i'm not proud to say this but, most people my age think i have had sex. i was feeling left out when my girlfriends talked about their experiences, and now a guy who i have been serious with thinks i have as well. lately we've been talking about getting intimate, he's 20 and i'm 18 and has had sex numerous times, but i'm afriad that if i sleep with him and i still have a hymen he'll know that i lied, and i dont want that. i dont know if i have broken it or not, thinking back on some of the ways they say it can be broken i dont ever remember bleeding, i just dont want to lose him over my crappy self esteem. but then if i didn't break it and it hurts he'll know somethings not right. he sees everything i'm feeling, he's...well he's really perfect, if i show signs of pain he's gonna know, cpuld i use a vibrator or dildo to know if it's broken and maybe make it easier to worm through this lie i've created. and if it can how long does it need to be? please someone i need advice, i need options. anything to make this easier on both of us. thanks.
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Hi there,
There is nothing wrong in being a virgin If this fella really likes you then there is no problem.I would not go about doing it yourself.Just talk to him and tell him how you feel i say he will be cool about it.Even if your friends have being havin sex dont you feel left ou. When your ready you do it,and dont let anyone force you into it.
P.s If you are going to have sex always use protection.
Hope this helped you a bit.
Good Luck.
There is nothing wrong in being a virgin If this fella really likes you then there is no problem.I would not go about doing it yourself.Just talk to him and tell him how you feel i say he will be cool about it.Even if your friends have being havin sex dont you feel left ou. When your ready you do it,and dont let anyone force you into it.
P.s If you are going to have sex always use protection.
Hope this helped you a bit.
Good Luck.
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yea just like gem said he will understand. if he is indeed the "one" there will be no problem. just tell him the truth and hope for the best good luck
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Hey I'm 24, and I would just be psyched to find a virgin! All you have to do is tell him you are a virgin, and that you lied bc you thought it would make you look good if you told him your werent one. I promise you that he wont break up with you or anything like that. If anything, he will feel bad bc he didnt make you feel comfortable enough around him to tell him the truth. I promise you everything will be just fine. Good luck.
Nick
Nick
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you wont believe it, but the same situation happened to me!... what everyone else says might be true, but despite what everyone told me, i was very determined to break my hymen. i wanted to have painless sex and i didnt want my partner to know that i had lied about being a virign. (i had tried to have sex before, but after the penis entered once or twice it hurt too bad and i asked my partner to stop) i wasnt quite sure if i was still a virgin but i really wanted to have sex!! i didnt know how to get a dildo without anyone knowing but after looking through the house i found a brush in which i could use the large handle as a dildo. i put a condom over it and inserted it, hoping it would berak the hymen. i still wasnt sure if i had broke my it, but the next time i had sex i was much more comfortable and the pain was not as bad. try masturbating! it seemed to have worked for me!
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The same thing happend to me too but i told him the truth.. he's more careful about how " rough " he is with me.. and its not gotten serious, but he understood and is fine..
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Dont worry! If he is the one he will understand!
I have just recently been through the same experience and told him the truth, and he was fine, he even said he would go gentle and stop if i was in too much pain!
We have been closer ever since.
I have just recently been through the same experience and told him the truth, and he was fine, he even said he would go gentle and stop if i was in too much pain!
We have been closer ever since.
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I am going through the same thing. I am 22 and have had oral, but never went all the way to penetration. I broke my hymen with my vibrator, it did hurt and bleed a little, but everything with my partner was so much better.
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"Twisting and Turning, you're feeling the burning...Your're Breaking the Girl" Red Hot Chili Peppers
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