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Alex

Hello. First, i want to start off saying I have already seen similar threads here but most of them seem very outdated and i didn't find any good solution & results. Here i am posting again.

I am 22 years old and i am having trouble trying to have intercourse with my girlfriend who is 21 years old. I am not a virgin but she is. I experienced 5 times when i was in high school. We have been dating for long time, 2 years without intercourse because she wanted to wait for long and when we started trying half year ago, every time turned into failure. We would grab drinks, leave a movie or TV on, make out for queit a while and i get condoms on and use lube for her. We tried various positions trying to insert. She does get little tense with her legs and thighs. I would end up rubbing my penis all around her vagina trying to insert and when my tip does go in, about a inch or so, i can't go in any deeper. After a while, she feels pain due to rubbing and poking even with lubes, we give up again. It just happened couple hours ago too. I honestly think that even when i finger her, i can't go deep enough, 1.5 inches at max and i can't seem to put more than one finger. I hit a wall and it seems there's no way around. Although i only have had very little experience with intercourse, can this be due to thing called thick hymen? I've searched around and found that some womens naturally have thick hymen that is hard to be penetrated. From googling, i've read that thick hymen can cause difficulties in inserting penis, tampons for virgins. My gf has never used a tampon. Should i ask her to try one out to see how it goes?

She and I have been very patient for long time and when we are finally ready, it is very frustrating. I really want it and so as my girlfriend.

Please help.

Thanks

Alex

Tashxo267616

Hi Alex.

I went through the same thing a couple days ago with my boyfriend. Thick hymens do exist and there also exist surgical procedures to get it removed. Some women aren't even born with hymens though. Other reasons why insertion might be difficult is because of her tension. When having sex, the woman has to be relaxed and completely ready. If she is nervous, or tense, it can make it harder. Insertion can also be difficult when the woman is not yet physically or mentally ready for sex, but that doesn't seem to be the case with you. 

Since she is a virgin, a probable reason why it also can't be inserted is because she is too tight. This was the problem with me. In this case, you just have to try harder and it will hurt her, but that's would be the only way. When me and my boyfriend did it, it took him about 20 minutes just to try to get it in but he pushed really hard and it finally went it. That's the only advice I can give. As for the tampon, I suggest she does it if there's no other way. She can try, but it might be harder for her since she might hesitate because of pain or might not want to put it in so hard. I say it's better for you to do it. 

I hope this helps and good luck !

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charlie


For goodness sake, see a doctor.
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Guest

Very common - I know people who took 1 month and I took 7 days 

 

Idea is to get her to relax - ensure that she is lubricated (by lubes or by licking - she will love it) and keep cuddling and trying and try try again - morning afternoon and night - and be sweet and understanding 

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Guest


HI Tashxo,
I having the same problem.
My wife is too tight. I took a look at her vagina. I could barely see any hole. I could only see the flesh of her hymne i guess. when i push harder she says i m hitting the walls i.e the bone and it hurts her a lot. after trying 10 to 15 times her vagina's sides started paining and she didnt wanted to have sex. she used to guide me where the vagina is and i push it there but she says its still hitting the wall. one problem i found is she is not able to spread her legs more. i have to press my penis downwards to align it with her vagina. please guide me to have intercourse with her.
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Guest

In reply to guest, , i have same problem with my wife also . Require tip to insert it once
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Guest

Super late..
But sounds like vaginismus. It's a condition where the pc muscles tense up and prevent penetration.

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MAWMC

Hi I'm joy, yes we did it with my partner and it really hurt for me as a girl, I'm hurting him while his trying to get inside me, I pulled his hair, pinch his shoulder and everything just to let of my feelings in hurting ↓ .he tried his best to slow inserting his on mine, it did but it's really hurt. it takes a minute but it's okay. I cried and all. The second time is, I said to him that I can't continue again because it feel dry ↓and it's really painful even its just a tip of his trying to insert me.. He understand me why we should stop doing it.. but I'm trying my best to make he feel OK. we just did it for the first time.
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Guest

Damn thats helpfullll
Charlie u r the most intelligent and helpful person/dumbass i have ever seen
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Guest

Hi I was also wondering about this as I have been dating my boyfriend for the past two years. We have decided to have sex in the last few months but I find myself getting very nervous and it Hurts a lot when we try to have sex. He also finds it hard finding my vagina and getting in. What can we do I how can it be overcome as we usual end up given up as it's hard on both me and him! Any help?
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Guest

Lubrication does help a lot. Make sure your penis is hard enough, u had a good foreplay and she is well aroused and ready.apply the lubricant to your as well as her part.now try inserting with her legs on ur shoulder so that you have good angle, u will go approx. 8cms inside. Apply a little pressure. Now keeping the penis in try kissing your partner, so tht her knees will come closer to her breast, while you keep the focus down on inserting and avoid any hasty moves. While trying this you will go an inch further and by the time you reach the lips you will be inside now apply little more pressure and you will be fully in
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Guest

It is normal for first few days and for some of them many days. I had same issue with my wife on our first night. We both are virgin at that time. After long foreplay, I tried to insert my erected penis, it couldn't go in and she said it is paining, After many attempts in different position, we convinced with 69, she drank my cumm and enjoyed. Next day, her friend advised her to give one day gap, then apply K-Y jelly inside, and have intercourse with condemn. 3rd day, i applied K-Y jelly inside, I was able to insert my erected penis with condemn all the way in, we had very long intercourse, even though she had pain but she didn't want me to stop. After few days with K-Y and Condemn, we want natural enjoyment, we decided to without anything, Ever since, our intercourse is so great and we enjoy almost every other day
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Guest

Yes at first it is real pain. My first sex was on the night of wedding. My hubby is about 2 feet taller than me, after long kissing etc. when he undressed him, I was shocked when I saw his long and thick erected penis, I rubbed for a while and asked him how this will go inside my tiny hole. He said I never tried, let's try. To give smoothness, I sucked for a minute. Then he tried slowly, I couldn't control pain. He removed and tried again. We tried many time. After 8 attempt his shaft went inside, We had very long intercourse when we both in climax he poured heavy juice inside.
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Guest

This is what I did on our first night, Due to pain, he had to pull many time. I remembered my friend's advice. I told him to rub my vagina to get thick juice, I ejaculated lot, he applied on his penis, then slowly inserted, by kissing all over face, I felt like some iron rod going in but I enjoyed. When it hit deep, I told him to start, he banged up and down long time, we both screamed lot, when he was in peak, screamed I am ready, I said go ahead, he increased speed and force and pumped heavy juice inside. Then we had 3 more long intercourse. I cannot forget my first night. "No Pain No Gain"
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Guest

Yes it is pain even after long break. My buddy and I have been married over 30 years. We didn't have sex for over 3 years for many reasons we never thought of it. Last Saturday night after dinner we started kissing etc. When I saw his erected penis, I told him, Wow it is really big and sexy, I want this inside my vagina. He kissed my vagina, licked and sucked for a while, I had many orgasm gave him lots of juice, he drank, he slowly inserted his wonderful penis, It pained me lot. When I expressed my pain, he pulled, after few minutes tried again. We tried about 7 times. Then finally I decided to control I told him don't take it out, keep moving, He inserted all the way deep inside slowly, then we had long intercourse, when he was in top of heaven, he unloaded lots of juice from 3 years savings. He rested on top of me with penis inside my vagina for long time. I slowly felt his penis getting erected again, I asked him one more time. He said, I will do until you are satisfied and we had 4 very long intercourse, 5th one I sucked and drank his sweet juice.

So pain or no pain, just enjoy the pleasure of intercourse. That's the only activities make couple very happy.
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