My husband has been a heavy pot smoker for at least 10 years. We are finally ready to start a family and he has said that he will quit. He has said this a lot and got rid of his pieces, etc, but keeps coming up with something and some excuse to smoke again. He says he's serious and he'll quit soon. I tell him I'm worried because I think it's going to be harder than he thinks it will be. He says, "I quit smoking cigarettes, I can quit this," but I don't think it will be that easy

. He smokes when he wakes up - he doesn't ever eat anything until he's smoked, he smokes before work, after work, probably sometimes during work...before class (he's almost done with college after being in and out for 10 years), before bed, anytime...all the time! When he hasn't smoked I can tell because he's irrationally grumpy and is almost immediately in a better mood once he's smoked. He gets super defensive if I ask him if he's in a bad mood because he hasn't smoked yet...

I have a degree in psychology and this all seems like an addiction to me. The problem is that I've never really dealt with addiction, especially this close to home, and I'm not sure how I can help. I've told him I'll do whatever I can to help him but I don't want to be too hard on him or too soft...I don't want to enable and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I could really use some advice from anyone that has ever been anywhere close to the shoes that I'm in.

 

Thanks in advance!

 

Peace & love!