I am pregnant but I am not quite sure who the father is of my unborn child.

Yes I went to my doctor Thursday and he estimated that I'm about 5 weeks along

So your doctor probably assessed from your cycle data. As I said before, your likely fertility window was 13th-18th May. 10th May was before that time, but the weekend is right in the middle of it. I would guess that if you had sex with your ex during that same time, then he is the most likely father. When you have a scan, you may have more precise information. But really, only a paternity test would actually determine who the father is.

No I don't see my ex on the weekends..I only see him Monday thru Thursday and spend weekends with my new bf..but the relationship is so new that I'm not sure that I can even call it serious or exclusive so this has got me very confused and worried..thank you for your help though was much needed

I'm more and more leaning towards your ex. But take care. If your relationship is not even "serious", then why continue with the 'bonding' activity of sexual intercourse? Especially as it can have 'serious' consequences!

Pleased to help. If you want to talk more, just ask.

Look I'm aware what I've done is wrong but I really don't need anymore judgement please and thank you not trying to be rude it's just I already am dealing with enough on my conscience..one other thing that very much so concerns me and I should have mentioned it before is that my ex is a marine and was diagnosed as impotent 2 yrs ago..so when I say I'm unsure of who the father is I really quite am I know these things are quite commonly proven wrong but I just don't know..thank you for all your help and getting back to me in such a timely manner much appreciated

No judgements at all! I simply was just reaching out to see if you possibly wanted to share your story as we are currently casting women in similar predicaments for a new show. If you are interested, you can contact me. If not, no worries at all. :)

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I was not making judgements at all, just responding to what you said to help you with your concerns and raising a question, and leaving it open for further talk if you wish - especially as you said you were 'worried and confused'. Talking things through and seeing other aspects, perhaps in a different light, can help deal with problems.

I assume you mean your ex was diagnosed as infertile rather than impotent (as he can get an erection and ejaculate), but I know a woman who was told she could never have any children, and she now has four! As I said before "When you have a scan, you may have more precise information. But really, only a paternity test would actually determine who the father is".

Whatever it is that comes under the area of "what I've done is wrong" needs addressing (sooner rather than later) to deal with your troubled conscience ("dealing with enough on my conscience"). You can't change the past, but you can make certain changes for the future. It won't be easy, but worthwhile in the end.

Take care

I concieved somewhere between 6th of June to the 14th of june on the 4th and 5th i had sex with my boyfriend and then on the 12th i had sex with him again and the 13th i had sex with two people my boyfriend and an ex. Is there anyway of knowing who the father is??? Please help!!

I am currently 5 weeks pregnant i just had a dating scan on wednesday.

Not from only the information you provided.

1. How did you determine the time when you conceived?
2. By 'conceived' to you mean date of fetilisation or of implantation?
3. What dates did your last two periods start?
4. What date did you expect your June period to start?
5. How long is your cycle usually (typically 28 days)?
6. Which, if any, of the sex episodes protected?
7. Which of the occasions of sex resulted in ejaculation inside you?

So what date have you been given for the birth?

I started to have sex with this one particular man once around the beginning of November last year but after I had sex with the guy I'm with now since then but still not sure who the dad is! And honestly unsure when my last period was but my due dates August 12 can you please help me out ??

From the due date of 12th August it would seem that it is most likely that sex during the 6 days 15th to 20th November led to your pregnancy.

I'm in the same position. I started my last period on June 19-24. I had sex with a friend randomly after a night of drinking on the 25 or 26 of June. But I also had sex with my boyfriend on July 8. My friend and I used a condom but me and my boyfriend don't, we used the pull out method. My conception calculator says I would have conceived on the 3rd of July which is 7 days after my friend and I had sex, but 5 days before my boyfriend and I had sex. Knowing that sperm lasts up to 5 days I'm not sure if I started ovulating sooner or not. I'm on a 26/27 day cycle. I just found out that I am 4 weeks and 3 days pregnant (according to the 1 day of my last period). I'm not sure who the father could be. I'm leaning towards my boyfriend but I absolutely have no idea

If your 'conception calculator' says conception (?fertilisation?) on 3rd July, it would appear to be working on a 28-day cycle, not 26 or 27. Working on a 26-day cycle, I would estimate ovulation to have occurred on 1st July, and your fertile days would be 26th June to 1st July. July 8th would be a week later, but it is possible to ovulate a week late (or even miss a cycle), especially if there are stressful circumstances.

Conception calculators (you didn't specify which one you use) are often unreliable. What data have you fed into the calculator?

Can you say what the start dates of your periods have been this year?

Anytime you have sex there is a risk of pregnancy following.

Have you actually taken a pregnancy test? Have you seen your doctor/gynae?

I hope this helps as a start.