I Can't feel ejaculation

Actually, that might be slightly backwards: you may not feel anything because you have a low sex-drive, which itself may be because - unlike most teens/twenties - you may not be quite the rowdy young man Hollywood would have us all believe we should be.

There's a whole bunch of questions here, that you may wish to consider, some of which might seem a bit pointless, new age, or touchy feely, but bear with me:

1. You say 'should be' - how do you know?

- Are you measuring against, film, porn, your mates, your partner (m or f), or your own masturbation?

2. Intercourse is a subtle act, despite the Rambo style porn out there.

- every person is different

- despite the common perception that 'tight' is good, it's what feels good, is good, and that might be any number of things:

- physical, emotional, situational, psychological

3. If sex is bland, why bother? Worse, if you're bothering, to not upset your partner, what's in it for you?

- you're absolutely right, sex can be a stairway to heaven, for some people, but then so can religion, charity work,
scoring a touhdown, or whatever

- if it isn't, for you, then it isn't

4. Watch 'Everything you always wanted to know about sex' - Woody Allen

- the scene with the wife that is frigid, until they discover that she gets her hots doing it in public places

- if you've ever had thrilling, mind exploding, genitals exploding sex, then you've found that trigger

- if you haven't, then maybe it isn't such a big deal for you, or maybe you just haven't found the trigger

5. Sex is emotional.

- you say 'my partner and I'

- if you really wanted sex, it would be a big issue for you

- the way you say it, makes it sound more of an issue for your partner

- if you 'love' him/her, but they don't turn you on, that isn't wrong about you, or them, either or both of you, but it is just so

6. Sex is psychological

- if you get majorly turned on by the idea of sex, or by your partner, to the tune of rip their clothes off, or is it just a thing?

- if it's rip your clothes off, but only the ejaculation, orgasm that is weak, that's another issue

- it's a catch 22, if you're not focused on what's happening to your penis, you're not goin to notice when the sensations build

- if you focus, measure, monitor your penis, that's hardly a turn on either

- orgasm is a form of feedback cycle - stimulation, noticing the stimulation, appreciating it, which feeds back because the more you notice how good it feels, the more your genitals respond, and the better it feels ...

- kill the loop with disinterest, distraction, or just not being there, and you can have an entire cheerleader team there to no effect

7. Bottom line, I'd go with your first statement:

- you're a 24yr old male, in great health.

- you can explore all you like, emotionally, physically, psychologically, and you'll learn more about yourself

- self-knowledge is both a tool, and a passion, that is another feedback loop, driving your life forward

- honour yourself, honour your partner, and honour your relationship, and that includes not forcing any of those into a mould


Hint: I'm old enough to have experienced just about every possible range of orgasm in myself, and in my partner, and I can tell you among other things, that there are some people that you can't turn off, and some you can't turn on, and most of us live somewhere in the middle. More to the point, there are many reasons to be with someone, and sexual compatibility, while important, is only one aspect.

Last thought: if you make this an issue, or make a mountain out of it, this will kill your passion, on top of whatever else you may discover or decide. You might try to have a chat with your partner (and yourself) along these lines:

'you know, I think we've both noticed that I'm not exactly a fire hydrant waiting to explode, and you know what, thinking back, it's never been a big deal for me, but I do enjoy what we do together, and I do enjoy the pleasure that you take from it, even if we're different.'

And be prepared to assert your own identity: mismatched is not wrong, until it's wrong to be mismatched. A partner saying 'I want you to come with me' to prove that you're 'together' is just adding pressure. We're all built differently. Appreciate it an dwork with it.

Take care,

Andrew

Did you ever get an answer on this question? I have the same problem, not sensation at all when I ejaculate...

I know the feeling, bland and boring you're not turned on any more but you're not satisfied either? I'm 20 and in pretty good shape aswell (gay) don't think that really changes much I just feel there should be something more then just ohh finish after the build up I've had good ones before but that was a couple of years ago now.

I am in the same position as you (except I am 21).. but I haven't ever really had a pleasurable ejaculation. I have something called a varicocele and I thought that was the problem, but since an op., apparently not. I am never really turned on anymore. No one seems to know anything

what an idiotic statement that guy with all the points gave. my lack of feeling is caused by a brain injury and it is awful. i cna't get erections except through manual stimulation and then i cant feel anything except the contractions when i orgasm. it sucks.

mine feel like you lightly stretched for a partial moment

You really didn't "hear" or solve anything for this guy- are you a Doctor? If not- and I doubt that you are , why don't you refrain from giving advice about something you don't know about

Are any of you circumcised? I seen one of you "guest" said something about contractions. If you are referring to the penis pumping seman. But feel no pleasure or great sense of relief. Then yes there is something wrong. Only thing I could consider is nurve endings being cut in the process of circumcision. So please leave comment if you are circumcised or uncircumcised. Thank you please do say if you are or are not.

Yes, I don't think he really picked up what the question really was. It's about how ejaculation feels during intercourse, compared to how it usually feels when we masturbate; For me, sometimes I feel it, and, sometimes not so much, kind of like it just stops coming in the middle of it. But, I think it's ok, you only need a small amount inside to impregnate a woman.

All this answer is wrong there is a medical term for it get off these sites and see your doctor

The person who answered this question did not understand the question.

He said that he doesn't feel anything and you rambled on with a bunch of BS.