I am pregnant but I am not quite sure who the father is of my unborn child.

moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

So how are you getting on with your boyfriend? What does he think about your pregnancy?

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Emily Echegaray352129 over a year ago

We're doin okay he wants me to move with him to Tallahassee he's getting a house &I when he's mad at me he says I hope u found out who's the dad he think it isn't his cause at the point of time we wasn't together :(

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Becca2578 over a year ago

Same boat! I've had sex with my ex on July 28/29 while I was drinking then I had sex with another guy July 31-Aug 2 at this weekend party. My period was due the day before yesterday (Aug 13) so I decided to buy a pregnancy test - and I'm pregnant. I googled conception calculator, due dates, ovulation calendar and it only gives me this 7 day window when I had sex with both men and I already told my ex who wants to be there for me and I don't think I will ever tell the "other guy" because he's young. There is prenatal paternity tests but they're $1700 unless I wait until the baby is born and buy the $300 one but the thought that I'm 24 with a 3 year old whom his father has never been in the picture and with a baby on the way not knowing who the real father is - I'm quite scared and don't know what to do. Last year I had an abortion after this party with my friends brother and I cant go through that again my heart was broken. Abortion is not MY answer for this baby but to go through another pregnancy alone is scary.. I will get a DNA test but is it worth it to let my ex stay with me although it might not be his or just go through another pregnancy alone?

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

Hi Emily

A DNA test would be conclusive.

He needs to realise that the moment of fertilisation can be up to six days after sperm has reached the fallopian tubes where it waits for an egg to be released.

Why does he get mad at you? It doesn't sound like a good basis for a long-term relationship. While it is helpful to have someone to support you through pregnancy, going it alone is better that having someone who is going to be confronting you with negativity and slurs and put-downs. Please be careful.

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

If you period were due 13th August, then you likely ovulated 30th July, giving a fertile 'window' of 25th - 30th July. Also it is likely that, provided the sperm were healthy, the sperm from the earlier ejaculation would have been first to greet the released egg.

It is good you have recognised some the problems abortion causes, and publicising your experience might help others.

The choice of going it alone or 'letting' you ex 'stay' with you is one you will have to decide. I don't know all the circumstances.

'Letting him stay' doesn't sound much like a commitment; more like a concession. He sounds like someone who wants to take some responsibility, so why not make the ultimate commitment, and put an end to your casual affairs?

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Emily Echegaray352129 over a year ago

Thank u for ur help a lot I appreciate and yes I understand I think I'm gunna go head and make that move and move in with him he's getting the house for us he wants to be with me and I understand about him with the negatively ugh I hate it though

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

Pleased to help.

Why not talk about his negativity with him. Try to understand why he gives such negativity, but try to get him to understand the awful impact it has on you. He wants to be 'with' you, but he needs to be 'for' you also. You need to be for each other. Wanting to be 'with' someone can be merely selfishness. Wanting to be 'for' someone is a mark of unselfishness.

If you are going to move in with him, why not marry him? That is the real mark of commitment.

Hope all goes well for you.

Take care.

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Guest over a year ago

Hi it's me again..first off I need to apologize for my rudeness before just been very very overwhelmed and emotional but that's no excuse for my snappiness so I apologize for my oversensitivity and rudeness..anyways I was actually off on my dates upon further digging..the first day of my last period was actually June 2nd not May 2nd and my periods usually last no more than 4 or 5 days total..my doctor did an ultrasound this week and estimated me at 9 weeks and 1 day pregnant which is odd because I thought they usually counted the first day of your last period but it looks like they only counted from the date of conception..my due date is March 23rd..so I'm still very unsure whether the baby is my exes or my current partners child..my doctor estimated my date of conception at around June 16th and I had seen my ex that day and my bd that very weekend so I'm very unsure..my ex is aware that the child may or may not be his but given our closeness has assured me that regardless of what the results are he will remain involved and love the child he loves both my sons dearly and they are very attached to him as far as my current bf goes I broke things off with him I just feel this is the time to focus on my sons myself and this child and take the Dna test in the end and whatever happens happens though he has also assured me he wishes to remain involved with the child and I have been updating him as well..I'm just so confused and worried given the closeness with all these dates and will be so happy once I can put this behind me and focus my attention on this child's needs and care..

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

Hi Emily
That’s OK. I understand.
If your period started June 2nd, then a 28-day cycle would indicate ovulation (and therefore fertilisation) probably occurred 16th June. That would normally give an estimated delivery date of 9th March 2017. However, if conception did occur 16th June, then fertile days would be 11th – 16th June. Those days’ activities would be crucial.
From what you have said, moving to Tennessee does not sound the best option; your ex sounds the more honourable.

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Emily Echegaray352129 over a year ago

No wrong mesg my period started on May 25 my boyfriend came inside me on the 4th of June I think u got me mixed up with someone else Hun

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Emily Echegaray352129 over a year ago

No wrong mesg my period started on May 25 my boyfriend came inside me on the 4th of June I think u got me mixed up with someone else Hun

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

So sorry Emily. That's one problem we have with trying to help different people with similar circumstances. Here a Guest replied to my response to you. I therefore assumed it was you, and you hadn't signed in! So apologies again.

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

The "Hi it's me again" has misled me. You posted a 'reply' to my reply to someone else (Emily), and I then replied assuming it was her. So if you want a considered response, you need to identify exactly which situation you are referring to. There are a number of different people with similar circumstances. A name (or pseudonym) would help maintain the association.

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Guest over a year ago

I started my period on July 23/24 and my cycle is 30/31 days. I had sex with BF1 on July 31st and August 1st. I had sex with my BF2 on August 13th and 14th. Who is more likely to be the father?

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

On the basis of the data given, all four dates appear to be non-fertile days.
Today is only 31 days since 24th July, so why do you think you might be pregnant?

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