how many days will a vagina stay loose after being fingered??important and serious.

There will be NO "looseness" as a vagina is ALL muscle! The only time there can be SOME loosening up of the vagina is RIGHT after a birth or mulitple births! I hope this helps you!

what about if insertation of a large penis is involved?

if its your first time of being fingered, which im guessing it is, it doesnt really get any 'looser'. but once youve had sex it will become easier each time as you wont be as tight :-)

As long as there is a condom and lubrication, like jessica stated, it wil painful, but that is from the hymen breaking not the vagina itself! Remember vaginas are made for 7 - 8lb babies with an average of 14 inch heads! o.O So no worries there! If the womens first time is with a man with a bigger girth than normal, tenderness and care NEEDS to be taken so nothing tares! and ALWAYS use a condom! NEVER go without one!

its not me.im trying to find out if my wife cheated on me.sorry for the run around.

I know this sounds contrite, but have you asked her? There is NO way to find out if she has cheated from her vagina! UNLESS she gets an STI/STD! So did all she say was that this guy fingered her? I for one still consider this cheating!! I don't know how you feel about that, but that is a line in the sand as far as I'm concerned! It's all about trust honey! IF you don't trust her, OR your "spidey sense" - what I call that GUT instinct! Then you DONT trust her, and you have to decide wether this marriage can continue with a LOT of hard work! I've been there honey, so I don't envy you right now! Actually the EXACT same thing happend!!! :'( If you get my drift!? And my husband and I seperated for several months, and it has taken a LONG time for me to get over it! I don't think you ever get over it persay, you just move on - ESPECIALLY if children are involved - like there was for me! So it makes the decision a little easier - in some ways - if that makes sense?! It was as though it wasn't ME swallowing my pride and broken heart, it was ME that HAD to do this for the betterment of the family! So I could still carry my head high, that I didn't crumble under my own rules for marriage - does that make sense? If you ever need to talk I'm usually on here OK? Good luck honey! And ALWAYS keep your cool OK?

thank you bambi27,i know its still cheating,but i love her so much,i dont think i can leave her.she told me what happened and she promised me that they did not have accual sex,i just needed to find info about that for myself.i just became an over the road truck driver and i think thats why she may have started but never finished.she wants to forget that whole night and she asked me to forget and forgive also.i forgive her,she said it was a mistake and it will never happen again,but it may take me awhile to forget about it,i even cry a little when i think about it,yes i'm a guy that admits his sensitive side come out often,i think being on the road and away from my wife,is bringing that out of me.well thank you again and i want to keep chatting if thats ok.

Hell honey! Why should you cry over this betrayal!? DAMN rights she should know JUST how much she devestated you! I describe it like this - before my husband did what your wife did, I used to think of him as a complex jigsaw puzzle - and when he announced it it's as though someone came by and destroyed my puzzle!!! I was DESPERATE to put the pieces back as quickly as possible - kind of like fixing a nest! He originally told me he slept with her, so I grilled him ( and it sounds like you grilled her) for ALL the dirty little things that happened - which in itself is SOUL DESTROYING!!! I don't know why people whom have been cheated on find the need to WANT every little dirty detail! So when it came out that it wasn't actuall sex I was originally like "Oh OK GOOD" THEN ALL the dirt came out! And I was DEVESTATED! Because it was still intimate! ALSO I have to be truthful on her and especially to someone like yourself - I was MADDER that he did it to me first!! He was such a you know what to me for well over a year! And I thought about cheating on HIM ALL the time! So when HE told me that he beat me to the post! Does that make sense to you? There is NO reason why it is acceptable for someone to cheat! When Tiger Woods dirt came out, people said "But she's GORGEOUS and SEXY!" I'm like "SO!!!!!!!!!?" Who cares if she has 3 heads and a limp!!!!!? It is still his partner and the mother of his children, that he promised to cherish and be faithful too! IT doesn't matter WHAT you look like, WHAT job you have, etc, etc, IT's about NARCISSM!!! PURE and simple! It's about cessationin THEIR NEEDS!!! With no thought otherwise! So it's them that HAVE to grovel and they HAVE to know just how much you are devestated and have had your soul destroyed! i wrote a journal - to get ALL my HORRIBLE thoughts out! I evenutlaly let him read it, he was in tears,! Because I could NOT say the words to him - I didn't want to give him more power! So perhaps write to your wife and tell her that this is IT!

I can forgive a one night stand or 1 slip up! Especially if there is drinking involved! BUT after they know you are devestated and then do it again that IS the END!!!

thank you bambi27,i dont think i have to write a letter because i told her everything on how i felt about the situation.ohhh,i'm happy right now,it's raining here in arkansas and it's washing all the salt off my truck for FREE.haha,anyway,i don't believe that she will do anything with anyone again,i'll just have to trust her on that.i even said to her that she does not have to worry about me cheating on her while i'm on the road because i told her "i don't want anyone else but her",even though when we did have sex in my truck for the first time,and at other times,i kinda was imagining have sex with my "stepdauther",don't worry,my stepdaugher is 28 yrs old,she was 18 when i met my wife.i think thats why i was always worried she would cheat on me.im 38 yrs old and she's 49,but she looks my age,and very beautiful.i think thats why so many other guys are attracted to her and don't care if she's married to someone,because guys are thoughtless.i must me different,and i'm glad i am.last night was very fun talking to my wife,we had phone sex,soon we're gonna get computer cams so we can see each other while i'm on the road.well thank you for the info,and write to you soon.

Actually I DON'T need to know your sexual details OK?! I'm NOT like that in the least! There are others on here that would gladly listen and give back information I'm NOT! As usual I always go for the emotional part, and thought you were on the same wave length! So hopefully someone else can take my place further with this! Good luck and health!

i'm sorry about that,i got carried away i think,i'v never been on these kinds of site before,and i'll make sure i don't detail myself like that again.i usually go on facebook because my friends and wife are on that.when i finally got a laptop for being on the road,the funny thing is,when i set up my facebook account at 3:00 in the morning,my wife said she all of a woke up at that time and went to her computer and went on facebook.she saw i had an account and added me as a friend right away,which i found weird she woke up and just thought of going on her computer.i guess we are connected and are right for each other.well,hope to write to you again.

i was thinking the same thing, me and my girlfriend are 14 hours away and she sends me pictures, the first couple were constricted then a couple days ago she sent me one and it looked loose.. how do i get the thought out of my head that it was because she cheated on me..

You imagine having sex with your stepdaughter? That is disturbing. I could never date or marry anyone who sexually fantasized about my child regardless of their age.

ask her if she finger herself coz they do that sometimes