i have this lump/skintag/squshy thing below my ashole is that normal
That could be Hemroid.
Hemorrhoids are swollen veins in the anal canal. This common problem can be painful, but it's usually not serious.
Normally, tissue inside the anus fills with blood to help control bowel movements. If you strain or sit on the toilet a long time to move stool, the increased pressure causes the veins in this tissue to swell and stretch. This can cause hemorrhoids.
Diarrhea or constipation also may lead to straining and can increase pressure on veins in the anal canal.