So I'm 15 (16 in 2 months) and am in year 11 (British schooling system). I have a group of friends at school, most of whom I'm not really close to and sometimes find myself uncomfortable around them. I mean they are all lovely people, they don't pressure me, mock me, upset me ect. However I just don't feel comfortable with them, I feel somewhat awkward. I have another group of friends whom I sometimes sit with at lunch ect. but I sometimes feel uncomfortable with these people too. I have a close friend who I spend much of my time with outside of school who is in this group however when in this group situation I often feel less close to her. It is difficult to see her out of school often as she lives far away from my house. None of these people are in any of my lessons. This has made me have to make new friends however I have only made friends in a few classes and even then I sometimes feel awkward with them. When I get home from school I am alone as my father works through the evening till night. I used to always invite my friend over when my dad went to work. She was my closest friend. However, as we go to different schools it is difficult to see her. This did not used to be a problem however now I feel she would rather spend time after school with her group of school friends who do drugs and go out a lot, then come see me at my house with just the two of us. I expect this is because they are more exciting than I am. I have tried to go with her and join her group of friends however, as you may guess by now, I am not good at making friends or being confident in groups of people. So as I can not join her group, we have not met up in months.
I am lonely.
Any suggestions on how to make friends or anything related.
Hi..
i think you are underestimating your self too much. everybody doesn't feel the same way as you do but you are not the only one dear. everyone has a different characteristic so do you, its fine you are not really good at making friends try to be with those people with whom you are comfortable . this is not some kind of problem in you its just you are not being yourself with those groups you have.
when i was in school i had same kind of situation i had a group and everybody was nice but i never thought i fitted in till now i don't!! going to a new school is always challenging as i always found it hard to make friends . even though i had made some good friends now everybody is busy in their life and i feel i am the only one who has got this feeling of having no one.
my point is.. accept the way you are what if you could not make friends there in school !! you will have good friends in life when you move on i am sure of that. for now despite of feeling lonely try to find what YOU are what you like to do what you dislike. what are the things you want to do which makes you happy.
having friends and surrounded by people is not everybody's life. at some point of time you feel you are alone and that is the time we should realize how weak we are without a support. once you know how to live with yourself you will never feel lonely . be positive about everything you do everything you see and you will feel happy from inside :)
hope it will make you feel better. you have a friend here now so feel free to talk :)