im gay can anyone give me advice about how to tell people?
Many people find it difficult to "come out" to friends and family. But they are very surprised when their family and friends tell them that they've known for a while or that they suspected for some time.
As a result, I'm not sure that there's a right way to tell people, but I'm going to defer to an expert. Have you been in touch with your local Gal Liberation chapter, or the local GBLT support center? I feel certain that they will have some advice and a support group for you.
Good luck.
First decide if you need to.