I am 23 he is 23 we have been together for a little over 4 years and married for only one year. I only want one child but he says he's not ready and then when he says he is I get excited and then he crushes my spirits saying he's not I just don't know what to do I actually want a child with this person so him saying this really hurts.  Im trying not to cry and be strong but it's hard sometimes... I've actually really thought about this a lot and I know what kind of work goes into having a child because I've babysat all through my teenage years with up to 5 children at a time I just don't know how to cope with this.