i'm a 30 year old male and have just had sex with my virgin girlfriend yesterday. We had enough foreplay for about an hour before she couldn't hold herself any longer and told me to do it to her. She was all wet as i was too. However i could tell that throughout the session, she was struggling with the pain an often wanted me to stop. I knew i didn't insert all the way in as i could feel only the head of my penis went in. We didn't use any condom as both of us have mutual understanding that if things were to go wrong like she get pregnant, we would get married straight away.
Anyway, today i feel rather down and guilty with what i've done to her last night. Coz right after i climaxed, she cried so much because of the pain and at one time when i was hugging her while she was crying, she pushed my hand away. I went to wet a face towel and went to wipe her face, her tears and eventually helped her cleaned up in bed. Later i carried her like a baby to the bathroom where we bathed together. As she was washing her vagina, she cried because of the unbearable pain and throughout washing her vagina, i hugged her and rubbed her back while whispering to her ears that its ok and i'm there with her.
Later, i helped her get dressed and combed her hair. I gave her a good bear hug and told her that i'll be by her side forever.
As a man, i hope to have done the right thing to comfort my girlfriend throughout her 1st experience. Please tell me that i've done the right thing coz i'm feeling so guilty now. We share the same office at work and she wouldn't even look at me. Her sms were often long and there were love wishes everytime. But now she just sends me short sms telling that she's ok or she's fine.
So i'm calling all those guys who have been through this. What should I do? She's not talking to me nor telling me what's inside her mind? Ladies, please give me some insight please. Help me!
Anyway, today i feel rather down and guilty with what i've done to her last night. Coz right after i climaxed, she cried so much because of the pain and at one time when i was hugging her while she was crying, she pushed my hand away. I went to wet a face towel and went to wipe her face, her tears and eventually helped her cleaned up in bed. Later i carried her like a baby to the bathroom where we bathed together. As she was washing her vagina, she cried because of the unbearable pain and throughout washing her vagina, i hugged her and rubbed her back while whispering to her ears that its ok and i'm there with her.
Later, i helped her get dressed and combed her hair. I gave her a good bear hug and told her that i'll be by her side forever.
As a man, i hope to have done the right thing to comfort my girlfriend throughout her 1st experience. Please tell me that i've done the right thing coz i'm feeling so guilty now. We share the same office at work and she wouldn't even look at me. Her sms were often long and there were love wishes everytime. But now she just sends me short sms telling that she's ok or she's fine.
So i'm calling all those guys who have been through this. What should I do? She's not talking to me nor telling me what's inside her mind? Ladies, please give me some insight please. Help me!
did she know it was going to hurt???
its possible she feels embarrassed. try talking to her and telling her that everything she felt was normal and just because you've done it once it doesnt mean you have to do it again straight away.
have you tried asking her face to face whats wrong??? there could be something deeper going on.
i think you did everything right - did you ask her if she wanted to stop at all??? that may have helped.
have a chat with her about it and reassure her - i'm sure you'll be fine!
its possible she feels embarrassed. try talking to her and telling her that everything she felt was normal and just because you've done it once it doesnt mean you have to do it again straight away.
have you tried asking her face to face whats wrong??? there could be something deeper going on.
i think you did everything right - did you ask her if she wanted to stop at all??? that may have helped.
have a chat with her about it and reassure her - i'm sure you'll be fine!
When I was younger, I was raped. After the incident I could not bring myself to have sex with anyone else. Several years later I found myself in a relationship with a man I was madly in love with. When the topic of sex came up I just said I was a virgin and wasn't ready. A year into our relationship we had sex and I cried hysterically because I felt so dirty and so ashamed. He felt like a total jerk because of my reaction but about a week later he confronted me about it and I explained everything that I felt and ...my point in saying this is to tell you...it could be anything and you wont know if you dont ask
A "real man" is what I call you, mate! You assure your girlfriend that you will marry her if she gets pregnant and from your explanation I can see that you really love each other and are very committed. I had the same experience with my girlfriend. We are not formally engaged but we have agreed to get married someday. Like you, we are really committed and in love with each other. However, in our case, I talked a lot about sex with my girlfriend before we actually did it. We even had phone sex several times so she knew what to expect when the real thing was gonna happen. As a result, she responded positively and we had sex time and time again. Of course it also hurt when I took her virginity but it's something she expected and I was also with her all throughout to help her ease the pain.
I guess your girlfriend just needs to think it over. Maybe she's feeling guilty that she let that happen (if she's conservative, which I think she is because she has managed to stay virgin). Or maybe she feels bad that you hurt her (though not intentionally) physically (or maybe even emotionally) when you took her virginity. I'd say the best thing to do is talk about it. Bring her to a quiet, relaxing, and private place where you can talk to each other. Hold her close to you, look her in the eye and ask her to tell you everything she feels about what happened. Of course you should assure her that you would listen to her and not take what she thinks or feels against her so that she would tell you what she really thinks and feels.
You see mate, women just want to think things over a lot. And they would not tell you what they think if they don't see that you really want to know it. So show your woman that you care about what she feels and you want to make her feel better no matter what it takes.
Hope this helps and I sure hope you can solve your problem. Couples like you should end up being together forever. Cheers! :-)
I guess your girlfriend just needs to think it over. Maybe she's feeling guilty that she let that happen (if she's conservative, which I think she is because she has managed to stay virgin). Or maybe she feels bad that you hurt her (though not intentionally) physically (or maybe even emotionally) when you took her virginity. I'd say the best thing to do is talk about it. Bring her to a quiet, relaxing, and private place where you can talk to each other. Hold her close to you, look her in the eye and ask her to tell you everything she feels about what happened. Of course you should assure her that you would listen to her and not take what she thinks or feels against her so that she would tell you what she really thinks and feels.
You see mate, women just want to think things over a lot. And they would not tell you what they think if they don't see that you really want to know it. So show your woman that you care about what she feels and you want to make her feel better no matter what it takes.
Hope this helps and I sure hope you can solve your problem. Couples like you should end up being together forever. Cheers! :-)
She might just be unsure about what she is feeling and you did the right thing by comforting her so dont feel guilty, just be patient and give her time
xx hope this works out for you both xx
xx hope this works out for you both xx
maybe she feel guilty..as both of you had commit adultery..what will happen if you did not marry her after taking her virginity...thats bad dude having sex with someone else future wife..so what u can do get married as soon as possible..love her and take care of her wholeheartedly..
Invite her again for sex and try to make her so happy i guaranteed she will be reply long and long more then u need ....