is saying something.