My neighbor passed away a few weeks ago, very suddenly in fact. She has 7 kids and several grands and greats.
Her passing was the Monday before Memorial Day. There was no service and she was directly buried with just immediate family present.
Her obit invited friends and family to a Memorial which was to be held at her church that Saturday.
Saturday afternoon, following the Memorial, everyone congregated at the deceased home for a get together, reception if you will.
It looked like an actual party. Volleyball nets were set up, beer kegs placed through out the yard, music was blairing and they even opened the pool. I walked over and gave her eldest son a sympathy card with a donation to her church. He invited me to have a drink and something to eat which i declined as i had things to do at home.
As it began to get dark, the fireworks started, actual fireworks!! The display went on for a good 45 minutes. Mind you, we had no had rain for a few weeks and it was very dry outside. We live a stones throw from them and our home is all wood. I got nervous that a fire would break out.
2 questions:
Am i wrong in thinking that this is an odd way of celebrating ones life after death?
Would i have been out of line asking them to shoot off the fireworks in a direction away from our home?
Everyone does things different, i know, but any funeral that i have attended is usually a bit different. A gathering at a restaurant or church hall, an informal gathering at someones home for dinner, etc.
What do you think?
Her passing was the Monday before Memorial Day. There was no service and she was directly buried with just immediate family present.
Her obit invited friends and family to a Memorial which was to be held at her church that Saturday.
Saturday afternoon, following the Memorial, everyone congregated at the deceased home for a get together, reception if you will.
It looked like an actual party. Volleyball nets were set up, beer kegs placed through out the yard, music was blairing and they even opened the pool. I walked over and gave her eldest son a sympathy card with a donation to her church. He invited me to have a drink and something to eat which i declined as i had things to do at home.
As it began to get dark, the fireworks started, actual fireworks!! The display went on for a good 45 minutes. Mind you, we had no had rain for a few weeks and it was very dry outside. We live a stones throw from them and our home is all wood. I got nervous that a fire would break out.
2 questions:
Am i wrong in thinking that this is an odd way of celebrating ones life after death?
Would i have been out of line asking them to shoot off the fireworks in a direction away from our home?
Everyone does things different, i know, but any funeral that i have attended is usually a bit different. A gathering at a restaurant or church hall, an informal gathering at someones home for dinner, etc.
What do you think?
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That sounds like a lovely way to go to be honest. Although I guess I grew up with a different sort of background in the first place. Where was her family from? In my culture, it's very common to celebrate death as a passing. I think that it's just another way to see someone off.
I don't think you would have been too out of line to ask them to aim the fireworks away from your home, although you also could hose down the roof with water to help keep your house from burning down if you were worried about offending them.
I don't think you would have been too out of line to ask them to aim the fireworks away from your home, although you also could hose down the roof with water to help keep your house from burning down if you were worried about offending them.
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Well everybody has his way of saying last goodbye. And if they think this is the way, then it is fine. I think that we need to respect every bodies opinion and believes.
But if you had any concerns about the fireworks, then you should asked them to shot in other direction. This is just a measure of protection. And you should even feel bad for this. You should asked them nicely and I'm sure that they would continue to shot fireworks in other direction.
But if you had any concerns about the fireworks, then you should asked them to shot in other direction. This is just a measure of protection. And you should even feel bad for this. You should asked them nicely and I'm sure that they would continue to shot fireworks in other direction.
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